How Do You Stop Loving Someone?

Originally Posted by Bridge

I had a friend who used to enjoy staying in a dream world of love with people who never cared about him. But he just enjoyed the thought of loving them. He would fantasize and enjoy it. Isn't that perhaps better than trying to forget the person?

To me no. Coming to grips with reality is by far more effective. Ones ability & desire to move forward...well not even forward just yet, as there may be time to needed to reflect on what happened, whos at fault,... why she slept with you brother however sitting idle, deciding which road to head down next, At least puts you in the drivers seat. instead of living a fantasy, imagining that ex lover with their imaginary love for you, will accompany you down this soo realistic path..LOL (look out oncoming traffic foo!!)

[RBG3]

I went years doing that fantasy thing...it is extremely unhealthy..mentally I mean..I was losing my mind..it was a complacent thoughts..which is always unhealthy for your mind..I was doing foolish things..had these mood swings (whenever I thought of her, would be happy with thoughts of her, then realize not having her and be angry - kind of like a mental problem..) it was horrible..I prefer this.....im like..75% over her..

[Paul Cuffee]

I'm not sure. I genuinely loved a few women, eventually things separated us. I still loved them yet had no chance of their return. Didn't really hurt me much, but I can't say I liked the feeling either. Tough situation in any event, Good luck, your heart is stronger than it seems.

[RBG3]

Thanks. Appreciate it. Hope you find or have found who you're looking for.

Originally Posted by RBG3

I went years doing that fantasy thing...it is extremely unhealthy..mentally I mean..I was losing my mind..it was a complacent thoughts..which is always unhealthy for your mind..I was doing foolish things..had these mood swings (whenever I thought of her, would be happy with thoughts of her, then realize not having her and be angry - kind of like a mental problem..) it was horrible..I prefer this.....im like..75% over her..

thats good to hear my man RBG, you will soon be hitting 100...

[RBG3]

I most definitely hope so! Not to sound disrespectful, but I'm trying to find a replacement girl - a nice one as good as she was to keep my mind off of her and allow me to finally have a good time with someone, be open and confident..but it's hard to find a perfect girl haha, really hard.

Originally Posted by RBG3

I most definitely hope so! Not to sound disrespectful, but I'm trying to find a replacement girl - a nice one as good as she was to keep my mind off of her and allow me to finally have a good time with someone, be open and confident..but it's hard to find a perfect girl haha, really hard.

..the hell with trying to find the perfect one brotha!, if you want a temporary fill in, to kick it with, RBG, all she needs is a pulse, hahaha... nah, Im just playin LOL,

[RBG3]

lol thats jokes haha

[Voluptuous Miss]

Originally Posted by skiz

..the hell with trying to find the perfect one brotha!, if you want a temporary fill in, to kick it with, RBG, all she needs is a pulse, hahaha... nah, Im just playin LOL,

Just a mess....

[Moe17]

I wish I knew the answer to this question...it would save me a lot of emotionally hurt. I just visited this myspace of a guy I used to be crazy about. He had to have been the very first guy I was head over heels for...but anyways, I wish I didnt visit it. Now Im dreaming about him---the feelings came right on back.
Its no point though, he has a girlfriend. When I moved here, to Georgia, he called me after about a month. He left a message saying that he wanted to talk, he missed me & wanted to hear my voice agian-blah-blah.
What is the point in talking to him?
This was back in September, I never called him back. I asked ma for advice, she just told me that he just wanted to see if he "got it like that"---and not to call him back.
I didnt, but every guy I have liked the most does this to me. This guy told his bestfriend that Im mad because I want something I cant have. If you are wondering how I found out it is because I used to talk to his bestfriend, like a fool.

But guys when you do that it makes a woman feel defective. With that being said, its hard for me to fall head over heels for anyone agian...everytime I do its a problem. This person thinks Im not all that into them when I turn down sex or make me feel like Im not worthy.
I just cant do it anymore...