Women having kids by married men

[thicksista]

Originally Posted by RealTalk3000

Why do some women get knocked up by married men who they know are attached,and knowing dang well he's not going to leave his wife for her? my cousin has a friend, who is preggo by a married man, and she's about 22 with 3 kids, now it's baby number 4 by the married, dude. are some women just homewreckers?

i hear you...my sister's, sis-in-law(now ex) dated a married man she was much younger than him.my sister whould always tell me how the woman would cry ,because she couldn't be with him,(and she was NOT to have any other man)...a mess! i blamed her though i wouldn't be with anyones man,not to mention letting a guy already taken tell me in order to be with him..i can't see anyone eles!...then she gets pregnant,and has the baby...still cryin...now because he's not tryin to claim the kid...knowing he had her to the point that she did whatever he TOLD her to do! i love my sistas,but i'm not compassionate to the stupid things they do....when they know better!,and it goes for me...if i do something stupid...i don't mope,because i know..i brought it on myself...that's why i ,like i tell my daughters...think before you leap!

[bluesky]

Originally Posted by RealTalk3000

Why do some women get knocked up by married men who they know are attached,and knowing dang well he's not going to leave his wife for her? my cousin has a friend, who is preggo by a married man, and she's about 22 with 3 kids, now it's baby number 4 by the married, dude. are some women just homewreckers?

Wait, this woman has 4 children by the same married man and his wife is unaware of his other family (4 children)?

[thicksista]

Originally Posted by MzKwietStorm

There's a similar situation like that at my job now. In her situation, she didn't know the man was married and by the time she found out, she had already fell in love and didn't care. Most women look for affection whenever and however they can get it, no matter the circumstance. Both the man and the woman play a part in this "homewrecking". The man should not be out looking and the woman should respect the institution of marriage enough to back off when she finds out the man is married.

i agree...as i said so many times...i'm not into hurting my sistas,and definately not myself...i wouldn't sell myself so short.you said she didn't know he was married...well i feel like this,there are ways to find out before you even get into any relationship...male or female.when i'm talking to someone,i asked questions.i know at first all i can do is take his word...but once we start to date....if i can't come to his home ...at anytime,and unanounced,(which i wouldn't)but he don't have to know that! or call him whenever i want...then there's something he's hiding.i always feel ...if a guy gives you all kid of reasons why you can't call him at certain times...or come to his place,somethings not right.



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[MadameX]

Originally Posted by DBlack

Seriously, this one sided hatred against our sistahs needs to stop. This ain't no black female bashing site....

Preach! Speak on it Brotha D. At AC, we're about inciting, uniting, and uplifting the Black Man & Women. Because, that's where the power and strength for the survival of us a people lies(in our unity).

Originally Posted by DBlack

Now in regards to the subject of the thread...

The man is more at fault than she is. He's the one married and chose to get down repeatedly. Moreover, he knew this woman had three kids and he continued to act recklessly. I hope one day you will learn to stop blaming the woman for everything that two consenting adults are responsible for.

Perhaps they deserve each other...

Precisely, The two sinners make a perfect match and no good can come of it( a P*pussyfooting married whore-mongering man & a mistress).

[Terminal Server]

Why do some women get knocked up by married men who they know are attached,and knowing dang well he's not going to leave his wife for her? my cousin has a friend, who is preggo by a married man, and she's about 22 with 3 kids, now it's baby number 4 by the married, dude. are some women just homewreckers?

Yes. They are home wreckers (and the guy is an a$$ also) and very stupid. And no, the guy is probably not going to leave his wife for some desperate ignorant trollop. Men rarely do. End of subject...............

[DBlack]

Both parties are usually at fault. We are supposed to take care of the one's we are committed to and vice versa. If someone is neglected, they may (not justifiably so) choose to go outside the relationship. That doesn't make it right, but in life there is cause and effect.

I am not saying I would do it, nor am I saying that men or women should do it. It's all about RESTRAINT and COMMITMENT on both sides!

Don't think you can sit at home, get fat, don't do what you are supposed to do, and if your mate cheats, call foul. In the court of law, the call is "mitigating circumstances". You BOTH are most likely to blame.

[warrior]

My man ever get anyone else pregnant while I be in his house he be having more problems than some child to be worried about. I twist off his sh*t and feed it to him with his chinese take out he be fooling with some biches outside my home. He already have enough children to be looking for more from some other biches out there and if he do he dead. I dont much like even thinking what I do if he ever do some other bich because I know I be the one who go up for it and he be the one to cause it all so I just dont even want to think about what I do in that situation to him.

**I'm sorry, I get passionate over some subjects where my man be fooling with shi*t he shouldn't be fooling with. Please forgive my CO.

[RealTalk3000]

but women gotta realize,you cant stop your man from foolin around,if he gets a loose woman preggo,he wasnt your man from the beginning and vice versa. getting revenge back on your spouse is gonna make things worse. you gotta be the adult and leave. too many women and men out here to let one person steal your joy no matter how long youve known him/her. some people let their emotions get the best of them and try to do harm or get revenge back by cheating. it never solves anything. gotta turn the other cheek most times

[DBlack]

Originally Posted by RealTalk3000

but women gotta realize,you cant stop your man from foolin around,if he gets a loose woman preggo,he wasnt your man from the beginning and vice versa. getting revenge back on your spouse is gonna make things worse. you gotta be the adult and leave. too many women and men out here to let one person steal your joy no matter how long youve known him/her. some people let their emotions get the best of them and try to do harm or get revenge back by cheating. it never solves anything. gotta turn the other cheek most times

Can believe you keep this issues going...Whether the woman is loose or not doesn't matter; any woman can have an affair, and get pregnant, just as any man can choose to have an affair. And what about the man that is MARRIED? where is your contempt and outrage towards him? YOu need to start dealing with you internal issues man, because it's obvious, you haven't been getting any help in the last few years.

And who are you or I to say two should give up on their marriage? If a marriage can be saved, the two should do what they can to save it. All marriages have problems. It's how we deal with those problems that are paramount and defining.

Being accountable to each other is how you minimize issues of infidelity.

[JamieC]

Originally Posted by SistahSpeak

You need a new group of friends...

of course, just my humble observation.

Preachhhh SistahSpeak!! I wasn't gonna say anything. You just put the iceing on the cake.