All Men Cheat Or Have Cheated ?!?!?!?

[DBlack]

Originally Posted by Ocedion

I have never cheated...i say never cheated. I am very close to my mother and she told me if I ever cheated on my significant other, i am not only disrespecting the girl i'm with, I am also her (my mother) and myself. Why would I wanna disrespect my mother? She is the one who gave me life...it's b/c her i am here!! And for the quys who thinks "it's there duty to please that booty" how would you feel if that's your mother getting her booty please by some other man around the way who got a girl. Ladies the same goes for you to!!!

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I'm a little too old to be defining my life by what my mother wants.....gimma a break!

[AdriansMommy]

I can honestly say that I have never cheated on anyone Ive been with. My ex did cheat on me, lol and he tried to "make it better" well.... he said he didnt cheat on me. He was ABOUT TO, but he didnt have a condom....then he started thinking about me....oh please. For about 2 weeks he was on the couch and kissing my behind for 2 weeks. I did stay with him, because I felt that we could work through anything as long as the love was there. We had seen each other thru some hardships, and I didnt want to give up on something that I had already put my all in. Needless to say My all had had enough. We parted on different reasons, but I never forgot about that.

I did watch oprah today. That man who cheated with his sons den leader. He pissed me off the most. Like Oprah said, "those tears dont mean a damn if you cant tell the truth......" I didnt understand how they were cheating becaues something was missing, but she asked them were they happy with their wives and the answer was yes. I know it doesnt always have to be sexual, but If you are happy in your marriage, and your wife is fulfiling her vows to you....why would you cheat and then say, "because something was missing?" I dont get that I missed the After the Show....I would have liked to seen what the audience thought, and why didnt that last mans wife stay at home.

[elmb]

You get to an age that prayerfully, you are a better person than you was say 2,5,10 years ago. Right now in my life, in my marriage, I choose not to think along those terms. I trust my husband and live each day until the next. If we all thought like this for real, there would be no next generation b/c there would be no relationships.

[Chelbe]

I have been cheated on... a few times, but I refuse to believe that ALL men cheat or have cheated and the same goes for women. Its getting tired honestly.

[jimihaze]

Look no one sex has a monopoly on cheating both sexes do more than there fair share men however get caught more. I am not saying that women don't get caught they do however some women are better planers and executers than other women and man do these women have there stories together!! OH MY GOD!! that crap sound so good they believe it themselves. In most cases with women and cheating you will never know unless they want you to know because they game so tight sometimes. That is not to say that some brothers are not smooth because there are some. I think I read that MIM typed that men don't cheat on there wives, well brother not only do they cheat on them they cheat with other women and men they have outside children as well. And not to leave the married women out they cheat as well and some of them have the nerve to get pregnant by the other man and name the child after the husband just like everthing alright. I am not telling you what I heard I am telling you what I know to be a fact because I have seen this done a number of times. I also know some women that are raising some children that are not theres but belong to there husbands and these are children that there husbands have gotten during there marriage with outside women. all I mean is that it is not fair to say all men cheat unless you are going to say all women cheat, hey less be fair. because ladies if you are fair you know some of you have that one female friend that you would not trust with a glass of water let alone your man. I mean there are some bold women out there. for instants me and a guy from work were hanging out and this chic walked up to him and was trying to get with him she asked him if he was married and he told her no but that he has a girlfriend and this chic said and I quote"baby you are a much right man and that means that I(meaning herself) have just as much right to you as she has so what's up". dude was like dam!he turned her down in a nice way, and she was no ugly female. like I said there are some bold women out there. all I am saying is I call it like I see it 50-50. I have never cheated because one I am to scared to get a disease and two I believe in treating people the way I would like to be treated and besides, that cheating mess is game playing I have no time for games like that .

[Lonewolf]

Originally Posted by Cheese Biscuit

Lonewolf, you might try being more honest with the next female that comes along. If you wanted out of your (then) current relationship, why couldn't you just tell her? As far as the girl that you cheated with, don't you think that she deserved the truth also? If you make the effort to be more honest with yourself and others, you'll find that the regrets are far and few between. You're gonna be alright, sho nuff!

You make a good point, but like I said, at the time I really was not thinking about the girlfriend. Not at all. I wasn't out looking for someone else to be with. To be really honest, I can't even remember how I ended up at the other girl's place. She had been flirting with me a lot, but I didn't take it seriously. Then after we were intimate she started being typical, calling me all the time, asking people where I was, things of that nature. That's when I realized that she liked me, but still, the whole time I wasn't thinking about my girlfriend.

You are right about being honest though. I did learn that lesson.

[Phatkatt_76]

Originally Posted by Lonewolf

"Just let a sistah know where ur coming from, we can't control the things ppl do, but were allowed to react. I think that's a cheater's biggest fear."

Maybe, but in my situation I really wasn't thinking about her. I guess it's because in my mind she wasn't my girlfriend anymore. I was in a different city and didn't have any plans to mess with her when I got home. This is the same girl I mentioned in another thread that made a stupid statement to me and it took me a while to figure out why I was offended. I lost interest at that point, but looking back I think I was afraid I wouldn't be able to find anyone else if I broke up with her. We had been "high school sweethearts" and we were all we knew. It turns out I was right, since I haven't had a meaningful relationship since then. Sometimes I wonder if I'm being punished, but I know people who have done much worse and have had much success, so I doubt it.

