how whould you feel if one of your best friends

[goodcookinmama]

Originally Posted by Teddybear2764

LEAVE IT AT THAT SHE WILL NEED YOU ONE DAY, WHEN THAT DAY COMES REMIND HER OF HOW YOU FELT WHEN SHE WASN'T THEIR FOR YOU.

thats about the way its, going to be

[goodcookinmama]

and its still like that well she came to my house months later but i guess she saw the look in my eyes so the stay was not long an i dont call her at all when she came over i was waiting for her to say some thing but she never did so i left it at that it still hurts but i felt like you were not there in my most sorrowful time so i dont need you now
i really do miss her but i cant forgive her not for this an no explanation at all nothing
oh yea she comes down here to see old friends or visit her fam but not to my house anymore i guess she was never really my true friend and yes she still talks to my ex i guess she cared more for him then me well i say good riddance to bad rubbish i think they are seeing each other an i say they deserve each other every thing that was said about her when we was teenangers was true now i see why her momma put her out an talked about her like that but we never saw any of it man did she have me fooled i wonder how long they were messing aound and right inmy face talk about being a fool i feel so stupid but not because ofwhat they are doing but because i did not see it but i am glad that they are out of my life its so much better

[Big Trap]

Originally Posted by goodcookinmama

and its still like that well she came to my house months later but i guess she saw the look in my eyes so the stay was not long an i dont call her at all when she came over i was waiting for her to say some thing but she never did so i left it at that it still hurts but i felt like you were not there in my most sorrowful time so i dont need you now
i really do miss her but i cant forgive her not for this an no explanation at all nothing
oh yea she comes down here to see old friends or visit her fam but not to my house anymore i guess she was never really my true friend and yes she still talks to my ex i guess she cared more for him then me well i say good riddance to bad rubbish i think they are seeing each other an i say they deserve each other every thing that was said about her when we was teenangers was true now i see why her momma put her out an talked about her like that but we never saw any of it man did she have me fooled i wonder how long they were messing aound and right inmy face talk about being a fool i feel so stupid but not because ofwhat they are doing but because i did not see it but i am glad that they are out of my life its so much better

I'm sorry for lost. But I have to say, you don't sound 'glad'. No one should be glad to lose one of their close friends. From my perspective I see the mis-communication btwn you and her ruining something you believed was a good friendship. If you're the better person then act accordingly and talk to her and let her know how you felt. Let her explain herself and move past this. As far as funerals, I for one try to stay away from them. I have been to one within the last year. Some people are more sensitive to the negative energy ppl give out at funerals than others. That ex good friend of yours might of simply felt useless to you and not understood how just being there meant to you. Can you explain to her how her presence could have helped you out at the time? Being the better person can be a burden, but you must been chosen for a reason.

[Samoon]

Originally Posted by goodcookinmama

did not come to your mamas funeral

i will just leave it at that i got a call from her after she found out but nothing else i am pissed at her i have been there for this girl many a times this hurt and from hurt to anger please tell me how whould you handle this matter we go way back and i just dont understand it every one asking where was she
thats how close we are at least i thought so

I feel you. And strange that this should come up as a good friend of mine held her mother's funeral yesterday. Well in advance, I knew that I could not make it so I asked one of my sisters to step in for me. I also spoke directly to her, flowers sent to her home, etc.

As it turned out, several members of my family did attend. And late yesterday evening, I made sure to stop by her home.

You are right. FRIENDS are priceless. I have few---but I TREASURE them and try to support them.

[Curious1]

and yes she still talks to my ex i guess she cared more for him then me well i say good riddance to bad rubbish i think they are seeing each other an i say they deserve each other every thing that was said about her when we was teenangers was true now i see why her momma put her out an talked about her like that but we never saw any of it man did she have me fooled i wonder how long they were messing aound and right inmy face talk about being a fool i feel so stupid but not because ofwhat they are doing but because i did not see it but i am glad that they are out of my life its so much better

Uh-oh...where did this come from...let me go back and read all of this from the beginning...

I missed the leap to this...

NTway...yes...that is hard to forgive..but maybe talk to each other if time hasn't passed so long ago...

How do you even know she is talking still to your ex...talking to your ex and seeing and sexin' you r ex...seems like a stretch...but let me go back..I KNOW I missed something...

[goodcookinmama]

Originally Posted by Curious1

Uh-oh...where did this come from...let me go back and read all of this from the beginning...

I missed the leap to this...

NTway...yes...that is hard to forgive..but maybe talk to each other if time hasn't passed so long ago...

How do you even know she is talking still to your ex...talking to your ex and seeing and sexin' you r ex...seems like a stretch...but let me go back..I KNOW I missed something...

WELL WE ALL KNOW EVERY ONE HERE SO WORD GETS AROUND FAST AN SHE AN I DONT TALK AT ALL ANY MORE AN FUUTHER MORE I DONT HAVE TO STRETCH A DAMM THING IT IS WHAT IT IS WE AS ME AN MY FAM KNEW WHAT HER FAM WAS SAYING BUT BACK THEN WE WAS SO TIGHT THAT ME AN MY MOMMA WAS LIKE WELL SHE NOT LIKE THAT AROUND US SO MY MOMMA TOOK HER IN AS A DAUGHTER WE WAS LIKE SISTERS BUT I DO KNOW THAT SHE WAS SNEAKIE BUT I DID NOT THINK THAT SHE WHOULD EVER DO ANY THING LIKE THAT TO ME BUT OH WELL IT A REASON SHE DID NOT MAKE TO TO MY FUTURE SHE IS A PART OF THE PAST

[Curious1]

I don't know why you felt the need to curse in explaining this..

i understand English very well...and actually was empathizing with your situation..

