What is intimacy to you - AfroChat - African American

MilitantWombMan · June 29th, 2005, 03:41 PM

I just wanted to ask ..what is intimacy to you?

Corals · June 29th, 2005, 04:21 PM

To me intimacy in a relationship is something that is developed over a period of time with someone whom you have known for a while and have grown to love, respect and trust, because in such a relationship there are no barriers.

You can freely express yourself and show the real you, it is as if you and your partner are one. There are also no secrets and whilst everything in said and said in the open, there is still that measure of respect for each other.

Chelbe · June 29th, 2005, 07:39 PM

To me, intimacy has very little to do with actual sex. IMO intimacy has alot to do with the interaction between 2 people...including subtle actions and putting love in everything you do for that person. It's in your body language, eyes, tone, touch and in the way you do the things you do towards that person, it's even mind thing. As well as other things that Im sure some others might mention.

Isis7 · June 29th, 2005, 07:45 PM

All I know is... me and this chocolate ganache cupcake had a VERY intimate moment about 5 minutes ago...

Intimacy includes but is not limited to quiet moments spent between the two of you, whether it be talking, cuddling, or just breathing. Intimacy is when your souls connect and you dont have to say a word to know that you're enjoying the company kept between the two of you.
Its walking along the beach at sunset smiling, its laying in each others arms kissing, caressing, holding...

Its all about those "moments" and not necessarily sex.

Celeste · May 1st, 2007, 03:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Isis7

All I know is... me and this chocolate ganache cupcake had a VERY intimate moment about 5 minutes ago...

...quiet moments spent between the two of you, whether it be talking, cuddling, or just breathing...when your souls connect and you dont have to say a word...

Its all about those "moments" and not necessarily sex.

As far as the cupcake is concerned

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I appreciate your words here, Sister Isis.
Intimacy develops in such subtle ways...tender and quiet, sweet and passionate...the thousand "little" things you do for the one you love...that incomparable feeling of being "at home" in the arms of your beloved, the solace of eachother's rhythmic breathing in the night... shared laughter, knowing you can reveal your most private thoughts in total safety.
The intimate shelter of the human heart.

MadameX · May 1st, 2007, 05:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Chelbe

To me, intimacy has very little to do with actual sex. IMO intimacy has alot to do with the interaction between 2 people...including subtle actions and putting love in everything you do for that person. It's in your body language, eyes, tone, touch and in the way you do the things you do towards that person, it's even mind thing.

Precisely. It can transcend miles and superficial barriers if two individuals are in accord with one another mentally, spiritually,and sexually.

poeticasylum1 · May 2nd, 2007, 12:21 AM

I see that no brothers have replied to this so I guess I will step out in the deep. What is intimacy to me? I think intimacy to me is coming to a place where I and my significant other come into agreement about our lives together. I have her back and she has mine. Its connecting with that one where the air isnt the same without other's presence. Its listening to the words of each other and handling them with care.

And since I am a man, yep sex is a part of it too period.

Call me shallow...its the truth.