But anyway, I don't think cheaters fear anything. They just don't care. I know I didn't. To be honest, I felt worse for the girl I cheated with, because she expressed serious interest and she ended up being hurt. I still regret that to this day.

Okay, I feel ya, but you did have fear. You just said you didn't think you could find anyone else, and today you've found that to be true. Male or female I think we all have that fear at some time.

But I think a lot of the issue is relationships take time and a whole lot of effort. If we don't work on the weak parts of aour relationships then how will it get grow to be better ?? It's so easy to say....she/he offended me so I'm out !! But does that person really know what went wrong ?? No one is perfect, but a lot of times if we just communicated, things would get better.

@@@@ OCEDION !!!!!!!!!!!!

"it's their duty to please that booty " ??!!!!!??? :LolLolLol

[Lonewolf]

Yeah, you're right. I was worried I wouldn't be able to find anyone else at the time. But I also realized that I still shouldn't be holding on to something just because we're "used" to each other. Her offense wasn't so bad in retrospect, but it cast a huge light on just how little we had in common. There really was no coming back from that, especially since she refused to apologize until it was too late. We both did our fair share of wrong in the situation.

I'd like to be more patient with women, but I've never been a patient person. One offense and they have to go.

[Phatkatt_76]

Originally Posted by therealisticlady

Ok I guess I am going to be the first woman to confess here. I did cheat on my ex husband but only after I knew and also told him our relationship was through. Although I dont believe my ex husband cheated on me I took alot of abuse in our 13 year marriage both physical and emotional. When I came to myself I realized that I was selling my self short and that I was entitled to be happy. We did do the counseling thing proir to my cheating on him but once I realized that there was no way our relationship could be mended I did what made me happy. I cant say that is was nice but I can say I didnt feel guilty. I always told him to never ask things he didnt really want to know the answer to and althoug I did tell him I was cheating he just refused to give up. I guess that goes to the fact that you never know what you really have until it is gone. I dont believe I would ever cheat on anyone again because I know the hurt, pain, and destruction that it can cause a family. Also I married young and my ex was 15 years my elder. I guess when he lost control of me he knew what he had coming.

On the flip side I have been cheated on also. For some reason I get men who want to confess their sins to me like I am mother teresa or something. No I didnt forgive them nor did I ever give them a second thought. Although my feelings were hurt, I knew they could never be trusted again.

In case you are wondering, yes the man I am currently with does know about the indescretions I committed against my ex husband. Is the current man cheating? Two years living together and so far no clue that it is in his character to cheat but you just never know. I guess my question is, does having this information make you less trusting of your man/woman?

First I'd like to say, I'm not feelin' ur post just b/c ur a woman I'm feeling it because you had the strength to pull ur self outta a horrible situation and move on.

I can understand what you did b/c you were basically forced to lose the love that u once had for ur EX husband. Being mentally abused by someone you've given ur heart and life to is worse that being punched in the face ( I've been there)

My issue is with those who claim to have so much love of their significant other, but can lay up with another so easily.

We all deserve happiness, yours was over due, and ur EX shouldn't have been surprised. He should've expected and respected ur decision.

[Phatkatt_76]

Originally Posted by AdriansMommy

I can honestly say that I have never cheated on anyone Ive been with. My ex did cheat on me, lol and he tried to "make it better" well.... he said he didnt cheat on me. He was ABOUT TO, but he didnt have a condom....then he started thinking about me....oh please. For about 2 weeks he was on the couch and kissing my behind for 2 weeks. I did stay with him, because I felt that we could work through anything as long as the love was there. We had seen each other thru some hardships, and I didnt want to give up on something that I had already put my all in. Needless to say My all had had enough. We parted on different reasons, but I never forgot about that.

I did watch oprah today. That man who cheated with his sons den leader. He pissed me off the most. Like Oprah said, "those tears dont mean a damn if you cant tell the truth......" I didnt understand how they were cheating becaues something was missing, but she asked them were they happy with their wives and the answer was yes. I know it doesnt always have to be sexual, but If you are happy in your marriage, and your wife is fulfiling her vows to you....why would you cheat and then say, "because something was missing?" I dont get that I missed the After the Show....I would have liked to seen what the audience thought, and why didnt that last mans wife stay at home.

OOOOKAY !!! That was my thing too, the DAMM den leader ?!?!?? WTF !!!!!! And on the show he's slanging snot ?!?!?? See I just thought that isshhhh was fake as he!!!

The EXCUSE that they're missing something is just that, and excuse !! What about the good girls who watch ESPN , cook, clean, care for the kids, hold a career ( not just a JOB ) and lay it down between the sheets ???? Then WHAT ??
Nope !! Those men were selfish disrespectful mOFO'S who thought they were getting away with something.
The one ho pissed me off was the Black one ( Ryant ) he said when his wife would question him he'd get pissed off at her, thinking she had no right to ask him anything !! Ain't that some issssh ?!??! He just came home from pluckin so other chick, but gets mad at me for questioning him ?? Oh he!! NAW !!

But they loved their wives