If your spouse/ BF or GF, cheated on you once, would you stay?...or would you leave? - AfroChat - African American

000HONEY · December 19th, 2004, 06:05 PM

I'm just curious to know your veiws on this topic....
If your spouse/ BF or GF, cheated on you once, would you stay?...or would you leave?
Explain your choice...

Lonewolf · December 19th, 2004, 07:33 PM

I'm gone, no second chances here. Why waste time with somebody I can no longer trust? It's not likely I'll be in a relationship any time soon, but if I were in one and a woman cheated on me I'd probably set out to make her feel absolutely worthless; I give a pretty good tongue lashing when provoked.

Then she'd get the boot.

Vegence · December 19th, 2004, 07:41 PM

I can't even lie I have attempted to stay and work things out. :(

One thing I can say and this has yet to NOT be the case

and that's

once I've been cheated on, the relationship never truly recovers.

So with that being said,

at the age I am at now,

once I've been cheated on the relationship is basically over.

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Originally Posted by 000HONEY

I'm just curious to know your veiws on this topic....
If your spouse/ BF or GF, cheated on you once, would you stay?...or would you leave?
Explain your choice...

Chelbe · December 19th, 2004, 08:28 PM

I'm in a similar situation right now. In my situation, I left, I want to take him back, but something is telling me that its not even worth it and that I would be a fool to do so.
I did it once, years ago, and it didn't change anything, it only made things worse.

000HONEY · December 21st, 2004, 01:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Lonewolf

I'm gone, no second chances here. Why waste time with somebody I can no longer trust? It's not likely I'll be in a relationship any time soon, but if I were in one and a woman cheated on me I'd probably set out to make her feel absolutely worthless; I give a pretty good tongue lashing when provoked.

Then she'd get the boot.

You're right,
Trust is very important in a relationship

Yewmanyeti · December 21st, 2004, 11:17 AM

Would I stay? Not at all. I tolerate alotta ish, but that's crossin the line, definitely... shows not only that I can't really trust you, but shows disrespect, as well. There's NO good excuse for cheating.

originata · December 21st, 2004, 11:29 AM

If you just have a BF or GF can it really be cheating, that's the question?

Like with any situation I'll decide what's best for me and take it from there. I'll never end a situation that is beneficial to me because my ego is bruised. That's what a lot of people do because they're mate so called cheated.

slickbitty · December 21st, 2004, 12:23 PM

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Originally Posted by originata

If you just have a BF or GF can it really be cheating, that's the question?

Like with any situation I'll decide what's best for me and take it from there. I'll never end a situation that is beneficial to me because my ego is bruised. That's what a lot of people do because they're mate so called cheated.

doesn't matter if dating or married, once trust has been established and both parties are exclusive, then it's pretty much up to the individual. It's easier for a BF/GF to leave, there's really no legality to their relationship. In a marriage, Biblical speaking, adultery was the only grounds for divorce.

Ren6879 · December 21st, 2004, 12:30 PM

I would try and work it out ... especially if i am in love with her .. dont know how the relationship would continue but because of my love for her I would give her that oppurtunity ...and yes it is much easier to walk away if you are boyfriend and girl friend with no children involved but I would put a lot of prayer into it ....

originata · December 21st, 2004, 12:35 PM

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It's easier for a BF/GF to leave.

Then that means it does matter. Not everyone forms their relationships according to religion. Matter of fact, the question includes premarital sex.

How committed can people really be if they are not married? I do agree though if you set boundaries you should adhere to them but for most people this is an issue of ego not about what's best or some written/unwritten rules.