Who to trust

[Babydoll]

The family will be biased.

If they have real friends, they will tell them when they are wrong.

[SweetHomeAlabama]

Yo,

If my girl had a problem with something between us. I would want her to come and talk to me about and I would do the same for her out of respect for her being my girl. You suppose to talk to each other about everything good and bad. An lets face none of us are perfect so tell me so I can talk about the changes that need to be made for us to stay together.

If you can't tell you girl/man what you want then who else can you trust in???

Let me be her Friend and well as her man. Other people don't know your realtionship but you and that person.

[originata]

If she NEEDS to talk to someone else besides me about our problems then one or both of us are doing something wrong.

Keep our bitniss between the two of us because otherwise that's inviting other people to interfere directly or indirectly.

[slickbitty]

will divulge information in time as long as that relationship is a good one.

The minute you start involving anyone other than your siggy....all hades & gehenna will break loose.

A man shall leave his family and cleave to his wife...Can't remember the scripture exactly...But what it means is that his wife is now his family. He's still got other family, but his primary importance is his wife...same for the wife.

quite gossipin' and clean your own house!!!

[Vegence]

Is it safe to say you don't agree with marital counseling ?

Originally Posted by slickbitty

will divulge information in time as long as that relationship is a good one.

The minute you start involving anyone other than your siggy....all hades & gehenna will break loose.

A man shall leave his family and cleave to his wife...Can't remember the scripture exactly...But what it means is that his wife is now his family. He's still got other family, but his primary importance is his wife...same for the wife.

quite gossipin' and clean your own house!!!

[Yewmanyeti]

Originally Posted by Babydoll

The family will be biased.

If they have real friends, they will tell them when they are wrong.

Very true

[Harmony]

I'm inclined to say people who you know can be impartial and objective enough to allow you to vent without forming any unfair or biased opinions of your s/o. Chances are better than good that you've already dealt with someone of that caliber, so you'd probably already have a good idea of who would better serve your purpose.

Venting to family and friends can be disastrous, it can often times cause them to hold on to 'ill' feelings towards your s/o.

[saraphen]

How about "None of the above." :D I suppose it's natural to talk to family and friends, but family and friends are going to take sides, and might later wish they hadn't gotten in it at all.

[Vegence]

I'm shocked at how many said "themselves"

Originally Posted by saraphen

How about "None of the above." :D I suppose it's natural to talk to family and friends, but family and friends are going to take sides, and might later wish they hadn't gotten in it at all.

[Java]

Well, for me it would be no one outside the relationship. If we couldn’t talk to each other and resolve our problems then our relationship is in trouble.

I once had a friend who was having marital problems she talked about her husband to her daughter, her family and me. The family naturally took her side and treated the man badly. The husband usually a friendly and easygoing guy became withdrawn and had an attitude even toward me to the point I was uncomfortable being around them. I’m sure he knew his wife was discussing their business with me and whoever else.

I was only a listening hear because I knew to not get involved in other folks family problems.