If your spouse/ BF or GF, cheated on you once, would you stay?...or would you leave?

[delia]

i feel that you never really know how you may handle a situation until you are in it. sometimes things happen in your relationship that will make you two closer to one another. not saying that its a small thing when someone betrays you but you can speculate you will be outta there but when you have been involved with someone for years and your feelings are so involved sometimes it makes it hard to let go.

[sunnyyy]

For me it would have to depend on the situation and who it was he cheated with, being my husband I would atleast think about it, but if It was just a boyfriend his butt would be out of there

[naskiecenye]

I would have to say that im gone. I have been throught this time and time again with these men acting like little boys. I think its cowardly for a man to start a relationship just to cheat. And for all the men that are reading this step up your game and encourage other men to do so to.

Woman love honesty and some will sleep with you even if they know its not going to be about love. For u to tell us u love us, tell us your faithful, tell us u want to spend your life with us, and then tell another chick the same thing just shows that your game isnt all u thought it was. First of all u have to lie which by the way doesnt sit too well with the big man upstairs. Second your lying for nothing cuz all we want to know is the truth in the first place. Third most of us know when your lying we just too inlove with your dumb a$$es to say anything and get out. Just tell us that its just sex we will understand and nobody has to get hurt.

I would be gone cuz i dont have time to play games and i let my current bf know that from the start if this is about sex than lets just have the sex and u dont have to spit no sweet nothings in my ear cuz we are both adults so lets be adults

[Kitin]

The first time I read this thread, I couldn't even imagine Ian cheating on me. Then I really put my mind to it and came out with a few scenarios. If I found out Ian cheated, I'm sure it would be in his confession to me. I figure Ian would beg forgiveness and I'd mull it over for a day or two before accepting. And that would be the end.

If I caught him and he was truly appologizing and fully committed to changing his ways, I'd think about it for a week or two. I would try again because I really love him. I'm not much on committment myself, but for Ian, I try. And I'm at a personal best so far.

If I caught him or if he confessed and decided that he's not a one-woman man, then it's time to let him go. I love him, but not to the point where I'm abusing myself. We'd have had some good times and I'd be okay with that. Then I'd move on. If I tried to keep him, it would only become a pattern.

[cashmere]

The first chance is me taking a chance (on that person) in the first place....so I would say there are no second chances in relationships because you should always be on the first chance premise as if second chances aren't even an option. Particularly if you're not married and it's just a bf/gf there is no reason to stay...sure you can still love the person but there is no need to love enough to live a lie with anyone.

If I have been faithful I am leaving, if I have not then I may reveal my own shortcomings or use it to my advantage it all depends on the relationship.

[delia]

how are you able to stay and trust him again? do brothas view women as gullable and stupid if you stay? because it seems like after they do all of the beggin the chances of him cheating again because he know he's got you just where he wants you, he allways seem to continue the pattern all over again.and most women are left dumb founded like he did all of the beggin to take me back and the tears and for what? i have to say. been there done that bought the t-shirt and cried on it.. and i wont take a man back after he cheated on me again. :graduated i think that no matter how good of a women you are some men really are not satisfied with just one woman. :angel1:

I would leave, cause once a cheater, always a cheater

[Gorilla]

I'd leave. I never understood why people try to work out things after something like that happen.

[Kitin]

Originally Posted by notiq

I would leave, cause once a cheater, always a cheater

That's the kind of comment I resent. It's so absolute and, to me, close-minded. I believe people can change if they want to change not because someone else desires a change. I was a cheater and I've changed. It's not outside the realm of possiblity.