Is it or isn't it about looks? - Page 2 - AfroChat - African American

naskiecenye · February 16th, 2005, 10:19 PM

okay i dont think that looks are everything but hygiene is

just dont come at me with stinkin breathe all loud like jerome from martin and we cool

February 19th, 2005, 08:39 PM

people spend too much time focusing on looks... I have a close friend who always choosing men based on their looks....not to mention shes also stuck on herself....she says men like her for her looks...well shes not too bright and she also has venereal warts...that men don't know about...so dating people based on their looks will get you more that you bargained for...cause these supposed 'dymes' and 'fine' men jump from person to to person....than the average regular person....thus carrying more STD's....

serenity · February 19th, 2005, 09:20 PM

I'd just like to point out that, in spite of the fact that people DO chose significant others based on appearance, it is correctable (if you consider it to be something needing correcting). I know this because I am no longer able to use apearance to pick a significant other. It holds no weight with me. After a number of poor choices based on outer qualities and gaining a certain amount of mental maturity, I find stupid people unnattractive. I find intellectual conversation sexy (ok, I'm a nerd).

Any way, one can train themselves to act in a way that is more beneficial to them. They just have to be willing to change. The longer you hold on to the idea that society made you a certain way and you have no choice in the matter, the longer you will stay stuck in whatever rut you are in.

Samoon · February 19th, 2005, 10:44 PM

It is true. Men are more visual than women. And men are hunters, simply socialized in this manner. With maturity, I moved beyond the focus of, "he had better be a 10 in every area." I'd always held the premise that, "fine may get him in the door, but SMART will keep him there." As Serenity stated, one must be willing to change.

robbboy2003 · August 9th, 2006, 11:30 PM

When, i was younger i liked the big three,which were nice size boobs a beautiful face and booty.Lol I'm older now and a brain and decent conversation is nice. :)

shankems2000 · August 10th, 2006, 09:06 AM

Of course, but let's be real here, what man doesn't want a woman that he's physically attracted to? The physical attraction is what gets me, and more than likely many others, interested enough to approach, but the woman's personality is what will make a lasting relationship.

MakaVeli_Pac · September 14th, 2006, 09:42 AM

Everything that looks good isnt always right for you. We all made the mistake of wanting someone based on looks and realizing that the person was a A**hole. Looks will only get you so far and as you get older them looks fade and then you will want someone to accept you for how you look later in life. When God judges us all, looks wont be one of the reasons he's judging you!

robbboy2003 · September 14th, 2006, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by MakaVeli_Pac

Everything that looks good isnt always right for you. We all made the mistake of wanting someone based on looks and realizing that the person was a A**hole. Looks will only get you so far and as you get older them looks fade and then you will want someone to accept you for how you look later in life. When God judges us all, looks wont be one of the reasons he's judging you!

Me thinks you are on your way to elevated thinking. That's what he said.

stingerD37 · September 23rd, 2006, 10:27 PM

My grandpa used to say,"It's the face powder that gets a man's attention, but it's the bakin' powder that keeps him." What man wants to come home to a pretty face and figure,but is unable to contribute anything to the relationship? On the other hand, what woman wants a lazy, handsome man? I have male co-workers who are having marriage difficulties because they have to do everything (pay all the bills, do housework, etc.). I even had one tell me that his wife was a "cold fish", so I'm like, "what are you telling me for?"
Also, I have recently discovered that good looks and sex appeal DO NOT go hand-in-hand.

Celeste · September 23rd, 2006, 10:50 PM

So far for me it's been about a mutual comfort-level. A physically beautiful man is a marvelous thing indeed, but there has to be a soul-connection, a humor-connection and a sense that we both have the same erotic-charge. Then again, I haven't found "the one" yet, so I'll keep an open mind.