Type of IGNORANT IDIOTS I can't stand

[sahara storm]

My ex has some of my things, we've been apart since July. I called him and arranged to pick up my things (a space heater, about 15 cd's). Not much but I wanted my stuff back, since the GIFTS that I got him, a $260 siut, probably gave him about $800 in cash, countless "dates" to the movies, dinner, harbor, etc. seemed like more than enough. The only reason I footed the bill for everything is because he was in school. Okay, so i arranged to pick up my stuff, this fool handed me one cd. ONE. Told me the heater was at his cousins. I looked at him like he was dumb, and walked away This was last month. So I was pretty much going to chalk it up as a loss, but yesterday, I called because I was in his neighborhood and wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. I called, and we got into it, I told him, "you are the most pathetic excuse for a human being walking the face of the earth, you call yourself a man, you're nothing but a leech. I'll do you a favor, KEEP the heater, KEEP the cd's you probably need them more than I do." nad hung up on him. He called me back, I told him not to call my phone anymore. This fool called me back, and told me not to call his phone anymore. So I got young and ignorant and called his house about 40 times, and hanging up, or saying things like, "Having fun roasting marshmallows in front of my heater?" haha.

Now, the bad thing about this is, he claims to be a "militant" he's so righteous and consious. The reason he quit me was because he claimed I was holding him back from finding himself. Okay...
You're 26 years old. You live with your daddy from whom you steal money. You don't work, and use school as an excuse for doing such. No license, no car, no home, no money, no health insurance... You're militant? A MAN, a MILITANT MIND with any dignity would be doing something about that.

I'm 22 years old. Work full time at a state agency, taking care of myself and my son. Going to school at night. Poetic open-minded, creative and living for my child and myself. I'm holding you back?

I beg to differ.

[goodcookinmama]

and in all of this where is there a man in this topic .all that i hear a bout is a little kid living with his mama. and you taking care of him money wise and other wise
and your asking whats wrong .girl please open your eyes. you are your own problem
here cause you are paying for it . and as long as he knows that you are going to take care of every thing he will remain the same a big azzz kid with you and his mama

Originally Posted by goodcookinmama

and in all of this where is there a man in this topic .all that i hear a bout is a little kid living with his mama. and you taking care of him money wise and other wise
and your asking whats wrong .girl please open your eyes. you are your own problem
here cause you are paying for it . and as long as he knows that you are going to take care of every thing he will remain the same a big azzz kid with you and his mama

sorry i miss read the story nix what i said

[charliekilothree]

Originally Posted by sahara storm

My ex has some of my things, we've been apart since July. I called him and arranged to pick up my things (a space heater, about 15 cd's). Not much but I wanted my stuff back, since the GIFTS that I got him, a $260 siut, probably gave him about $800 in cash, countless "dates" to the movies, dinner, harbor, etc. seemed like more than enough. The only reason I footed the bill for everything is because he was in school. Okay, so i arranged to pick up my stuff, this fool handed me one cd. ONE. Told me the heater was at his cousins. I looked at him like he was dumb, and walked away This was last month. So I was pretty much going to chalk it up as a loss, but yesterday, I called because I was in his neighborhood and wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. I called, and we got into it, I told him, "you are the most pathetic excuse for a human being walking the face of the earth, you call yourself a man, you're nothing but a leech. I'll do you a favor, KEEP the heater, KEEP the cd's you probably need them more than I do." nad hung up on him. He called me back, I told him not to call my phone anymore. This fool called me back, and told me not to call his phone anymore. So I got young and ignorant and called his house about 40 times, and hanging up, or saying things like, "Having fun roasting marshmallows in front of my heater?" haha.

Now, the bad thing about this is, he claims to be a "militant" he's so righteous and consious. The reason he quit me was because he claimed I was holding him back from finding himself. Okay...
You're 26 years old. You live with your daddy from whom you steal money. You don't work, and use school as an excuse for doing such. No license, no car, no home, no money, no health insurance... You're militant? A MAN, a MILITANT MIND with any dignity would be doing something about that.

