After the rejection...

[Blak]

When 2 people attempt a relationship and one rejects the other, but because of being friendly before attempting anything romantic, they decide to remain freindly, do you think things will eventually fall apart?

If the reject has no intention of persuing a romance and really is just remaining freindly with the person who did the rejecting, will it work for a while then fall apart? will bitterness take over? Can things work out just fine?

What is your experience?

Blak

[sumthingbetter4u]

i think it would fall apart if someone is rejected

and the person who did the rejecting may carry differently towards the person that wanted them

personally i would'nt try to be friends with someone that rejected me friendly maybe but not hangout buddys the person doing the rejecting could maybe start to play with you emotions


i'm kind of to tired right now to go into details

but no i would'nt still try and be friends with a friend who at one point i was liking but than he stopped liking me the same way he may turn nasty or something

[lizaa]

When I broke up with my boyfriend we remained friends-he decided that he wanted to go back to play semi -pro-ball and I wanted to break up because of the distance thing and I felt that he may feel the need to bond with other females{if you know what I mean}we remained friends to this day ..we speak on things that happen in our lives but I never went back with him even though he's asked earlier when his tour finished..I moved on in my life-but I do feel as though people can remain friends if the maturity level is at it's peak.

[Blak]

Originally Posted by Cheese Biscuit

Blak, if two people start out as friends first, it's possible to remain friends even if the relationship doesn't work out. It helps if you sit down and define (discuss) the type of relationship that you're interested in.

Yeah....that is exactly what happend in my case. I was working fine or so I thought. It is a complicated case though....very much so to where I was not able to draw a conclusion on being friends after a rejection (from my experience). The friendship is still there in altered format...but since we are at a long distance....until I move to her city later this year, it is hard to tell where things are really at.

Blak

[HoOdPrInCe]

I cant be somebody's friend after a breakup...too much temptation and love that is still left....

[Lonewolf]

The last person that rejected me...we weren't exactly in a relationship but it appeared to be heading that way. Anyway, we were friends before that so I didn't have a problem with being friends. But all that meant to me was no more taking her out on dates and no calling on the phone. I see her when/if I see her.

[jimihaze]

I could be friends but I would want space after the break-up. I would not want to jump right into the friendship thing right away but in time.

[Corals]

Originally Posted by Blak

When 2 people attempt a relationship and one rejects the other, but because of being friendly before attempting anything romantic, they decide to remain freindly, do you think things will eventually fall apart?

If the reject has no intention of persuing a romance and really is just remaining freindly with the person who did the rejecting, will it work for a while then fall apart? will bitterness take over? Can things work out just fine?

What is your experience?

Blak

Well if they attempted to form a relationship and nothing had developed, that is, they didn't become romantically involved, then no harm is done so there is no reason why that friendship cannot continue, and long as both know the rules. On the other hand, if they were romantically involved then it would be hard to continue that friendship.

[sumthingbetter4u]

Originally Posted by lizaa

I never went back with him even though he's asked earlier when his tour finished

and this part right here is way i would'nt remain friends with someone that rejected me cause of the later issue of us maybe hooking up later on down the line

if i wanted to rehook up and he did'nt i'd feel rejected all over again
and if he wanted to rehook up and i did'nt he'd be feeling rejected

we'd be hi and bye how's it going friends
but not sit down lets have conversation go out to the movies talk on the phone friends that may in a moment of need rehook up only to maybe be strung long later

[Phatkatt_76]

In my experience the biggest problem in a relationship is communication. If you want to be JUST booty buddies, then express that. If you were happy at one time, but not so happy now, then it's best that you express that as well.

If folks would lay the real deal on the wood at the beginning, middle and the end of a relationship, more ppl would remain friends after a break up. Two mature folks should be able to deal with a mutual seperation, w/ out bitterness.