As always on the net..the intent of a response can be misconstued as apparently happened here...

The "stretch" I was referring to had NOTHING to do with your situation being a stretch...I know this is a real thing..I mean,come on,your talking about your mother's passing..who would not believe that...I'm not a callous person..trust that...

The stretch I am referring to..is the TONE of that section..where it read, she talks to your ex...in some regions to "talk to someone" means they are "like" dating or sexing somebody...

Thats what I meant, trying to make a distinction which context the "talking to" was meaning....from the tone of that last section it seemed to me, on my end, that you were insinuating that they were say.."more than just friends with the talking to" example..

I took your mentioning their "talking to each" as more of an example on how she has totally ignored you since your mom's passing for some unknown reason..but yet and still she keeps in direct contact with your ex...and not you ..eventhough ya'll were childhood ,almost like sister, close from way back...these others she is choosing to still communicate with..are nothing more than people she met thru you...yet she is ignoring you...and then the "WHY?".....

I said I missed something and I probably read more into it than was intended based upon what people down here mean by "talking to" someone..usually is intimate like friends with benefits..down in the circles I deal with here...maybe not so much means that in the region where you live

I apologize deeply and humanly for the misunderstanding..but I am not sorry because it was an honest and innocent perception of that section of your posts..and never was personal...so hopefully you didn't take it personal..for that I would be sorry...But a reading comprehension issue,naw..I apologize for perceiving that incorrecttly..

Again..not much into cursing people...just not my style..when not warranted..and saying a curse word back to you...is not necessary and would be uncalled for...I have nothing against you nor feel this misunderstanding needs me to curse you back...at all....

I wish you well and my belated condolences for the passing of your mother..Losing a "mom" figure is one of my greatest personal fears and sadness I think I would ever face...As to the former friend...I do agree..let her be your past..as much as it may hurt..But,personally, for me..I go by the old adage...Some people come into your life for a SEASON...or a REASON...Life carries on...(losing a former friend that starts to act wishy/wahsy to sometimey..only let's you know..their true colors..or their short fuse boxes...thus...Yes, Keep It Moving...Keep it moving...Revenge comes in the other person seeing you prosper and be happy and continue to grow...with or without them...

I sincerely wish you well...and hope ...no hard Internet Poster to Poster feelings....

Peace,Ma...

[goodcookinmama]

Originally Posted by Curious1

I don't know why you felt the need to curse in explaining this..

i understand English very well...and actually was empathizing with your situation..

As always on the net..the intent of a response can be misconstued as apparently happened here...

The "stretch" I was referring to had NOTHING to do with your situation being a stretch...I know this is a real thing..I mean,come on,your talking about your mother's passing..who would not believe that...I'm not a callous person..trust that...

The stretch I am referring to..is the TONE of that section..where it read, she talks to your ex...in some regions to "talk to someone" means they are "like" dating or sexing somebody...

Thats what I meant, trying to make a distinction which context the "talking to" was meaning....from the tone of that last section it seemed to me, on my end, that you were insinuating that they were say.."more than just friends with the talking to" example..

I took your mentioning their "talking to each" as more of an example on how she has totally ignored you since your mom's passing for some unknown reason..but yet and still she keeps in direct contact with your ex...and not you ..eventhough ya'll were childhood ,almost like sister, close from way back...these others she is choosing to still communicate with..are nothing more than people she met thru you...yet she is ignoring you...and then the "WHY?".....

I said I missed something and I probably read more into it than was intended based upon what people down here mean by "talking to" someone..usually is intimate like friends with benefits..down in the circles I deal with here...maybe not so much means that in the region where you live

I apologize deeply and humanly for the misunderstanding..but I am not sorry because it was an honest and innocent perception of that section of your posts..and never was personal...so hopefully you didn't take it personal..for that I would be sorry...But a reading comprehension issue,naw..I apologize for perceiving that incorrecttly..

Again..not much into cursing people...just not my style..when not warranted..and saying a curse word back to you...is not necessary and would be uncalled for...I have nothing against you nor feel this misunderstanding needs me to curse you back...at all....

I wish you well and my belated condolences for the passing of your mother..Losing a "mom" figure is one of my greatest personal fears and sadness I think I would ever face...As to the former friend...I do agree..let her be your past..as much as it may hurt..But,personally, for me..I go by the old adage...Some people come into your life for a SEASON...or a REASON...Life carries on...(losing a former friend that starts to act wishy/wahsy to sometimey..only let's you know..their true colors..or their short fuse boxes...thus...Yes, Keep It Moving...Keep it moving...Revenge comes in the other person seeing you prosper and be happy and continue to grow...with or without them...

I sincerely wish you well...and hope ...no hard Internet Poster to Poster feelings....

Peace,Ma...

no problem apology accepted an if you think that was cursing then you better say away from my post cause when i wanna tell em like it is i tell em

lol an i dont hold back peace &blessings

[thicksista]

it would depend on her situation.but then again to keep it real, it really wouldn't bother me.yeah she might have be my best friend.but i don't really allow myself to get unset about things i have no real control over...though i understand it's deep with some.