A White Woman Explains Why She Prefers Black Men

this article is sickening..this woman only sees black men as sex objects

http://www.nypress.com/18/49/news&co...CrainBakos.cfm


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“How many white men can treat a woman like a lady and ravish her too?” By Susan Crain Bakos

Black skin is thick and lush, sensuous to the touch, like satin and velvet made flesh. There's only one patch of skin on a white man's body that remotely compares to nearly every inch of a black man's skin. The first time I caressed black skin, it felt like a luxury I shouldn't be able to afford. I craved it more strongly than Carrie Bradshaw craved Manolo Blahnik shoes. That phrase, "Once you go black, you never go back" is all about the feeling of the skin.

And I had the socially acceptable explanation for my craving. I used that paucity-of-available-white-partners rationale to explain my relationships with black men for several years. A white woman past forty is often passed over by her white-male contemporaries. She goes younger or ethnic or foreign-born or down the socioeconomic scale or darker or she spends lonely nights at home with her cats. Black men are happy to get the babe they couldn't have when she was twentysomething and fertile. The laws of the marketplace do prevail. It's not me, it's them—them being the white guys who weren't after me anymore, or so I claimed.

That's a lie. The truth is, I attract about the same percentage of available white men my age (and far younger!) now as I did when I was thirty—and that's not including the unavailable white men who want to play around anyway.

Enough white men want me that I was hardly facing enforced celibacy, but I don't want them.

I want black men. They want me. We look at one another and exchange a visible frisson of sexual energy in the lingering glances. And our attraction is based first on race. We are not those couples who "happen to fall in love" with someone of a different race or more purposefully come together but out of some greater sense of interracial understanding and respect. Not as politically-correct men and women do we seek one another out. The Internet has made it a lot easier for us to find each other now. Men advertise: ebony seeks ivory. Women write: seeking tall, dark, and handsome. Very dark. We are not the same people who say: Race is not important. It is important to us. We have race-specific desires.

Even in a time when nearly 40 percent of single Americans have dated outside their race, that deliberate seeking of the specific other makes some people, especially black women, damned mad.

We are what they denigrate and castigate: white women and black men who choose one another because of our racial differences. They resent our taking their men. Black men are two and a half times more likely to marry a white woman than a black woman is to marry a white man. Black women can point to that statistic in justifying their wrath. But in truth, black sisters, we're after the sex, not the ring—and these guys aren't the marrying kind anyway.

Yes, the sex!

The woman who goes after black men is a variant of sex journalist Susie Bright's "white bitch in heat," a woman who puts sex first even though women aren't supposed to do that. According to one school of thought, white women turn to black men when their sex drives kick into higher gear and their social inhibitions recede into the rearview mirror. It's a "yes, baby, now I'm ready for you" reaction.

When we get to the "yes, baby" place, they know it, and they are ready and waiting for us. Black men have more energy, style and edge than white men. They know how to flirt, a nearly lost art among the rest of us. A black man is so damned sexy because he knows how to make a woman feel sexy.

Black men have something white guys don't have anymore: confidence in their masculinity, their sexuality. They clearly know they're men. White men appear to be waiting for the latest sociological research study to let them know if they are men or not. Yet black men are gentlemen, something else white men no longer are. They make me feel like a woman, both respected and desired. I can let go of my inhibitions, my need to control, when I am with them. How many white men can treat a woman like a lady and ravish her too?

I often felt in my White Period that only during heated sex does that little layer of air bubbles between me and the world pop and disappear, leaving me open to intimate connection. It takes a lot of friction for two white people to get that close. These black men, so alive with erotic electricity, cut through the bubbles with a touch, a caress, a kiss—and they free me—and I can truly touch them. I am like a pampered passenger in a Porsche with an expert driver at the wheel. I know I could suggest a route change, but I never really want to do that. On the other hand, the last time I had sex with a white man, we slogged along a bumpy road in a really old VW, the driver like the typical bumbling tv husband who would neither ask for nor accept the directions he badly needed.

