How Do You Stop Loving Someone? - Page 9 - AfroChat - African American

Wifey_Material · October 3rd, 2008, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by chocolatechiche

I have to honestly say I am going through the same thing right now, I was with a man for 4years we were a couple months shy of 5 years and had a really bad break up. Its been over a year and I still haven't gotten over him. I even had a rebound guy who just after a year didnt work out.... so when you find the answer let me kno'.... I hurt....so much and he doesnt feel my pain.

TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS...it just takes longer for some people to get over someone they loved

Sidney23 · October 11th, 2008, 02:19 AM

You are in love with love so just remember love don't love nobody! If the feelings aren't reciprocated then it is impossible for you to truly be in love, you are infatuated. Concentrate on loving yourself and you will eventually find love.

blackisbeautiful · October 11th, 2008, 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Sidney23

You are in love with love so just remember love don't love nobody! If the feelings aren't reciprocated then it is impossible for you to truly be in love, you are infatuated. Concentrate on loving yourself and you will eventually find love.

I agree with the end of what you said. That is where love begins. Within yourself. It is impossible to truly love someone, or allow yourself to be genuinely loved when you don't love yourself.

tyrone_bak · October 14th, 2008, 08:47 PM

What if you were in love and the person was living with you?

It's difficult to keep away and not see that person. Which I haven't. It's hard!! I like hanging out in Dallas. I'm a socialite but they do too. I'm trying to wait awhile because I know I'm gonna accidentally bump into this woman.

They had all this stuff and they disappear for about 4 months. Obviously, they were spending time with somebody else. I don't want to see them or the other person. Most of the stuff including furnisher is gone!

And they stole $700.00 by falsifying my signature on one of my checks.

But they said they love me... I have already started a separate thread but I didn't add the $700.00 part.

Any suggestions?

PEACHES2814 · October 17th, 2008, 01:27 AM

Dang That Alot Of Money Too.

BigSpartan · October 19th, 2008, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by RBG3

Say you're in love with someone who doesn't return those feelings to you...how do you go about not loving this person anymore?

I'm not talking about lust, or liking, I mean genuine "I'll die for you" love. With no possibility of them loving you back, how do you stop yourself or move on?

<< not to be rude, I just rarely get to use these things

Just cut them off and work those feelings out, once you accept and truly accept the fact she/he won't be returning the feelings you have for him/her then it should be fairly easy to get yourself together. Ok it won't be easy, it'll take some time...few months maybe longer but in the end it'll be worth it.

PEACHES2814 · October 20th, 2008, 06:25 AM

That Very True Too.

PreciousNubianEmpres · October 20th, 2008, 04:46 PM

i was in a long relationship as well, off and on for 11 yrs. we would break up and make up all the time but this last time was the last time. I yearn for this brother and I know he yearns for me and I still Love him and miss the shitz out of him. If you grow up apart the common ground is no longer equal and someone has not caught up with the other emotionally and spiritually. bla bla bla. you can love a person from a distance. That's what i did and still do b/c he was not good for my health.

Voluptuous Miss · October 20th, 2008, 06:16 PM

Empres, I know what you mean...
Eventually all of your desires for this guy will fade, it did in my situation. My ex wasn't good for me because he was insecure and jealous. And thoes issues made me think, "Hmm, with all of his issues is he even able to trust me?" Long story short, I spent a lot of time trying to ease his insecurities, which was wrong. It was an unhealthy relationship. It takes a strong person to stay in a problematic relationship, but an even stronger one to walk away.

miku · November 14th, 2008, 02:14 PM

Hi, I am new to this place...and searching I cam across this post...I have faced similar (definitely not same) situations. They are normal.... and this kind of thing can happen several times in life.
What do I do :
1. I accept the situation....ie.accept the feeling, I dont fight it. That way it is easy. ie. accept the feeling that you have deep feelings for a person, but they cannot return it back to you and that's not their fault !
2. You are being foolish if you try to keep holding this on for always. That is self defeating. It doesnt help you or that person, rather the reverse, so accept that
3. Once you accept that, and I mean truely beleiving it, ie. accepting reality telling yourself there is absolutely no point in hurting...
4. Then and only then you get to move on. Like many things in life, you get no quick fixes, also it takes time. Time DOES heal, WILL heal, but you must let it..
ie. learn to let go, as one of those things that are always there in life
5.Things dont go your way all the time, it is wrong to expect it
6. All problems start when we want to change the things to move our way, we are happy when they do, and unhappy when they dont,....but that's life. Accepting the situation and "Teaching" yourself day by day to be reasonable and realistic, you move on.....on this roller coaster, upside downside journey called life....
hmmmmmmm, that's my first post in this forum, hope it helps !