am i just a jealous person? - AfroChat - African American

Lady_Jai · December 19th, 2006, 09:52 PM

Right now my emotions are all over the place. I've been developing, slowly, a relationship with this one guy for about 7 months. We live about 30 mins away from eachother and he stuck with me while i was going through some tough spots but as of now i ham a bit supicious. theres this girl that he associates with thats got me kinda heated, about a month ago he was bugging me about me seeing other guys and now he's associating with her as if i'm not in the picture i'm worried but more over angry than anything else i sent him very angry messages, and couldn't even speak to him cause i was so upset. i am still furious and can't even confront him i don't know maybe i am just a very jealous or have a legit reason to dump him.

RaInEdomThoughtz · December 19th, 2006, 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Lady_Jai

Right now my emotions are all over the place. I've been developing, slowly, a relationship with this one guy for about 7 months. We live about 30 mins away from eachother and he stuck with me while i was going through some tough spots but as of now i ham a bit supicious. theres this girl that he associates with thats got me kinda heated, about a month ago he was bugging me about me seeing other guys and now he's associating with her as if i'm not in the picture i'm worried but more over angry than anything else i sent him very angry messages, and couldn't even speak to him cause i was so upset. i am still furious and can't even confront him i don't know maybe i am just a very jealous or have a legit reason to dump him.

Yes you seem to be a little jealous. It may also be your intuition. I suggest you get your feelings in check--so that you wont be too emotional, unrational and "all over the place" and talk to him. I dont know the whole story, but based on what you're saying it seems like he just may have a female friend--which is not a legit reason to "dump him". I say talk to your man first--and try to find out the extent of their relationship--then determine if you can deal with his relationship with this female and go from there.

jamesfrmphilly · December 19th, 2006, 11:39 PM

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Originally Posted by RaInEdomThoughtz

talk to him

be surprised what you might find...........

soulfulempress · December 20th, 2006, 03:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Lady_Jai

Right now my emotions are all over the place. I've been developing, slowly, a relationship with this one guy for about 7 months. We live about 30 mins away from eachother and he stuck with me while i was going through some tough spots but as of now i ham a bit supicious. theres this girl that he associates with thats got me kinda heated, about a month ago he was bugging me about me seeing other guys and now he's associating with her as if i'm not in the picture i'm worried but more over angry than anything else i sent him very angry messages, and couldn't even speak to him cause i was so upset. i am still furious and can't even confront him i don't know maybe i am just a very jealous or have a legit reason to dump him.

I agree with the previous posts that you should talk to him to get a better understanding. However..listen very carefully to his response. Also dont completely write off, your suspicious feelings. It has been my experience that they are there for a reason and usually are right. But please go into the conversation with a clear head so that you dont regret what you say and how you react. I hope things work out for you. :)

December 20th, 2006, 10:37 AM

I have to agree with the advice to talk to your man. Good communication is crucial in any relationship so you need to do that before going off half cocked and making irrational decisions.

goodcookinmama · December 20th, 2006, 12:33 PM

jamesfrmphilly said it best talk to him and get an understanding on the matter
an understanding is the best thing in the world

Proudbrothaman · December 20th, 2006, 01:26 PM

I agree with everyone also but I would like to add that you might have some anger issues. Maybe I missed something but I didn't read anything that constitued the amount of anger you have.

Corals · December 20th, 2006, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Lady_Jai

theres this girl that he associates with thats got me kinda heated, about a month ago he was bugging me about me seeing other guys and now he's associating with her as if i'm not in the picture i'm worried but more over angry than anything else i sent him very angry messages, and couldn't even speak to him cause i was so upset. i am still furious and can't even confront him i don't know maybe i am just a very jealous or have a legit reason to dump him.

If I was him, then I would view this type of behaviour as very childish and immature. Definitely not the type of person I would want around me.

soulfulempress · December 20th, 2006, 03:17 PM

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If I was him, then I would view this type of behaviour as very childish and immature. Definitely not the type of person I would want around me.

If you in fact see that type of behavior as childish, then his demands for her not to have male friends would be just as childish....i doubt lady jai has given us the full extent of why she is so angry. But lets not jump to conclusions or label anyone unless we have an accuarate understanding of the situation

Corals · December 20th, 2006, 03:24 PM

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Originally Posted by soulfulempress

If you in fact see that type of behavior as childish, then his demands for her not to have male friends would be just as childish....i doubt lady jai has given us the full extent of why she is so angry. But lets not jump to conclusions or label anyone unless we have an accuarate understanding of the situation

Lady Jai poised a question and gave us information. I based my conclusion of the information provided. That is all we can do.

Is that OK with you??