When you got married..did you?

[HoOdPrInCe]

When I get married, I will drop my friends...some of em...!

[lizaa]

My fiance and I have really good friends both married and single-I love to throw dinner parties and things -I don't feel after we're married that we'll not keep our friends-they've been around and have proven to be pretty good friends.

[AdriansMommy]

My friends really havent changed since ive gotten married. My male friends have slimmed down because I was able to weed out the ones who wanted to be more then friends and got the picture after I got married. My female friends are still there. Some of them are very distatant, but thats due to location and schedules, not my marriage. One of my closest friends is male. He and I had been through it all together. When I got pregnant however, things kinda slowed down. He had had a daughter already, but it didnt seem to slow him down. I dont know what made the difference in me. It seemed like he was stuck in being in a mode that I had lost interest in. In other words, I decided to grow up. We seen less and less of each other, but I couldnt deny missing him. When I was in chicago he called and I started to cry like a baby. I seen him yesterday...he almost caused his wife to wreck the truck because he seen me and started yelling at her to stop....lol *sigh* True friends, no matter if your single or get married never leave you, Yall may take a break, but you will definitely find out whose for real and who isnt.

[bibadiva73]

A mixture of single and married friends. But mostly married. It just happened that way by coincidence.

[SistahSpeak]

My husband and I met in HS, so we were a part of a larger group of friends. Well years later, when friends became romance, believe it or not, people we thought were friends weren't and I believe had we continued, we wouldn't be together.

There was this weird feeling as if they weren't happy for us, wanted drama, and withouth us doing much of anything, life and God's Will removed the haters, and replaced them with people who respects us personally, and honors our marriage.

So I think sometime it depends on the people unfortunately.

[MilitantWombMan]

I dropped all my female friends..cuz i couldnt even trust them when i had a boyfriend..so umm i aint gonna have no friends when im married no wayz. If I do happen to make friends..im keeping them outta my house,and at bay....

I didn't limit my friends and I didn't expect him to do so also.

[bEZsmile]

Originally Posted by AdriansMommy

*sigh* True friends, no matter if your single or get married never leave you.

I agree with this whole heartedly.
I am not married however I feel you must weed out those friends that want to be "more" because if you don't....that will be nothing but drama...and me personally, I will not have time for that.
And if you're uncomfortable with your mate having friends of the opposite sex or that are a "bad influence," so to speak, it should be discussed-discussed not debated-and a solution formed.
But that's just me :cool:

Originally Posted by NappilyMe

If I do happen to make friends..im keeping them outta my house,and at bay....

And this sounds good too.....

[robbboy2003]

You mustn't lose your dang on mind. Use the street or the common sense code or even the bible. Don't make it easy for the devil. If you have a keeper, don't you think someone sees and wants that too? I keep and eye on my prize,and a watchful eye on so called friends.

[Reesie]

I used to be married and when I was, I kept my friends: male and female. It didn't matter if they were married or single. I think it's ok to have friends of the opposite sex as long as there won't be any problems. The minute there is one, that friend has to go. My exhusband didn't want me to have male friends, but he felt it was ok for him to have female friends. Of course he couldn't put that double standard on me and I kept my male buddies whether he liked it or not. I'm in a relationship now and my man has a lot of female friends. I am aware of them all and have spoken to a few of his friends. He had to let go of one of them because she kept pressing him to be with her. This was a very good friend of his, too. She didn't respect me, our relationship or his wishes for her to back off, so she got the boot. With all that said, my eyes are open. I've known of people that were great friends with someone that was involved and they would cheat with her man. Never let your guard down people. It's ok to relax it, but don't ever put 100% BLIND trust in anyone. JMO.