What men want

[WindyCity4Ever]

i said i would reply for real but i didnt want to get shanked.....lmao

[Lonewolf]

I think DBlack and Tenkawa covered it pretty much.

I don't think women listen and/or understand men too well, so I'd add that too. Women are constantly TELLING men what WE think instead of just accepting that what we are telling them is how it is, which is rather condescending.

There's a thread on another board talking about how hard it is for "successful" women to find love and how black men "run" from them because we are "insecure".

Horse$h!+.

So anyway, men (and some of better informed, wiser, and MARRIED women) on the board are TELLING these women that men don't have to be scared of women to not want to be with them. We're not afraid of women, but we do quickly lose interest in women who are nothing more than their education, their resume, their degree, etc. But are these women listening? Of course not. It's still some man's fault somewhere. They're actually TELLING these men (I'm not participating in the discussion) how they feel about it, like the fellas are lying or something.

Women just don't freakin' listen, so that's a good place to start with us. Shut the hell up sometimes, realize that women are not really that much smarter than men, just different, and last but not least....shut the hell up and listen.

And if I don't feel like talking, stop pressuring me because all I'm going to do is go somewhere where I don't have to talk. Men value PEACE above all else.

[Tenkawa]

Another thing: we don't mind talking; your timing is garbage, though. If we're watching a football game, our team is down by four with one minute left, and our offense is about 75 trillion miles away from the game winning touchdown, please don't pick that time to ask if I want to go somewhere or do something, or discuss something that you could've brought up nineteen years ago, but didn't because you felt it wasn't important until this exact moment in time, and...

D*** it! I missed the comeback!

[Blak]

From a relationship I want a woman that works with me not against or in competition with me. More than that, I DONT want a woman that expects things of me that she cant do, has not done, or cant/wont do an equivalent of.....she needs to have her feet on the ground and not look for superman if she aint wonderwoman. I need a woman who can see things from other peoples side of the story....someone who can empathize cause if the world needs to come to a stop when she has a bad day....that is cool....as long as it is the same when I do as well....too often I hear of men catering to their womans moods and the reciprocal action dont happen at all as if bad shiit dont happen to men and they dont get in bad situations with work, family or whatever.

Blak

[Samoon]

Originally Posted by Chelbe

Basically the same things I want.

Agreeing with Chelbe--and financial security. Money is not everything, but it's running a hard second to whatever's first. lol...

[MaximusRex]

Head. Men want incredibly intense, mindblowing, toe curling, head that will make you call for your mama to tell her to stop. Preferably by cute, chesty, and nice a$$ having females.

[jimihaze]

food and something to drink and the tv remote and access to the tv the entire weekend and every weekend and sex on cue and silence.

[thinkslow]

Originally Posted by DBlack

Essence and Ebony have become increasingly aloof as to what black men really want in today's times.

For the most part, our needs are basic; food, water, sex, and peace.

The best overall advice I can give to today's woman looking for the quick answer is for them to stop expecting men to act like women.

That's a good point. I think I'm guilty of this myself. It seems too that in society there's a growing expectation for men to act more like women in discussing their feelings.

[Lonewolf]

Exactly. I find it odd that women want men to express their feelings when these same women often dispute said feelings when men do decide to open up. I quit talking to women about anything I felt for this very reason. I've hadmy manhood questioned a few times just for sharing some pain I felt, so that was my lesson in "opening up" to women. I realized that women really don't care what men think, as long as we agree with them.

Men are not nearly as complex as women want to be (yes, I said WANT to be) but that doesn't make us lesser creatures. Our needs are just more simple and better defined. Women are all over the place with their crap.

[Corals]

Men want happiness, for women to stop expecting them to act like a woman, fod, water, sex, peace, love, sto stop asking questions, for them to listen, peace, for them to talk at the right time, someone to show empathy, a freak.

Some of those things are man's basic needs which is understandable.

It is of my opinion that most men want a puppet. Kind of reminds me of that song 'I'm your puppet'. "Pull another string and I'll................. :D

Looks like the creation process has to start all over again and women be made to use their instincts alone, and become instinctively wise. :LolLolLol