My current lover, a handsome businessman, seduced me via eye contact at a neighborhood bar while I was eating burgers with a friend. Without saying a word, he paid the compliments, asked the questions with his expressive eyes. He didn't move over to sit beside me and ask if he could buy me a drink until he knew the time was right. Both soft-spoken and assertive, he has impeccable manners and charm. I was kissing him in a cab 30 minutes after that drink.

On another night in that same bar, a different black man, an artist, knelt and kissed my knees.

[stiab3]

she's a sex journalist so that's what she wrote about.

If she was a food journalist then she'd probably say they cook better.

s3

[jamesfrmphilly]

"I used that paucity-of-available-white-partners rationale to explain my relationships with black men for several years"

hey, that sounds famailer............

[jimihaze]

Well I say that some black males that seek or deal only with females out side of there race don't care why the females of other races are with them. There point seems to be that they have there status symbol which is the female of the other race. They do not care what others say or think about them. They have there holy gail which is any female that is not black. So what this woman says in her article means that her black male worshipers are still worshiping at the feet of any female that is not black. I say that black women should stop caring that some and certain black males don't want to deal with them. I say deal with the black men that still seek and want to love black women. Don't worry about the ones that don't want you. Deal with the ones that do.

[MadameX]

Originally Posted by notiq

[b]this article is sickening..this woman only sees black men as sex objects

Ultamately, the nature of this article does not surprise me at all b/c all this sex author did is perputaute a sterotype that has existed since the Slavery times. While Master was raping the Black Slave female field hands, Master's wife was getting some on the side from a male field hand in which she would use the derogatory slang of calling him a Black Buck. After Master's wife is impregnated and has a mulatto child, he finds the male slave and he is hung to dealth from a tree. So in essence, history is repeating itself by this women perputation this stereotype about all Black men.

Originally Posted by jimihaze

There point seems to be that they have there status symbol which is the female of the other race. They have there holy gail which is any female that is not black. So what this woman says in her article means that her black male worshipers are still worshiping at the feet of any female that is not black.

Hmmm. After thinking about it, your comment definitely gives a whole lot of weight to the quote from the movie Undercover Brother,"The White Women is the Black Man's Kryptonite."

[jamesfrmphilly]

Originally Posted by jimihaze

I say deal with the black men that still seek and want to love black women. Don't worry about the ones that don't want you. Deal with the ones that do.

some things are so simple.

White woman do things in bed that black sisters don't do. And white woman with good paying jobs let you drive their vehicles when they go to work. I go pick up the ghetto black girls in the white womans' car and drop the black girl off to the ghetto flea market to get her nails done from the koreans. The black girl thinks its my car and after I pick her up from the flea market gives me cheap sex in return for my services. See thats the way things operate if you get you a white woman with a good job. After I drop the black girl back off to her house I go pick my white woman up from work and she asks me what did I do all day, I tell her that I hung out with my buddies and watched the basketball game. She doesn't know that I actually did the opposite of that.

[jamesfrmphilly]

Originally Posted by G.o.d.f.a.t.h.a.

White woman do things in bed that black sisters don't do..

so far, i haven't found anything that sisters don't do. :dance:

Like what?

[shankems2000]

Originally Posted by G.o.d.f.a.t.h.a.

White woman do things in bed that black sisters don't do. And white woman with good paying jobs let you drive their vehicles when they go to work. I go pick up the ghetto black girls in the white womans' car and drop the black girl off to the ghetto flea market to get her nails done from the koreans. The black girl thinks its my car and after I pick her up from the flea market gives me cheap sex in return for my services. See thats the way things operate if you get you a white woman with a good job. After I drop the black girl back off to her house I go pick my white woman up from work and she asks me what did I do all day, I tell her that I hung out with my buddies and watched the basketball game. She doesn't know that I actually did the opposite of that.

I think he hit it on the head with this post. White women just seem to be kinkier in bed, so that tends to attract more men, not just black men either.