What's the secret to a long marriage?

Good Communication, God's presence in the marriage, understanding, love, patience, never go to sleep angry, and many more.

[jimihaze]

Originally Posted by cocoa33

Good Communication, God's presence in the marriage, understanding, love, patience, never go to sleep angry, and many more.

those are the keys right there. Also praying together is another one and equal yolk in one also.

[robbboy2003]

Great post! There is no set recipe for a great marriage. Sorry! A marriage is a blessing,and if someone asked of it from God,and has love, respect and whatever he or she has to make that person feel loved and cherished.

There are all kinds of marriages,and some of those are just in name only. When you have God wants you to have in a marriage,then talking about a great marriage will take you uhm about a hundred books,lets see two hundred poems,and your behind can't wait to just be with them every chance you got.

Then you know. You have what the lord intended for you to have on this earth. You will,if you're a woman look at him like no other,and if it's a guy she's what you live for each and every day.

[savion]

Love, trust, understanding, honesty and giving support.

Love and relationships

[Samoon]

Love and marriage is wonderful...but I believe that BOTH have to treat it like a job: continuously working at it. Also, I believe that in understanding, your partner respects YOUR individuality (in my case this is what melded us!) for I am definitely that wild horse of a different mind-set, so to speak.

[Baba Ahmed]

As is indicated here, there is no universal "secret" or set of "secrets" that ensures a long lasting marriage...together. Whatever that is.

Bleeve it or not people, along, do not determined their destinies. If that be the case, then we'd be omniscient!
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SAMOON! that's cute "a wild horse of a different mindset." U think u're alone? Shucks america kiks us out like dat; or as the hip hop'rs say: dat's how dey do it. I used to say, and my mama called me a nut, that I wanted to rear children but didn't want the mama around! Onareal, how else can most marriages begin when our backgrounds & "rules to grow by" generally are so vastly different its triply amazing for so many of us to creatively accept each other and deal in this mean scene.

All of us are social beings, also. No matter how spiritual we consider ourselves to be when "divinely" guided. America is a long way from being divinely anything; unless a divinely hypocrital society is possible.

I know a lotta folk don't wanna hear it, that factors in and reasons for yts successes or failures in marriages or other social activities can't be the same or even similar to ours. If so this would not be a European controlled society.

[Samoon]

@ Baba...I hear you talking...lol...I hear you talking Black Man! :)

[The Dragon]

Only one person mentioned being "equally yoked" as one of the preequisites for a successfull marriage, but this trait is crucial. For example, if you are conscious, drug free and seeking to elevate yourself in every area of life, why would you choose an ignorant, ain't trying to change, goal and aspirationless, cigarette smoking, pill popping, etc. person to be your mate?

I had problems with one guy because of this same issue. I loved movies but he went to sleep on em or I would be trying to focus on the plot while he was focusing on something else and distracting me. I loved to read, and he wondered why I loved to read "so much." I always wanted to take walks with him but it was always too hot or he was too tired. I'm into metaphysics but he seemed scared of it. He believed in Jesus, while I don't believe the man ever existed. He had a fetish for anal sex while I was deffinitely not into it and so on. Of couse I was miserable with him and can honestly say I did not have one happy moment with him. He didn't understand my attitude and told me that I made him think something was wrong with him. Till this day he acts as if he don't have a clue as to why I don't want to be with him anymore.

Being equally yoked is crucial.

[robbboy2003]

That back door thing is a relationship stopper isn't it?

[jiltedwife]

i give a thumbs up to any marriage that lasted that long these days when people go into marriage the first thought before the altar is divorce but i am truely proud of all that stay together.