Black Man Who Seeks a White Woman's Counsel Before Dating A Sistah

[cosmicurious]

This is the story: I am interested in this guy that I met four months ago. He tells me that he likes me but that his "Home Girl" tells him that I am intelligent but a bit immature for him. I am in my mid-thirties with no kids and he is in his early forties, divorced and has three children. Despite her warning he continues to seek me out. I, eventually, found out that she is a coworker of ours. She happens to be a white woman that he slept with and now they are just friends. I am simply thrown. I thought that he was a deeply conscious black man, but now I am completely disgusted that he seeks her counsel and does not see the hidden motives in her advice.

I want nothing more to do with him.

Am I overreacting? I would appreciate any and all comments.

[DBlack]

Apparently, he never was as interested in you as you thought. Common sense is available, open can and drink...

[MadameX]

Originally Posted by DBlack

Apparently, he never was as interested in you as you thought. Common sense is available, open can and drink...

Co-sign. But, this sounds like one of repeat posts from the archives.
Black Men Who Date or Marry White Women #1.

I've been noticing lately Brotha D. that you've been finding allot of repeat poster with multiple IDs. And the first sign is identical or similar post from topics in previous threads. A mind is terrible thing to waste. Time for a shovel .

[lizaa]

Originally Posted by cosmicurious

This is the story: I am interested in this guy that I met four months ago. He tells me that he likes me but that his "Home Girl" tells him that I am intelligent but a bit immature for him. I am in my mid-thirties with no kids and he is in his early forties, divorced and has three children. Despite her warning he continues to seek me out. I, eventually, found out that she is a coworker of ours. She happens to be a white woman that he slept with and now they are just friends. I am simply thrown. I thought that he was a deeply conscious black man, but now I am completely disgusted that he seeks her counsel and does not see the hidden motives in her advice.

I want nothing more to do with him.

Am I overreacting? I would appreciate any and all comments.

Firstly -
You are interested in DATING A CO-WORKER???
This is in my opinion is TABOO on my list as
e.g. you and he would end your lil affair and you would have to continually
see this person eveery day- think about the pros and cons

secondly, as DBlack stated, he wasn't interested in the first place -he wouldn't seek advice from another women-[this may be a move to make that women jealous-]

Real Men know what they want and go after it.

*Smart to stay clear of a potential drama situation*

[DBlack]

Originally Posted by MadameX

Co-sign. But, this sounds like one of repeat posts from the archives.
Black Men Who Date or Marry White Women #1.

I've been noticing lately Brotha D. that you've been finding allot of repeat poster with multiple IDs. And the first sign is identical or similar post from topics in previous threads. A mind is terrible thing to waste. Time for a shovel .

yes, they keep returning. One of my favorite is SlickBitty. No biggie, as they are discovered all of their duplicate accounts are purged immediately. I feel sorry for them; their lives so pathetic, that they are driven to stalk a messageboard....

[Samoon]

Originally Posted by cosmicurious

This is the story: I am interested in this guy that I met four months ago. He tells me that he likes me but that his "Home Girl" tells him that I am intelligent but a bit immature for him. I am in my mid-thirties with no kids and he is in his early forties, divorced and has three children. Despite her warning he continues to seek me out. I, eventually, found out that she is a coworker of ours. She happens to be a white woman that he slept with and now they are just friends. I am simply thrown. I thought that he was a deeply conscious black man, but now I am completely disgusted that he seeks her counsel and does not see the hidden motives in her advice.

I want nothing more to do with him.

Am I overreacting? I would appreciate any and all comments.

Let me get this straight? He slept with her--his EX and now they are friends? And a (quote) "deeply, conscious BLACK man to boot?" This is funny as all get out.

Out of curiosity, how is Becky's "working" relationship with other sistas there in your work arena? The "brotha" chooses Becky's counsel, the very same one that he tossed? And now he and she are as tight as two peas in a pod?

I KNOW what I'd tell him AND then Becky. But I'll play nice. TOSS that fish BACK and continue treating Becky as you have been---as a non-entity.

p.s. Your screen name...."interesting." Tell us more about it?

[DBlack]

Samoon speaks, you should take heed!

[MadameX]

Originally Posted by DBlack

yes, they keep returning. One of my favorite is SlickBitty. No biggie, as they are discovered all of their duplicate accounts are purged immediately. I feel sorry for them; their lives so pathetic, that they are driven to stalk a messageboard....

Agreed. This is definitely a sick twisted individual.

[Serenity4Ever]

Yes you are overreacting. It's cool to Be pissed off at her because she called you immature..... but playing the race card isn't really necessary. I mean honestly, would Would the words "She's Intelligent but a bit immature" been less demeaning or offensive coming out of a Black Woman's mouth???? Come on now. It's not like the "N-Word" where skin-color seems to truly change the context/content of the language. So there was absolutely no reason to take it to that level.

Okay let's talk about the "sleeping with the white chick" issue.... get over it. Just because He doesn't limit himself to just sleeping, dealing, or being friends with black people doesn't mean he's not a "conscious" black man. Life is way too short and there are so many cool people out there of varying races to be so damn clique-ish. And if you are gonna dismiss him because in his associations, he chooses to look beyond color.... then maybe his homegirl was right about you. Maybe you are a bit too immature for him.

[Proudbrothaman]

I can't believe you could even consider a dude sleeping with a white woman a "conscious" black man. That's like an oxymoron isn't it? Personally, I don't know any brotha that considers themselves "conscious" who would lay down with a white woman.