The Other Woman - AfroChat - African American

hisotherwoman · July 13th, 2008, 10:25 AM

Are you the other woman? Are you involved with a married man and need to talk amongst other women who are in or were in the same situation?

Were you the other woman and are having a hard time moving on?

(((The Other Woman))) is an online group of black women who have found ourselves in this situation and can all relate, talk and hopefully help each other through this. Who else do we have to talk to about this!

This group is not for women who purposely go after/date married men and this group does not condone being the the other woman. We are simply here to listen, offer advice and see each other through this! Black women 25 or older only!

http://groups.google.com/group/the-other-woman

The Dragon · July 13th, 2008, 12:50 PM

can you please explain why you posted this three times; please go back and read the forum rules!!

JamieC · July 13th, 2008, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by The Dragon

can you please explain why you posted this three times; please go back and read the forum rules!!

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Originally Posted by hisotherwoman

Are you the other woman? Are you involved with a married man and need to talk amongst other women who are in or were in the same situation?

Were you the other woman and are having a hard time moving on?

(((The Other Woman))) is an online group of black women who have found ourselves in this situation and can all relate, talk and hopefully help each other through this. Who else do we have to talk to about this!

This group is not for women who purposely go after/date married men and this group does not condone being the the other woman. We are simply here to listen, offer advice and see each other through this! Black women 25 or older only!

http://groups.google.com/group/the-other-woman

I've never been in that situation so I can't relate. Why would any self respecting woman (No matter what race she is) let something like this even happen? It takes two to tangle and if the other woman has been brainwashed by believing that the man is going to leave his wife for her, there really is a problem and she should seek counseling because she needs her head examined!! The other woman wouldn't be in the situation she's in had she kept her nose clean and not trusted broken promises.

Maybe the other woman doesn't look at the hurt behind broken promises and everything doesn't turn out to be the fairytale ending she hoped for.

Hey Dragon!!! We took care of the duplicates.

afrocentric · July 13th, 2008, 02:27 PM

it goes both ways.

MadameX · July 13th, 2008, 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by JamieC

I've never been in that situation so I can't relate. Why would any self respecting woman (No matter what race she is) let something like this even happen? It takes two to tangle and if the other woman has been brainwashed by believing that the man is going to leave his wife for her, there really is a problem and she should seek counseling because she needs her head examined!! The other woman wouldn't be in the situation she's in had she kept her nose clean and not trusted broken promises.

Maybe the other woman doesn't look at the hurt behind broken promises and everything doesn't turn out to be the fairytale ending she hoped for

Just like yourself sistagirl, I don't stoop to lows like those misguided graham cracker eating women that allow themselves to be put in that situation who weren't raised by their mother (just a misguided as them) to respect the saintity of marriage. As the saying goes, what you do will come back on you in triple fold and what a price to pay for ones life.

JamieC · July 13th, 2008, 04:44 PM

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Just like yourself sistagirl, I don't stoop to lows like those misguided graham cracker eating women that allow themselves to be put in that situation who weren't raised by their mother (just a misguided as them) to respect the saintity of marriage. As the saying goes, what you do will come back on you in triple fold and what a price to pay for ones life.

Amen.. That's what I'm talking about.

InnerCityRose · July 14th, 2008, 12:22 AM

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Originally Posted by JamieC

I've never been in that situation so I can't relate. Why would any self respecting woman (No matter what race she is) let something like this even happen? It takes two to tangle and if the other woman has been brainwashed by believing that the man is going to leave his wife for her, there really is a problem and she should seek counseling because she needs her head examined!! The other woman wouldn't be in the situation she's in had she kept her nose clean and not trusted broken promises.

Maybe the other woman doesn't look at the hurt behind broken promises and everything doesn't turn out to be the fairytale ending she hoped for.

Hey Dragon!!! We took care of the duplicates.

I don't think that is totally fair. What about the female that DOESN"T know he is married? Many self respecting women date married men and not all married men promise to ever leave their wife and some woman are fine with that. I am not one of those women, but there was a time in my life where I fell for a man who was married and also lived out of state. Found out much later that he had a wife and child at home when she called me. When your feelings are involved, sometimes it's hard to walk away, but I had no choice but to do exactly that. I can be honest, it didn't happen right away, but it did happen. Sometimes you can't help who you connect with especially if you are shown the full deck from jump. Getting in that situation was not planned and not something I'm proud of....but I have plenty self respect for myself which is why I have moved on.

Just out of curiosity are all the posters who posted prior to my post married? Seems as if all the married ones are the ones who bash other females. I a not saying the other females are right in what they are doing, but some of the married ones, need to take a look at their relationships to see why he is stepping out in the first place. Just my two cents.

InnerCityRose · July 14th, 2008, 12:23 AM

that should have read "especially if you are NOT shown the full deck from jump."

serene · July 14th, 2008, 01:17 AM

This is one of those things that i absolutely don't like, and don't respect. I'm not attacking anyone personality by the way, there is all kinds of wrong about messing with a married man. I personally don't care what his situation to me, he's still married.

While i've never been the other woman (prob cuz i dont' know many people married my age), and i don't plan on ever going that route, i know members of the fam who have. It just really disgusts me. Not only the man, whom i feels holds alot of responsibilty to his marriage, but to the other woman as well. Obviously, i don't feel this way about people who don't know their partner is married, but once you do find out, and choose to continue the relationship, then you hold more weight than before.

how you get him, is how you gonna lose him.

JamieC · July 14th, 2008, 12:45 PM

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Originally Posted by InnerCityRose

Just out of curiosity are all the posters who posted prior to my post married? Seems as if all the married ones are the ones who bash other females. I a not saying the other females are right in what they are doing, but some of the married ones, need to take a look at their relationships to see why he is stepping out in the first place. Just my two cents.

Married 20 years. That's why I said I "CAN'T" relate and our relationshhip is wonderful so we don't have to worry about stepping out on one another. Just my two cents