Premarital Sex

[chocolate1120]

I'm curious to know what others think about premarital sex. As a born again Christian woman I know what the bible says about fornicating, but there are so many other "experienced" Christians that I look to for inspiration that don't really live by the bible. I have two friends that are in relationships where there is NO SEX what so ever until they get married because they feel that this is the only way God is going to bless their union.
This is something I'm currently struggling with because although prior to starting a new relationship my intention was to "Do Right" and not engage in any sexual activity, but being the hot blooded scorpio that I am I faltered and gave in.

What is your take on Premaritial Sex? Do you feel it's ok as long as you are in a monogamous relationship, or do you say follow what the bible says?

[jamesfrmphilly]

where does the bible say no sex?

[soulbrotha]

I commend you for even attempting to not have sex, but as far as your question goes I think you should follow your faith.

You ask the question b/c you have doubt, therefore you should look at the negative side of "giving in". How are you going to feel if and when this person leaves you? What happens if you become pregnant? Have baby out of wedlock? Abortion? What a good Christian you would be if you do the latter two.


Those are just my thoughts

I think this is the biggest, or at least one of the biggest, problems that young and single Christians have to battle with. Sex is a natural thing. Most normal people love/like/or want to love/like the experience. The urge is strong so I feel for your struggle. No one can make the decision for you. Only you can do that. My suggestion is read your Bible. Get in depth into what God's purpose is for sex and what He has to say on the subject. Also know that the act itself, while very pleasurable, can start you in a whole nother direction as far as emotions go that you may not be ready for. Of course there's the ever present consequences, diseases and kids. But again you do what you think you need to because in the end it's your life, your relationship with the Lord, and your salvation. Everyone has to stand in account of themselves.

[MadameX]

Originally Posted by soulbrotha

I commend you for even attempting to not have sex, but as far as your question goes I think you should follow your faith.

You ask the question b/c you have doubt, therefore you should look at the negative side of "giving in". How are you going to feel if and when this person leaves you? What happens if you become pregnant? Have baby out of wedlock? Abortion? What a good Christian you would be if you do the latter two.

According to the scripture, the act of sex is purely for procreation by man and women during a union. Since, you have stayed true to your faith by practicing celibacy until marriage then I always have to commend you as well.

Originally Posted by RanRan

My suggestion is read your Bible. Get in depth into what God's purpose is for sex and what He has to say on the subject. Also know that the act itself, while very pleasurable, can start you in a whole nother direction as far as emotions go that you may not be ready for. Of course there's the ever present consequences, diseases and kids. But again you do what you think you need to because in the end it's your life, your relationship with the Lord, and your salvation. Everyone has to stand in account of themselves.

Agreed. You should consider this a test of faith and let your spirt be your guide and continue on the righteous path. :)

[DBlack]

I don't want to sound judgmental, so I will tell you like this:

I used to date (was engaged to) a woman that was very much into church and devoted to her walk with Christ. But she had a huge problem with one sin-sex. Othere sins seemed to not matter as much. Over time, this became a huge problem in our relationship (hey I'm a guy) as I struggle with abstinence, yet was supposed to find it ok to do all the other 'wrongs'. I felt is was hypocrisy on a grand scale as she would be so traumatized after having sex, it was immeasurable, the mental anguish.

You know your walk with Christ better than anyone. Be true to yourself before others. God knows we are all sinners, yet he judges us by how we live our lives and glorify him. Man will never be clear of all sin as long as we live on this earth, no matter how hard you try. But our pursuit of a sinless life and true beleif in him is what it's really all about.

But don't stop here, seek his advice over all others....

Good Luck.

[WellSpoken]

At sometime, single christians must admit that there is and was at some point in our lives that we desired sex. It is a beautiful thing to have a union blessed in marriage. The Bible does say let the man have his on wife vice versa. It also talks about the bed being undefiled. No matter how you look at it, sex is natural but pre-matrial sex is wrong. It is like given a part of yourself to this person to this person. You are actually given a part of yourself to everyone you fall in love with supposedly. I don't know about anyone else, but in the past when I slept with someone with the intensions of being married and we broke up, I felt that a part of me had been stripped out of me. A part of me had been taken and I was left feeling empty. Yes, it is a connection to the other partner while having sex. If two becomes one, then there is a stripping away. As a woman, just having sex is not just having sex. To experience love making with a blessing makes a blessing in a relationship that can only grow. I believe if someone says let's take it to the next level does it really mean to have sex? No, it means to me let's become serious in this relationship.

I am writing a book entitle "I Choose God". I will let the chat board know when it is published. Maybe I can get some feedback on it. You never know.

[sephari]

Originally Posted by MadameX

[b]According to the scripture, the act of sex is purely for procreation by man and women during a union....

i disagree. what about couples who can not conceive, do to age or medical reasons? are they supposed to give up sex? it would be one thing if we were like the animals and did not derive pleasure from it but we do.

[MadameX]

Originally Posted by WellSpoken

At sometime, single christians must admit that there is and was at some point in our lives that we desired sex. It is a beautiful thing to have a union blessed in marriage. The Bible does say let the man have his on wife vice versa. It also talks about the bed being undefiled. No matter how you look at it, sex is natural but pre-matrial sex is wrong. It is like given a part of yourself to this person to this person. You are actually given a part of yourself to everyone you fall in love with supposedly. I don't know about anyone else, but in the past when I slept with someone with the intensions of being married and we broke up, I felt that a part of me had been stripped out of me. A part of me had been taken and I was left feeling empty. Yes, it is a connection to the other partner while having sex. If two becomes one, then there is a stripping away. As a woman, just having sex is not just having sex. To experience love making with a blessing makes a blessing in a relationship that can only grow. I believe if someone says let's take it to the next level does it really mean to have sex? No, it means to me let's become serious in this relationship.

Precisely. Utlamtely, Chocolate shouldn't comprise her standards and give into pressure and stay on the right path.

[jamesfrmphilly]

where does it say no sex in the bible?