Assumptions - AfroChat - African American

Proudbrothaman · September 7th, 2006, 10:13 AM

Everybody is victimized by assumptions everyday; as a matter of fact I just assumed that statement. If it’s one thing that burns me, it’s assuming things about me. I firmly stand by my idea that if I don’t know you I don’t assume anything. It’s one personal one that bothers me the most;” because I’m from the ghetto that means that I am ghetto”. What are some of the assumptions that people have about you that really bother you?

September 7th, 2006, 10:42 AM

This assumption does not bother me, but it gets old. Fast. Just because I have dreads does not mean I am Jamaican or Rasta, Imma Dread, that's it. Born in GA. As I said, I have nothin' against Jamaican's (I have a few Jamaican family members n' I'll be going there for X-mas (finally!)) but when white folk come up to you every other day askin' 'bout Jamaica and everyone you meet sooner or later asks if your Jamaican you get a bit tired of it. Do I look Jamaican or speak with a heavy accent? Naw, I know for sure I don't have an accent. I've never stayed in a place long enough to pick up one. I've ran into many folks rockin' the 'fro in my short lifetime but have never assumed they were black because of it.

For other assumptions that kill me you can view the first 2-3 pages of "Take The Rat Out The Hood" in "The Vent". Now that ish right there...those are the assumptions that really kill me.

MzKwietStorm · September 7th, 2006, 12:37 PM

Every since high school, I was seen as a geek or a nerd. So in college I decided to get a tongue piercing just so people could see me differently and of course, because I had the piercing everyone ASSUMED that I gave oral sex because I had it. That's the only assumption that I know of, that's been made about me.

September 7th, 2006, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by MzKwietStorm

Every since high school, I was seen as a geek or a nerd. So in college I decided to get a tongue piercing just so people could see me differently and of course, because I had the piercing everyone ASSUMED that I gave oral sex because I had it. That's the only assumption that I know of, that's been made about me.

That's another one that I overlooked Storm. People assume that if you have a certain accessory (for lack of another word) that you must do or be this. You got a tounge ring then you givin' head to every dude who passes, you got glasses (such as myself), then your a genius. It doesn't get anymore small-minded than that.

Sumyr · September 7th, 2006, 01:05 PM

The only one that really bothers me is that most guys automatically assume that I am "high maintenance" or that their money will win their way to my heart.

Most guys I meet tell me that I could get their whole paycheck or that they would give me the world. A guy that has been trying to get with me for the past year always comes on to me with lines like, I love to go shopping, I love to eat at nice restaurants, I love to this and I love to that...... I'm like yeah, right as what guy likes to go shopping??? I mean, really. He even said that he has saved up $7,000 so far this year. Why are you telling me how much money you have saved?!?!?!?

One guy told me he would give me the world. I said you know what I am sooooo tired of this. So, I said okay give me $500. He said, huh? I said you heard me give me $500. He literally broke out into a sweet and started stuttering and bantering on about how he is always taken advantage of blah, blah, blah........ I said so how in the hell can you give me the world when you can't even give me $500?!?!?! I have never said another word to him since.

My take on this type of behavior is if you have to use money to gain leverage in a relationship then you are lacking in some area or over compensating for something. No amount of money will makeup for whatever it is you lack because sooner or later the money "will" run out and whatever is absent "will" come to the light. :wink:

Gorilla · September 7th, 2006, 03:02 PM

Because I'm tall I play basketball. I've told more people to piss off after the whole "you should" routine than I can count.

Samoon · September 7th, 2006, 06:25 PM

(munching my rice cakes) "Ooh, you're tall for a female." WTH....so imagine what my four inch stiletto's do for me...they are so silly! I get SO tired of hearing this. Good genes, gaddangit!

The Dragon · September 8th, 2006, 12:26 AM

That I'm stuck up just because I stay to myself. It takes me awhile to get comfortable with someone so I keep a safe distance until I feel it is safe to open up. But I am deffinitely not "stuck up."

September 8th, 2006, 01:28 AM

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Originally Posted by The Dragon

That I'm stuck up just because I stay to myself. It takes me awhile to get comfortable with someone so I keep a safe distance until I feel it is safe to open up. But I am deffinitely not "stuck up."

I get that one too Dragon, though not nearly as much as I did in school. People tell me upon first meeting me that they either thought I was stuck up or had an attitude problem. I actually hear a lot now that people meet me and assume that I am mean. And it is because I tend to be quiet and stay to myself when meeting new people. That's only a defense mechanism from yrs of being smacked in the face by fake ayzz mofos. When I'm in a social situation I am uncomfortable until I get a feel for what's up and then before you know it I'm clowning. But I'm not mean- not usually- and I'm certainly not stuck up or have an attitude.

Samoon · September 12th, 2006, 03:46 PM

@ Dragon and Ran-Ran"

Please allow me to share with both of you something that was given to me. You are both RIGHT in being cautious in forming friendships. You have to be that observer--FIRST, and then move forward from there so to speak.

It goes like this and it's "bible" for me and I share with my own friends:

"If you have a friend, keep her so but let her not your secrets know. For if your friend becomes your FOE, all the world your secrets will know."

Wise words, Sistas. Be well. :)