What I want to know is..........

[slickbitty]

And I really need real answers to this.

I also belong to another board, and I see some of those members here (not going to put anyone on blast so don't worry ;) ). But on that board there seems to be a lot of bi/les/tri women and they all seem to be in relationships (longterm, 'committed', married, significant other...pick a label) with men. Now I don't understand this logic, but would like someone to explain to me (without getting nasty, ignorant or telling me that I'm starting drama) how you can in one breath say that you love a man and are with him, and then in the next say that you're loving sleepin' with and 'lovin' a woman (anyone else for that matter). It just doesn't make sense to me.

I ask because with all this drama about brothers being on the DL, how is it any differerent? Not to mention, I don't care if it's with a woman or a man, that's infidelity. You know I'm just really trying to understand this as best that I can and not being judgemental about it, and I fully expect to get grief on the other board about it..but figured i'd talk about this hear so that I could get more of a male person's standpoint about this issue.

[deej42]

the truth of the matter is that it is infidility no matter how u look at it...this shows that women are on the down low just like the brothers are...and u have to be careful with whom u are dealing with.

[Lonewolf]

All it says to me is that men are no more full of crap than women are. But that's old news.

Personally, I think all this gay/lesbian stuff is "chic" so we're seeing more of it. Sure, I know that there have always been gay people, but there's not way there THIS many gay people out here.

I think some of these people (especially the women) are going through that whole "I hate men" thing and want to be with a woman. I wonder what would happen if their husbands/boyfriends knew how much their women hated them.

[Blak]

I see no difference. This is just as foul and the DL male phenomenon and a deceitfull as any kinda cheating that happens in relationships. I bet these same women would turn around and scream about DL black males and even use that as an excuse....that is total hypocrisy though if they do.....its all bad. :mad:


Blak

[000HONEY]

Originally Posted by slickbitty

And I really need real answers to this.

I also belong to another board, and I see some of those members here (not going to put anyone on blast so don't worry ;) ). But on that board there seems to be a lot of bi/les/tri women and they all seem to be in relationships (longterm, 'committed', married, significant other...pick a label) with men. Now I don't understand this logic, but would like someone to explain to me (without getting nasty, ignorant or telling me that I'm starting drama) how you can in one breath say that you love a man and are with him, and then in the next say that you're loving sleepin' with and 'lovin' a woman (anyone else for that matter). It just doesn't make sense to me.

I ask because with all this drama about brothers being on the DL, how is it any differerent? Not to mention, I don't care if it's with a woman or a man, that's infidelity. You know I'm just really trying to understand this as best that I can and not being judgemental about it, and I fully expect to get grief on the other board about it..but figured i'd talk about this hear so that I could get more of a male person's standpoint about this issue.

When you find the answer let me know... because I wonder as well. :confused:

[naskiecenye]

i dont have a clue cheating is cheating no matter if its men on woman, woman on men, men on men, and woman on woman its cheating i think that ppl should date so that all parties know whats the deal instead of being on the dL in that case it really dont matter to me just be real with it no point in leading ppl on IMO

[UglymanCometh]

So clearly afrochat is full of nothing but heterosexual black women?

HELL YEAH! It's about time there was a black site like this!!!!! I can't even think of 20 heterosexual sistas on my college campus (and it's the 30th largest campus in the nation!)