Pay My Bills............ - AfroChat - African American

Phatkatt_76 · February 18th, 2005, 04:16 PM

Okay.......
Say ur in a serious relationship. Your Boyfriend spends a lot of time at your house ( every night ). Technically,he doesn't live w/you b/c his name is not on the deed to ur home.

BUT..................

Should have a financial responsibility to a certain extent ???????

slickbitty · February 18th, 2005, 05:29 PM

I'm old fashioned I'll say that straight out.

That being said, no man would ever be spending that kind of significant time at my house and be responsible for paying bills unless he's married to me. I realize that others are different, and in that case, if the person is spending a substantial amount of time, eating food, running up your light bill playing play station, then yes he needs to kick in. But if you never ask, how's bru'man going to know what your expectations are.

Chelbe · February 18th, 2005, 06:09 PM

I say Yes! He must contribute in some way.

Blak · February 18th, 2005, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Chelbe

I say Yes! He must contribute in some way.

I agree.....anyone living in with another person needs to contribute thier share of the bills according to how much time they spend.

Blak

Lonewolf · February 18th, 2005, 11:00 PM

I agree...to a point. But either way, I don't plan on living with anyone unless I'm married to them, so there goes that problem.

jaybrizzy · February 18th, 2005, 11:05 PM

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Originally Posted by PHATKATT_76

Okay.......
Say ur in a serious relationship. Your Boyfriend spends a lot of time at your house ( every night ). Technically,he doesn't live w/you b/c his name is not on the deed to ur home.

BUT..................

Should have a financial responsibility to a certain extent ???????

Damn if you do, damn if you don't. If he wasn't spending time with you would finances be an issue? I don't think so. You'd be crying for him to come over and spend time with you. You women talk out both sides of your neck.

Lonewolf · February 19th, 2005, 10:53 AM

^^^LOL

You got that right.

Phatkatt_76 · February 21st, 2005, 11:41 AM

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Originally Posted by jaybrizzy

Damn if you do, damn if you don't. If he wasn't spending time with you would finances be an issue? I don't think so. You'd be crying for him to come over and spend time with you. You women talk out both sides of your neck.

This post wasn't meant to be a male VS female issue. I'm thinking more along the lines of respect !!!

Being an ADULT, we all should understand what it takes to run a household. Now, I'm an independant woman, but I think a lot of men take being independant woman for granted. They'd rather offer to help that woman on welfare, abusing the system, who refuses to help herself. Now, as a human being, why would "your girlfriend" have to tell you to pay a bill every now and then ?? No one's asking for a financial commitment, just kick in on ur own from time to time. Why wouldn't you do that for someone who you claim to love so much ?!?!?

And "spending time " with us ( women ) ???? Is your time really that valuable, that it would eliminate teenie financial responsibility ?? If so, than how valuable is a WOMAN'S TIME ???

"Crying for him " ??????? NOT !!!!! Naw, sweetie this sista's only crying for an understanding ! It really doesn't matter if he agrees or disagrees with my point, b/c it can be handled either way . If he doesn't agree then he needs to limit his "sleep overs", go home to his on spot, and I'll stay in mine. It's just as simple as that. NO HARD FEELINGS.

I would feel obligated to assist with at least one bill, groceries or something !! If I spent that much time at anyone's HOME !

I think it's simply a matter of becoming a lil too comfortable. It can happen. I've always said I'd never live with a man that I wasn't married to, but on "sleep over " turns into several. At that point we shouldn't have to discuss finances. A REAL MAN ......NO , an ADULT should know enough to do that on their own, respecting their gf or bf.

000HONEY · February 22nd, 2005, 07:18 PM

Man or Woman, If YOU are staying in someone's home (even if it's your mama's home), YOU need to contribute something to the bills, unless the involved parties have come to another agreement.

It's just part of being a responsible ADULT, MAN or WOMAN!!!

Bookman · February 22nd, 2005, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by 000HONEY

Man or Woman, If YOU are staying in someone's home (even if it's your mama's home), YOU need to contribute something to the bills, unless the involved parties have come to another agreement.

It's just part of being a responsible ADULT, MAN or WOMAN!!!

I Feel that, this is why i need a job badly because of our rent already being at 4 and my dad dosent like to pay bills on time i plan to take over the phone/net bill because i use it the most. whatdo you think? ..

i dont plan to stay here much longer anyways I swear i will move with my GF. we were having similar discussion about this just last week.