I'm 22 years old. Work full time at a state agency, taking care of myself and my son. Going to school at night. Poetic open-minded, creative and living for my child and myself. I'm holding you back?

I beg to differ.

I hope that you don't fall for that again. You were hoodwinked, bamboozled and ran bent over by this person.

[urfan2c]

Uhm please let that crap go u went back for, seems like you wanted a reason to be in touch. He's a LOSER!! And hopefully you'll choose your company more wisely. Learn from this and don't repeat it.

[trinigirl]

My sis Sahara, he was sent into your life for a reason and a specific season and you were in his for a reason and season too. Learn from this situation, Why? What was he to teach you about yourself. Sis you seem independant, strong, focussed and I am sure there are other traits that you posess that may overwhelm others. In the same way there may be some that may need minor or even major adjustments such as patience, etc etc You would know.
My sis i am sorry you had to go through such a situation though i know you would be stronger when things clear up.
I need to humbly ask you though 'that in our haste to stem our pain sometimes we forget' Please do not destroy the brother , he is not living to his truest potential right now but i am sure that with and from experiences through sis. like yourself he would be ressurrected to the God that he is.
As sisters we need to be patient with our men.. Even if we are not with them in an intimate relationship.
Sis I love you and your honest spirit.
May you be blessed with strength peace and hope in this time.
peace

[sahara storm]

I think I did want a reason to keep in touch with him, so I asked for my stuff. I haven't talked to him since then, nor do I plan on ever talking to him again. But the thing I have a problem with is: He criticized me for whatever when he had absolutely no right to. I mean, who are you to tell me I'm counterproductive, and expect me to be okay with that when you have so much baggage? It's not cool, and I'm always the one to stick by someone through thick, thin, ups, downs...whatever. Its when you try to tear me down that I speak my mind. To each his own, if he wanted to steal from his father, okay, that has nothing to do with me. No job, nothing to do with me. But you attack my character, THEN we have problems. So I wilded him out and felt satisfied with that.

I am happy that I got to spend what time I did with him, in a relationship. He is a very intelligent, free-thinking person, but claimed to be something he wasn't and tried to rip me. If we could've continued to be friends, I would've happily done so, but the way he broke it off, accusing me of basically putting a hold on his life, when he only had himself to blame for that, remaining friends was not possible. I was like, seriously in love with this dude (I was since I was 12), and it showed. But he still had no right to blame me for his own eff ups.

[HoOdPrInCe]

Originally Posted by sahara storm

So I got young and ignorant and called his house about 40 times, and hanging up, or saying things like, "Having fun roasting marshmallows in front of my heater?" haha.

*diessssssssssssssssss* U aiighttt!!!

Originally Posted by sahara storm

I think I did want a reason to keep in touch with him, so I asked for my stuff. I haven't talked to him since then, nor do I plan on ever talking to him again. But the thing I have a problem with is: He criticized me for whatever when he had absolutely no right to. I mean, who are you to tell me I'm counterproductive, and expect me to be okay with that when you have so much baggage? It's not cool, and I'm always the one to stick by someone through thick, thin, ups, downs...whatever. Its when you try to tear me down that I speak my mind. To each his own, if he wanted to steal from his father, okay, that has nothing to do with me. No job, nothing to do with me. But you attack my character, THEN we have problems. So I wilded him out and felt satisfied with that.

I am happy that I got to spend what time I did with him, in a relationship. He is a very intelligent, free-thinking person, but claimed to be something he wasn't and tried to rip me. If we could've continued to be friends, I would've happily done so, but the way he broke it off, accusing me of basically putting a hold on his life, when he only had himself to blame for that, remaining friends was not possible. I was like, seriously in love with this dude (I was since I was 12), and it showed. But he still had no right to blame me for his own eff ups.

Seriously...set all jokes aside...U did what u had to do...and I know u know now on!