How Do You Stop Loving Someone? - Page 7 - AfroChat - African American

mrsbland28 · September 8th, 2008, 07:53 PM

In time it will fade, but in the meanwhile, your going to go through the motions, but just remember it will make you a stronger person.

Amelia456 · September 9th, 2008, 01:34 AM

Love itself cannot be turned off immediately. I would suggest distancing yourself from that person, keeping yourself busy so that your every thought does not take you back to that person, and dating other people. Your feelings for that person will lessen and eventually disappear (if not disappear, you will be at a point where the love you have for them is not on the same level as it was befor).

Samoon · September 9th, 2008, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by BlackXpat

You can turn it off,I made the mistake in loving a woman too much with not much effort in return.Never love someone if they are not putting in effort enough to match your love.Love in relationships are conditional.Dont waste time,i wasted five years to a slothful,decietful woman who i found out was whoreing on me anyway.

"If you are treated as an OPTION as opposed to being a PRIORITY?

Well, you do the math. Get on with your life. There are a hella lot of people that you have YET to meet. Get it?

mlc0908 · September 9th, 2008, 10:00 PM

IMO, real true and unconditional love lasts forever. I dont believe in the ability to just stop loving, so any methods, tips, tricks, spells etc to aid in doing so are non existent. Time will pass, the hurt and anger will go away. What remains is the love and its resilience....which is just the natural cycle and in turn allows us to love again.

eXcelon · September 16th, 2008, 03:27 AM

It will be heartwrenching, either road you take if you truly were in love. If you depend on your Heavenly Father, who is the personification of LOVE, pray and ask for help in dealing with your feelings, He will help you, because He wants us all to have Love. But you must work in harmony with the prayer. Much love to you and to the one you find! AGAPE

Voluptuous Miss · September 16th, 2008, 03:46 AM

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Originally Posted by eXcelon

It will be heartwrenching, either road you take if you truly were in love. If you depend on your Heavenly Father, who is the personification of LOVE, pray and ask for help in dealing with your feelings, He will help you, because He wants us all to have Love. But you must work in harmony with the prayer. Much love to you and to the one you find! AGAPE

I agree eX
And he does want us to have love, especially that Agape love.

eXcelon · September 17th, 2008, 11:48 AM

Thank you Voluptous Miss. We all have been hurt in some form or fashion. We just need to be real with ourselves, pray and be optimistic. AGAPE

Wifey_Material · September 17th, 2008, 03:30 PM

I was in this situation not too long ago. I fell in love with a guy (for all the wrong reasons) and eventually my love for him just faded away.

I still have love for him but I notice that I dont love him as much as I use to...its kinda hard to explain but thats just how it is

Towards the end of the relationship he changes drastically...his ugly side began to show and it turned me off! Turned me off so bad I did everything in my power to ignore him and eventually I managed to move on

I missed him a bit, but I realized that I dont need that type of negativity in my life - I didnt care how much I loved him, I just knew that I wasnt gonna put up with the nonsense

PEACHES2814 · September 18th, 2008, 04:46 AM

this sound like a good topic too.

PEACHES2814 · September 18th, 2008, 04:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Samoon

"If you are treated as an OPTION as opposed to being a PRIORITY?

Well, you do the math. Get on with your life. There are a hella lot of people that you have YET to meet. Get it?

iI FEEL YOU ON THAT ONE TOO.