Is it or isn't it about looks?

Originally Posted by Malia Niara

Greetings,
As a new member here, I am surprising myself by posting so soon but this topic has been coming up a lot lately, therefore I feel compelled to give my take on this matter. Personally a persons aura is what attracts me to them. The only thing that can really turn me off about a man physically are bad teeth. He can be fat, skinny, bald, loc'd, braided, short, tall, even have some sort of a physical handicap, it would all be good as long as his teeth were in order. My question to people who place importance on physicalities is this: if that beautiful/fine mate of yours was to become dismembered or disabled, does that mean that you would leave them? If you were blind like Stevie or Ray, how do you then pick your mate? Just some things to ponder, and I really would appreciate some replies to my questions.......until then.............
Peace

First off, welcome to AC Malia, great first post. I'll begin by saying that all women should see things as you do "He can be fat, skinny, bald, loc'd, braided, short, tall, even have some sort of a physical handicap, it would all be good as long as his teeth were in order." However, the only reason I think people place importance on physicalities is because what else do you have to go off of on that first encounterment? Looks, that's it (for the most part, that statement can be dissected n' analyzed a dozen ways) Point is, 80% of the time when you get w/someone it starts off from physical attraction n' it seems as though folks tryin' to say that's wrong. How so? How's that a bad thing...when that's all I start off with? Now if later on in the relationship one party becomes handicaped for whatever reason then if love is there everything will work out, but this thread isin't about love, it's about looks.

Funny thing is that aint even how it went down w/me. I was the other 20%, let's just say I met my girl long before I saw her. But I can still feel n' understand the other 80%.

[The Dragon]

Everyone has preferences. It has always been this way and will always be. The bottom line is what is on the inside which ultimately decides a "keeper." For most folks anyway.

I don't know about anyone else but I couldn't see myself abandoning my mate just because he developed a handicap. As far as blind people go they use their other senses to feel a person out and have preferences also.