What men want - AfroChat - African American

thinkslow · June 22nd, 2005, 03:24 AM

To the men out there, what do you personally want and value in relationships or just everyday interactions with women?

Background-
I just read an article in the latest issue of Essence titled 'what men want' where they surveyed almost 1000 black men about what they preferred in women. I was somewhat disappointed in this article (and am growing increasingly disappointed in essence, but that's another thread) as it listed things men want that are pretty much static for the most part and are not things a woman can change, such as physical features (she looks like nia long), number of children, age, personal beliefs (whether or not men and women should share household duties), etc. So while I myself have wondered what men really want in various relationships, what I really think would be helpful for me is things I can realisticly adjust and change about the way I approach or handle interactions or issues with a man.

Bookman · June 22nd, 2005, 03:42 AM

Happyness and Happyness only

Kokonsa Hene · June 22nd, 2005, 05:25 AM

Indeed Happiness, but that involves a lot of sacrifices to be made.

Bookman · June 22nd, 2005, 05:54 AM

Cheese Biscuit :) ..lol

I said Happiness Because it Defines just about everything

Most Relationships/Marriges from what i have learned and experienced are Confusing. and most of it is because Lack of trust and love for their partners. If There was a way to eliminate all the confusion within our Love Lives We'd be Happy ...

for starters is Just to Agree on Simple things instead of making big arguments about everything

love is not supposed to be confusing.

If everybody looked the same, act the same, had the same beliefs, the only thing that would be a factor in life is Love which should end up in happiness

and I want my woman to be happy & she shall want the same for me. This would include Everything true relationships have to offer.. thats a whole lot of lovin' :)

Corals · June 22nd, 2005, 08:43 AM

I think that is just the problem, some men just do not know what they want or what it is they are looking for. They have this image of the perfect woman/relationship, where everything must be perfect, and when that does not happen, it means they are not happen in the relationship because things are not going the way they should be.

I think if people in general accept that no one is perfect, neither is there such a thing as the perfect relationship, then whatever it is they are looking for, they will find.

DBlack · June 22nd, 2005, 09:50 AM

Essence and Ebony have become increasingly aloof as to what black men really want in today's times.

For the most part, our needs are basic; food, water, sex, and peace.

The best overall advice I can give to today's woman looking for the quick answer is for them to stop expecting men to act like women.