Premarital Sex

[sailor wife]

If you're in love, and respect and honor each other then I see nothing wrong with it. I think people get so caught up in "no sex", until it becomes an obsession and they overlook all of the other important components of a relationship.

[Serenity4Ever]

I know sometimes you may feel like you are competely alone in your struggle, but I am living proof that you're not. I have "given in" several times in my attempts to abstain. I was raised in church. I gave my life to God when I was 14 and since then, I have re-dedicated my life to him on many occasions. Although I do believe premarrital sex is wrong, none of these things seemed to stop me from doing it. I haven't had sex in six months because I'm single at the moment, but more importantly than that, I want an intimate relationship with God. I want us to "kick it" and chill. I want our relationship to be so deep to the point where I feel that He ultimately is my "everything" (my parent, comforter, best friend, and my muse). Does that mean that I'll do everything right from now on? No. But will I try? Yes. In my trying, will I fail? Sometimes. During those time, will I choose to believe that God's grace is sufficient? ABSOLUTELY.

Chocolate..... we may not always make the right choices in life, but gues what? That's been happening since the Garden of Eden. God is all about granting us many chances to get it right. When Adam and Eve sinned against Him, years later He sent Jesus to the cross to take the heat for the sins that would come from later generations. By having a relationship with Jesus (and ultimately God through Jesus) by accepting that He died on the cross for our sins, what we do is covered by his blood. That doesn't mean that we should purposely sin because we are aware of this fact. However, It does mean that although we may miss the mark at times, God has the power to redeem us. After we have admitted what we've done and asked for forgiveness, He casts that particular sin in the sea of forgetfulness.

I encourage you to accept God's love by forgiving yourself. Trust that He truly wants to see you succeed. The only way that your relationship will grow is if you move forward. Don't look back to the past or you might just turn into a pillar of salt.

Originally Posted by Serenity4Ever

I know sometimes you may feel like you are competely alone in your struggle, but I am living proof that you're not. I have "given in" several times in my attempts to abstain. I was raised in church. I gave my life to God when I was 14 and since then, I have re-dedicated my life to him on many occasions. Although I do believe premarrital sex is wrong, none of these things seemed to stop me from doing it. I haven't had sex in six months because I'm single at the moment, but more importantly than that, I want an intimate relationship with God. I want us to "kick it" and chill. I want our relationship to be so deep to the point where I feel that He ultimately is my "everything" (my parent, comforter, best friend, and my muse). Does that mean that I'll do everything right from now on? No. But will I try? Yes. In my trying, will I fail? Sometimes. During those time, will I choose to believe that God's grace is sufficient? ABSOLUTELY.

Chocolate..... we may not always make the right choices in life, but gues what? That's been happening since the Garden of Eden. God is all about granting us many chances to get it right. When Adam and Eve sinned against Him, years later He sent Jesus to the cross to take the heat for the sins that would come from later generations. By having a relationship with Jesus (and ultimately God through Jesus) by accepting that He died on the cross for our sins, what we do is covered by his blood. That doesn't mean that we should purposely sin because we are aware of this fact. However, It does mean that although we may miss the mark at times, God has the power to redeem us. After we have admitted what we've done and asked for forgiveness, He casts that particular sin in the sea of forgetfulness.

I encourage you to accept God's love by forgiving yourself. Trust that He truly wants to see you succeed. The only way that your relationship will grow is if you move forward. Don't look back to the past or you might just turn into a pillar of salt.

Excellently stated. Terrific advice.

[MadameX]

Originally Posted by Serenity4Ever

Chocolate..... we may not always make the right choices in life, but gues what? That's been happening since the Garden of Eden. God is all about granting us many chances to get it right. When Adam and Eve sinned against Him, years later He sent Jesus to the cross to take the heat for the sins that would come from later generations. By having a relationship with Jesus (and ultimately God through Jesus) by accepting that He died on the cross for our sins, what we do is covered by his blood. That doesn't mean that we should purposely sin because we are aware of this fact. However, It does mean that although we may miss the mark at times, God has the power to redeem us. After we have admitted what we've done and asked for forgiveness, He casts that particular sin in the sea of forgetfulness.

I encourage you to accept God's love by forgiving yourself. Trust that He truly wants to see you succeed. The only way that your relationship will grow is if you move forward. Don't look back to the past or you might just turn into a pillar of salt.

Agreed. Let your faith guide you and you won't go wrong.

[mariaic]

only you can really make that decision. i wouldn't listen to other peoples opinion when it comes to my faith. if you went that long believe me you can continue.

[chocolate1120]

Originally Posted by RanRan

Excellently stated. Terrific advice.

