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tiptop53 · February 16th, 2006, 12:14 AM

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Originally Posted by goodcookinmama

did not come to your mamas funeral

i will just leave it at that i got a call from her after she found out but nothing else i am pissed at her i have been there for this girl many a times this hurt and from hurt to anger please tell me how whould you handle this matter we go way back and i just dont understand it every one asking where was she
thats how close we are at least i thought so

My heart goes out to you GCM and so do my prayers. I have been in your shoes my best friend did not show up at my mom's funeral either. I looked for her to lean on but she never showed. She finally called and told me why she could not come. I don't know what your friend reason was but this I do know death scarws alot of people. My buddy did come because my mom was like her mom. she could not deal with the fact that her mom could be next. I understood and let it go. Deal with the grief of your mother first and then ask you friend what happen.

Has your friend been there for you at other times. If she has then maybe something was going on in her life.
Just a thought. heres a hug from me to you. You showed me love when I went threw my grief.

urfan2c · February 16th, 2006, 02:34 AM

I am sorry for ur loss mama, some ppl aren't good with funerals. I would be deeply hurt if my best friend didn't come to my moms funeral. Talk to her and see why and then go from there on what u should do.

**Edit I just saw tip tops post and I agree

goodcookinmama · February 16th, 2006, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by tiptop53

My heart goes out to you GCM and so do my prayers. I have been in your shoes my best friend did not show up at my mom's funeral either. I looked for her to lean on but she never showed. She finally called and told me why she could not come. I don't know what your friend reason was but this I do know death scarws alot of people. My buddy did come because my mom was like her mom. she could not deal with the fact that her mom could be next. I understood and let it go. Deal with the grief of your mother first and then ask you friend what happen.

Has your friend been there for you at other times. If she has then maybe something was going on in her life.
Just a thought. heres a hug from me to you. You showed me love when I went threw my grief.

thank you

tiptop53 · February 16th, 2006, 11:09 PM

GCM no thanks need girl thats what the Ac family is here for. To give each other support in thier time of need. Stay strong .

Corals · February 17th, 2006, 08:55 AM

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Originally Posted by deej42

condolences to you....your friend just may have issues with going to a funeral dont hold it against her until u talk with her.....my prayers are with u and your family.

My condolences to you GCM, sorry to hear of your loss. Funerals can be very upsetting and emotional and maybe she couldn't take the pain, hence why she didn't attend.

I remembered when I was in secondary school, one of my school mate's mother died, she was the headmistress, and she didn't attend the funeral because it was so painful and emotional for her. It was surprising but yet understandable, so don't hold it against her, because that was probably the way she was feeling.

the_truth · February 17th, 2006, 01:52 PM

I wouldnt be upset or disappointed because I know that some people have bad or mixed feelings about funerals. Although I would want him/her there, I would understand if they didnt want to attend because of emotional reasons.

sailor wife · February 20th, 2006, 12:01 AM

GCM, My deepest condolences to you and yours. I am sorry to hear about your loss.

isistah · February 20th, 2006, 10:37 AM

So sorry about your Mother, GCM.
I would try to overlook your friend's absence if you've valued the friendship in the past. Some people are very uncomfortable with death and comforting the grieving. At some point in the future, when you're no longer angry, you could discuss it with her.

naskiecenye · February 26th, 2006, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by goodcookinmama

did not come to your mamas funeral

i will just leave it at that i got a call from her after she found out but nothing else i am pissed at her i have been there for this girl many a times this hurt and from hurt to anger please tell me how whould you handle this matter we go way back and i just dont understand it every one asking where was she
thats how close we are at least i thought so

first and foremost OMG I"m so sorry to hear that your mother passed. I lost my mother at ten

and its the hardest thing ive ever had to do. Its been fourteen years and i havent seen my mother its a trip because i'm just now realizing that i will never see her again. 14 years is a long time. If u ever need a friend to talk to i'm there

as far as your friend if she's a true friend u should be able to talk to her about how u feel, u already lost a mother if you dont have to lose your friend too, DONT!!! They come in handy.

Curious1 · February 28th, 2006, 01:24 PM

GCM...my condolences to your loss and yet Heaven's gain..she's in good hands ..Prayers going up...