self hate

Originally Posted by ghetto_star

with reguards to mixedfolks.com, The subject of race makes everyone get an uneasy feeling. That will explain the war like atmosphere of the place. The webmaster of mixedfolks may complain about issues that mixed people have but I seem to have a hard time understanding what the true issues are besides the teasing and name calling which just about every light skinned black person goes thru growing up, hell I went through it, I'm a man now I dont care about it mostly because it was just playful teasing, not body was actually picking on me and if they tried it I had two hands and two feet and the matter was taken care off.
Things of that nature are childish things that should be put away when you become an adult aren't something you should bitch about when your turning 30 or past it.

word that is my biggest thing with them, they are cryin and screamin over everything if you even say a persons race there is an issue. Or if you have some begative feelings what so ever towards anyone your messed up.

[African Princess]

i am what people would call a mullatto. My mom is Black(South African) and dad white (German). I dont use that term.I just call myself mixed...what is so hard about that? Through my years i have struggled with my identity and became worse when i entered a black varsity. I was accused of trying to steal their men coz of my hair,accent and light skin. At times I have felt like an outsider and only really felt at home with friends who are from mixed marriges. I was once taking a walk and two girls behind me started to argue whether i was black or white!!!..one was convinced that i was white coz of the softeness of my hair while the other stated that my skin colour was not light enough!!That truly made me sad and for while i hated myself...i had wished i was either 100% black or 100% white...i used to ask myself.."What am i?" "where do i belong?"....People have classified me as black when it suited them and as white when the arugement would arise whether im German or South African. A friend of mine used to say that i get things coz i have a "white daddy" and that she wished she had a white daddy...

Most of us mixed people struggle with our identity and place in society. I have never denied my African roots or my German roots. So, my take on life is that i am privileged to be mixed coz i have the best of both worlds!! I am proud of this fact and guess what...no one can ever accuse of being racist!!!!...coz then that would be just plain stupid!!!!

[RealTalk3000]

self hate is a problem in the black community, ever since the days of slavery. During slavery light skinned blacks always thought they were better than their dark skinned blacks, its always that way.Even today light skinned blacks seem to be more popular than dark skinned black people.When someone looks is looking for a girl or boy for a date they always go for some light skinned boy or girl, they were always popular in school and proms etc.Black people always made color a issue among themselves because of the mentality this country has casted upon them.I was always teased because of my dark complexion. I was always considered "ugly" because of my dark skin.i never was the popular type all my life but as I got older the same people who thought they were all that try to be my friend and pretend they know me now.But I go the other way because I cant forget the past sometimes.Black people are doing exactly what they whtie man has done to them over 300 years which is hatred among the dark. which is sad.thats why the black community is torn apart .and wont come together and help each other out because of self hate

sounds like you are expressing some self hate as well. it is easy to assume that all light skinned blacks always thought they were better than dark skin blacks. But here is where you didnt make the connection. What you say about current times that light skinned blacks are more popular could have applied to slavery too. You say they thought they were better when they were really not in much of a position to do that on the scale that you suggest. They were slaves to, many were placed on pedastles by their master now you cant say that they were not slaves or working in the fields cause many were. So what you have done is carried on that self hate by saying that they put themselves above darker blacks when it was master that elevated them and so the masses fall into that trap by heeding the extra value that master put on certain slaves. Like you say it is a popularity thing, but turning the hatred or saying that the hatred is being perpetrated because of light skinned blacks is just some more self hate. Using terms like all and always will almost certainly get you in trouble from an argument stand point.