Blacks & The Asians

[MadameX]

Originally Posted by onelove917

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One look in the face often speaks worlds. Many of these guys would be in deep if they showed up at the wrong Country/Western bar.

True. There's no way that they'll be able to pull one over on a racist redneck. They'll definitely get their n*gga wake up call with the quickness.

[MadameX]

Originally Posted by onelove917

Many light mixed people who list themselves as white aren't always as white as they wish they were ?

When you see this situation take place, you can't help but laugh. Because the more they try to pass, the more obvious it becomes that they're trying to pass while being overly self conscious. And what so funny about is that they sure aren't fooling us or the powers that be. Talk about tragic comedy.

[Voluptuous Miss]

Originally Posted by afrocentric

i could tell you somethings about them but i'll keep that to myself.

asians have always been curious about the AAs. no matter how pretty we are or what we do they show this attitude when they come around us. i heard one asian woman ask a sista why her butt was so big. i thought that was rude but at the same time i just think that they are curious about our culture. would you think?

The woman that does my nails is vietnamese and African-American. She grew up with her mother in Vietnam, she has asian mannerisms, she's very pale, but let me tell ya'll...she's got the hair of a true sista. Her hair is real kinky and she has never learned how to manage it.
Now, I do my own hair and it is long and natural, no weave, no chemicals nothin (Thanx to my Native American daddy). Some days it's curly some days it's straight. She marvels when she sees how versatile my hair is. She asks me questions about hair care, and I don't mind answering them because she knows nothing about her African American side, which is sad to me. What is also sad is the fact that her "pure vietnamese" cousins and friends in the shop hate on her. Now that her hair is under control I'm trying to get her to embrace her more curvaceous shape. Who wants to be shaped like a ruler anyway...let them hate.

[Ofentse]

A law was recently passed in South Africa, that recognises people of Asian decent born in SA as black. Personally this disturbs for a number of reasons:
1.How many blackenese do we have, I know a lot of African desendants who were born in China and yet they are still black.
2. During Apartheid the Chinese lived in better developed areas, went to better schools, held better jobs and now they benefit from AA like the rest of us and not just that, but they are by law, black, not just African coz they were born here, which I am still having trouble digesting, but fine we'll give them that, but NO, they are black.

This is my big gripe, say a company is selling off it's shares to previously disadvantaged people, how many black South Africans can actually afford them, not a lot we may be able to buy 2 maybe 5 shares at say a thousand bucks each, now a Chinese man with his own businesses will be able to buy how many. Some of our kids are still being taught in mud schools with no proper toilets & water. Now you tell me if these kids have access to a PC, what am I talking about how about books, no they don't. Now how are they to compete with other races for jobs, a chance at a scholarship when they don't even have food to eat.

A white friend of mine (yes I've got white friends) asked me when AA will be enough, when we could compete for work on merit and I said to him that already I got my job coz, I studied my behind off, but that is not the point. The point in my view I said that AA will be out when for every 1 white person who holds a certain skill, 5 black people have to hold the same skill and maybe we can base things purely on merit.

[afrocentric]

. Now that her hair is under control I'm trying to get her to embrace her more curvaceous shape. Who wants to be shaped like a ruler anyway...let them hate

girl you aint lying about the ruler figure. they are skinny as hell! lol....

What is also sad is the fact that her "pure vietnamese" cousins and friends in the shop hate on her.

forgive me if i'm off topic but reading this part took me back to when i was in high school and there was this pretty girl who was asian and black.... (this is a confusing story so bear with me).... she didn't have nappy hair like most sistas. she just had straight hair like the asians but she had curves like you mentioned. young brothers would line up trying to holla at her while the sistas was hating and plotting to fight her. she didn't know what to do....she couldn't hang around the asians kids either because of her dark skin and her curves. so basically, she didn't know where she belonged so she hung by herself. i felt sorry for her. she ended up switching schools and found some new friends to hang with. so i guess everything was turning out okay for her.

the point of the story....its hard being yourself when you're being hated on by your own kind just because of your beauty.

[Voluptuous Miss]

....... You hit the nail on the head with that one gurl

[Samoon]

"She asks me questions about hair care, and I don't mind answering them because she knows nothing about her African American side."

Seems to me that your friend has had YEARS to learn about her "other culture" (Black) as well as embrace it. Sounds more self-hating to me.

