All Of A Sudden

[Mr Gumbo]

I need help from the married men of AC. What the hezll is going on, since I've gotten married there are women throwing themselves at me DAILY!!!! Like women at work that used to wouldn't give me the time of day but now are inviting me out for drinks or to the crib so they can cook for me. I go to the grocery store and I'm getting hit on. How do yall handle all this and is it because I'm married and giving off a married vibe? Acting on all of this is not a option because I got the 1 I want and I've sewed my wild oats as a youngsta so they can't do shzit for me. Women is there something about a married man that is attractive?

[MzKwietStorm]

A married man, to some women, is a challege. Most women find satisfaction in knowing they can cause a man to slip out on his significant other.

[afrocentric]

lol...... oh, now you wanna complain? after seeing your pic, what did you expect? you are nice looking and you can't help that. loozanna and other southern women will flock to chocolate men such as yourself. i know i would.

[jamesfrmphilly]

when i was married they were all up in my grill....they knew i couldn't bite em

[UglymanCometh]

That's how it works for some... just enjoy the compliments. I'll live vicariously through you... lol

[SistahSpeak]

Originally Posted by Mr Gumbo

I need help from the married men of AC. What the hezll is going on, since I've gotten married there are women throwing themselves at me DAILY!!!! Like women at work that used to wouldn't give me the time of day but now are inviting me out for drinks or to the crib so they can cook for me. I go to the grocery store and I'm getting hit on. How do yall handle all this and is it because I'm married and giving off a married vibe? Acting on all of this is not a option because I got the 1 I want and I've sewed my wild oats as a youngsta so they can't do shzit for me. Women is there something about a married man that is attractive?

I think it's multi-layered.

My grandmother taught my mother, who in turn told me, that most homewrecka's don't want your man, they just don't want you to have them.

- Married vibe? Well, I'm sure if you married the woman, she's taking care of you. you're eating well so your skin is clear, she's scheduled your appointment to the dentist, your clothes are ironed, your socks match, you're smilin' cause you're gettin' good lovin on a regular without the gamble or game. shoot! You're attractive because you're energy is on point!

- And of course what the others said before me is true too. Some of these "women" are probably doing this and calling it a challenge. In my opinion, they don't love themselves enough and have been hurt so much that they in turn, probably subconsciously, desire to deliver such pain to someone else.

- There's the element of competition. "Oh, she thinks she's all that!" If she can get you to turn your head, or get your attention, she get's some twisted satisfaction that she's the "baddest B". sick but true.

With all of these variations stated, the author of all of this is the adversary, the anti-God Spirit that wants to destroy what the Creator calls good. By marrying that woman you have become a god to her and those children. They have a leader, a protector, a guide. We're fighting a Spiritual War out here... we mustn't forget this. The war is not with those women, but with the adversary attempting to destroy what you and your family is building.

Press on... continue to think with your Spiritual Intellect rather than your carnal mind.

Keep On!

[ardamus]

in order to step my game up, i should get married? hmmm, that sounds backwards.....

[SistahSpeak]

Originally Posted by ardamus

in order to step my game up, i should get married? hmmm, that sounds backwards.....

It is, brotha, it is...

[Mattylock]

I think that happens when anyone, male or female, gets into a committed relationship. I'll have a total dry spell until I start seeing someone then men start coming out of the wood work. Maybe you have a confidence and peace when you're connected that's not so discernible when you're single, and maybe a little lonely or looking..I don't know.

[ardamus]

Never been married but I can say twice before, I had one of my ex's try to get at me when I was in two other relationships; not at the same time. And when I was single, she'd want to come over but would fake on getting at me. I figured it out after a while when I wasn't dealing with her too much later on.