Lets learn - AfroChat - African American

Proudbrothaman · September 22nd, 2006, 08:02 AM

I was on my way in to work when I heard a good question on one of those crazy morning shows... What do you think a man can learn most from a women/ women can learn most from a man? Of course the obvious comes to mind; I think a woman can learn more emotional control from a man and guys I think we can learn patience from women. What do you think A/C?

Celeste · September 22nd, 2006, 08:57 AM

Men need to learn to empathize with women. Women need to learn to empathize with men. We need to learn to truly dig eachother's situations.

WellSpoken · September 22nd, 2006, 09:24 AM

men can learn to be more sensitive; women can learn how not to carry so much baggage on their shoulders. some men feel if they can not fix it then don't worry about it

MzKwietStorm · September 22nd, 2006, 10:04 AM

I think women could learn to be a little more at ease sometime from the men and I think Men need to learn how to be just a little bit more serious in certain situations. But most of all, both need to learn how to compromise.

Sumyr · September 22nd, 2006, 10:24 AM

Women need to learn how to let go; Men need to learn how to hold on.

Examples: Women will hold on to a man knowing that the man is no good and hasn't been since day one. Men will let go of a good woman knowing that she was there for him, had his back, and was faithful only to let her go because he thought the grass was greener on the other side.

Of course these same scenarios can be applied to either gender. :)

Proudbrothaman · September 22nd, 2006, 11:03 AM

That's a good one Sumyr

DBlack · September 22nd, 2006, 01:38 PM

Why should we have to 'learn things' from each other? Men are men and women are women. We should have to learn how men are vs women, and accept our traits, if we can.

Why should I be more sensitive? I'm a man. I don't want my woman being more masculine.....

I don't want my wife acting more like me. I love her and find her attractive because she is my opposite. I'm hard, she's soft, etc....

That's part of the problem with black relationships today; women are expecting men to be more feminine and men are expecting women to be more masculine. There is incredible value and beauty in the diversity of the sexes. We need to learn more about our opposites, accept and embrace.

IMHO....

Samoon · September 22nd, 2006, 03:03 PM

Women need to learn to "think" more like men. Men need to learn that being in touch with your sensitive side is really admired by some women. It's not about being deemed "weak" or a "punk," but rather, to be perceived as, "I'm open."

Trust me MEN, this can work FOR you! lol!

Celeste · September 23rd, 2006, 02:08 AM

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Originally Posted by DBlack

Why should we have to 'learn things' from each other? Men are men and women are women. We should have to learn how men are vs women, and accept our traits, if we can.

Why should I be more sensitive? I'm a man. I don't want my woman being more masculine.....

IMHO....

Many, many, MANY men feel the way you do. I admire your honesty.

darkreign · September 23rd, 2006, 03:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Celeste

Many, many, MANY men feel the way you do. I admire your honesty.

this is true. i'm that way. i had a relationship to go bad b\c she wanted me to be more "womanly". for example; shopping, commenting on shoes, cuddling all the time. thats not me.i'm not the type that like to be stuck up under somebody's arm all the time and vice versa. i didn't invite her to watch or help me work on cars; build a shed, or wire the garage. why did she want to drag me shopping when i expressed to her that i did not like it.

like DBlack said, i'm a man and i'm not interested in what color to paint a room, what dish set look best with the place mats, and i hated, hated, hated,...... hated, when i walk into my bathroom and it's fuzzy and decorated in soft pastel colors, with the sweet smelling soap.

thats a woman's bathroom