[afrocentric]

oh, i forgot to ask vol...how old is she? that could help me determine how long she've had to find out about her other side.

so i agree with samoon. either the father or the mother is responsible in telling her about both her heritage.

let me tell you a little story about my uncle and his korean daughter..

my cousins father is a vetern. he served in the vietnam war. while he was there he impregnanted one of the korean ladies. he stayed/lived with her until it was time to come back to the US. 18 or 21 yrs later my uncle gets a call from the RED CROSS telling them that he has a daughter that's from korean and wants to talk to him. he claimed that he was shocked but his wife...my cousin's mother...wasn't. she was pissed as hell.

his korean daughter came to stay with him for 3 months. she came over to my house a couple of times to visit the rest of the family. i'm gonna be honest with ya. i didn't like her. she seemed up to no good. my intuitions proved me right.. while she was staying with him and us and the rest of my family she started blaming him/us for not knowing her or being there....like we knew of his fertility.

the way i understood it, her mother's family made her mother give up her daughter to the foster care because she was getting darker. her asian family didn't want no black kids in their family. because of that she held that grudge against my uncle, her father, for not being there. her mother didn't tell her about him until she turned 21 yrs old. so, what was he susposed to do?

well on the flip side,.....while being around us, she started showing her n(e)gro side. she started stealing from our homes and making certain family members fight each other and then she started telling lies. i couldn't take anymore. the bytch had to go. 3 or 4 months with her was a disaster. and i think my uncle had gotten the picture after all the complaining he had to endure from us. he sent her back to new york first thing smoking the next morning.

after she left we had a family meeting. he apologized to his wife and family for keeping it in the closet and not being honest about it. most of us forgave him ,too...i mean, whats the point of getting mad at him. he was in the war, deep in the jungles, horney as hell. somebody had to do something...

and you know what?.... after all this, he havent talk to or heard from her. but his other daughters talk to her a lot. they are getting ready to see her for the reunion. looks like i'll be getting my boxing gloves ready. stay tuned..

[sephari]

Originally Posted by afrocentric

oh, i forgot to ask vol...how old is she? that could help me determine how long she've had to find out about her other side.

so i agree with samoon. either the father or the mother is responsible in telling her about both her heritage.

let me tell you a little story about my uncle and his korean daughter..

my cousins father is a vetern. he served in the vietnam war. while he was there he impregnanted one of the korean ladies. he stayed/lived with her until it was time to come back to the US. 18 or 21 yrs later my uncle gets a call from the RED CROSS telling them that he has a daughter that's from korean and wants to talk to him. he claimed that he was shocked but his wife...my cousin's mother...wasn't. she was pissed as hell.

his korean daughter came to stay with him for 3 months. she came over to my house a couple of times to visit the rest of the family. i'm gonna be honest with ya. i didn't like her. she seemed up to no good. my intuitions proved me right.. while she was staying with him and us and the rest of my family she started blaming him/us for not knowing her or being there....like we knew of his fertility.

the way i understood it, her mother's family made her mother give up her daughter to the foster care because she was getting darker. her asian family didn't want no black kids in their family. because of that she held that grudge against my uncle, her father, for not being there. her mother didn't tell her about him until she turned 21 yrs old. so, what was he susposed to do?

well on the flip side,.....while being around us, she started showing her n(e)gro side. she started stealing from our homes and making certain family members fight each other and then she started telling lies. i couldn't take anymore. the bytch had to go. 3 or 4 months with her was a disaster. and i think my uncle had gotten the picture after all the complaining he had to endure from us. he sent her back to new york first thing smoking the next morning.

after she left we had a family meeting. he apologized to his wife and family for keeping it in the closet and not being honest about it. most of us forgave him ,too...i mean, whats the point of getting mad at him. he was in the war, deep in the jungles, horney as hell. somebody had to do something...

and you know what?.... after all this, he havent talk to or heard from her. but his other daughters talk to her a lot. they are getting ready to see her for the reunion. looks like i'll be getting my boxing gloves ready. stay tuned..

hopefully they schooled her a bit i mean ya'll rejected her because of the way she acted not because she was different (like some other people). and i would suggest that you try to work on forgiveness - she is blood after all.

[afrocentric]

Originally Posted by sephari

hopefully they schooled her a bit i mean ya'll rejected her because of the way she acted not because she was different (like some other people). and i would suggest that you try to work on forgiveness - she is blood after all.

ahhh, excuse you,....correction on the bolded text.....HE rejected her.,....not the rest us...

HELLO,!.....we was trying to work with her, you know like,.... welcome her in the family since it was a VERY SHORT SURPISED NOTICE.

oh, and HELLO!....it was HER FATHER that kept her and her mother in the closet for all those years. he didn't tell his wife anything about his affair. HE acted like nothing happen.

i'm gonna put it like this. blood or not, i don't have to deal with grudges or attitudes of any family members. to get respect, you have to give respect.....thats how i feel and thats the way it is.... bottomline! 2 fingers up and i'm outta here..