Thank you , you are absolutely right!

[Living4Him]

Originally Posted by jamesfrmphilly

where does it say no sex in the bible?

The Bible tells how God is pleased with married couples having sex (which to God is between a woman and a man...Adam and Eve and not Adam and Steve), for He created SEX for men and women to enjoy with each other. However, there are countless Scriptures that speak against having SEX outside of marriage. Sex outside of marriage includes someone being in an adulterous relationship, as well as a single someone fornicating with another single heterosexual, homosexual, or ANY animals/beasts!!!!

I like the following Scriptures:

Proverbs 5:15-23 (New Living Translation)
15 Drink water from your own well – share your love only with your wife. 16 Why spill the water of your springs in public, having sex with just anyone? 17 You should reserve it for yourselves. Don't share it with strangers. 18 Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 She is a loving doe, a graceful deer. Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love. 20 Why be captivated, my son, with an immoral woman, or embrace the breasts of an adulterous woman? 21 For the LORD sees clearly what a man does, examining every path he takes. 22 An evil man is held captive by his own sins; they are ropes that catch and hold him. 23 He will die for lack of self-control; he will be lost because of his incredible folly.


Here are some other Scriptures that speak against "fornicating," or, if you will, having SEX outside of marriage.

Eze 16:29;Mt 5:32;1Co 6:13;1Co 6:18;1Co 7:2;2Co 12:21;Ga 5:19;Eph 5:3;Col 3:5;1Th 4:3;Jude 1:7...see also the book of Revelation.

Peace,
Living4Him

I try to at least have sex with five black females a week. Thats why I'm glad the strip club is open every day of the week. If it wasn't for the freaky black ghetto girls I would still be a virgin. Thanks you freaky *** black ghetto girls with the hair weave in your hair and the fake finger nails on your hands for giving up that ***.

[stiab3]

It's a personal matter. You have to reconcile you actions with your own faith - not what others believe you should be doing.

I have no problem with premarital sex. Yet, I have abstained for longer than a lot of people who believe that is is a sin. So whether or not you have sex is totally up to the individual.

s3

[Living4Him]

Originally Posted by stiab3

It's a personal matter. You have to reconcile you actions with your own faith - not what others believe you should be doing.

I have no problem with premarital sex. Yet, I have abstained for longer than a lot of people who believe that is is a sin. So whether or not you have sex is totally up to the individual.

s3

The one thing that Creator God gives EVERY human being is the freedom to choose. So, whether anyone shares the same faith as mine, the same faith as others, or a faith of his or her own, the bottom line is we ALL have been given the freedom of choice. With that freedom comes a knowing and believing that we all will give an account of what we have chosen to do/say/believe/not believe.

For born-again believers who place their faith/trust in Christ and the Word of God, they will know that although God is a loving and forgiving God that He also says that He is a jealous God and a God of wrath (the latter of which most people either choose to forget or choose to think that it is impossible for a loving God to be merciless and wrathful). Creator God also says that in ancient times He winked at the sins of mankind, but now that Christ has come into the world He no longer can continue to overlook the ways we choose to live…to this end, believers are instructed in the Word of God to repent and to hold fast to their profession of faith without wavering.

Creator God also says that EVERY person who ever lived will stand before Him and be judged for every thing done in his or her body--for those things that pleased Him and those that didn't...for those things that were in keeping with His commandments and those that weren't. He also says that based on what good or bad people have done that they will receive their rewards in Heaven on judgment day.

For [b]those believers in Christ and the Word of God[/B], they also know that He tells them that their bodies are no longer their own. He says that they have been bought with a price--the crucifixion of Christ. He says that their bodies are the TEMPLE of the Lord, and, thus, must be holy and righteous. He says that they are saved by Grace not so that they can continue to sin, but so that they can receive the power and authority of Christ through the Holy Spirit to be able to live in this world in holiness and righteousness.

There are millions of so-called born again believers, who, as you say S3, do not abstain for as long as you have abstained from pre-martial sex. Reasons being: without the power of the Holy Spirit living in and through the believers and without the Holy Spirit guiding the believers 24/7, the believers, more than not, will choose to follow the desires of their flesh (e.g., the desires of their hearts and minds, whether good or bad). However the Word of God says that NO ONE has to give in to his or her flesh, because Christ has provided a way for them to escape--the infilling, indwelling of the Holy Spirit; still every person certainly has the freedom to choose which way he or she will go (what he or she will do in and with his or her body)!!!!

Your choice to have no problem with pre-marital sex is just that--your choice. I do not agree with your choice, but I do acknowledge that it is yours to make.


Peace, :)
Living4Him