How Do You Stop Loving Someone?

[RBG3]

Agreed, bless.

[Afrothinker]

Originally Posted by RBG3

Say you're in love with someone who doesn't return those feelings to you...how do you go about not loving this person anymore?

I'm not talking about lust, or liking, I mean genuine "I'll die for you" love. With no possibility of them loving you back, how do you stop yourself or move on?

<< not to be rude, I just rarely get to use these things

It takes time to heal your wounds, it takes patience with yourself to allow your self to take time to mourn the death of a relationship and lastly it will take motivation on your part to get up and get back into your life. Good luck.

[RBG3]

For a couple weeks, I think a month now..I've been ok..but lately, without provocation I'm just thinking of her again..the time where she was out of my mind was heavenly though..

[blackisbeautiful]

I don't think that you can just stop loving someone. It takes time. If you just stop loving someone just like that, then it was not love to begin with. I have to agree with some of the posters, find something else to occupy your time. When me and my last boyfriend broke up I thought i was going to lose my mind. But I never deny the fact that I will always love him and believe it or not, that is what helped me to cope. I accepted it and moved on.

[Voluptuous Miss]

Originally Posted by blackisbeautiful

I don't think that you can just stop loving someone. It takes time. If you just stop loving someone just like that, then it was not love to begin with. I have to agree with some of the posters, find something else to occupy your time. When me and my last boyfriend broke up I thought i was going to lose my mind. But I never deny the fact that I will always love him and believe it or not, that is what helped me to cope. I accepted it and moved on.

That is so true Black, and I hate when people tell me this but its true....."If you love something, let it go, and if it comes back to you then you know it's real" I know is sounds cliche, but its true. Sometimes it's just hard finding comfort in the phase, I'm still struggling

[blackisbeautiful]

Originally Posted by Voluptuous Miss

That is so true Black, and I hate when people tell me this but its true....."If you love something, let it go, and if it comes back to you then you know it's real" I know is sounds cliche, but its true. Sometimes it's just hard finding comfort in the phase, I'm still struggling

You are going to be okay. It happens to the best of us. I took my failed relationship as a learning experience to help me to grow into a better person. Here is another cliche phrase "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger", that could not have been more true.

[Voluptuous Miss]

Originally Posted by blackisbeautiful

You are going to be okay. It happens to the best of us. I took my failed relationship as a learning experience to help me to grow into a better person. Here is another cliche phrase "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger", that could not have been more true.

Yeah Black...you right girl

[RBG3]

I never agreed with that statement.."what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" that never made sense to me..since when could you run faster with a cold than without one? How focused can you be with a broken heart compared to a loved one..

[blackisbeautiful]

Originally Posted by RBG3

I never agreed with that statement.."what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" that never made sense to me..since when could you run faster with a cold than without one? How focused can you be with a broken heart compared to a loved one..

It may not have made sense to you, but it makes perfect sense to me. And each experience that you face everyday, if it doesn't kill you, its up to you to grow and learn from that experience which will ultimately make you a stronger person. Hence the saying, what doesn't kill you can only make you stronger.

[Bridge]

I had a friend who used to enjoy staying in a dream world of love with people who never cared about him. But he just enjoyed the thought of loving them. He would fantasize and enjoy it. Isn't that perhaps better than trying to forget the person?