Why Women Give Bad Dating Advice - AfroChat - African American

RealTalk3000 · February 4th, 2008, 09:36 PM

Have you ever noticed that the worst advice you get about winning women over usually comes from women themselves? Women are famous for not knowing what they want.

They say they want a nice guy, but follow jerk-offs like lemmings. They say they want flowers, poems and gifts, but get turned off if the wrong guy sends them a birthday card.

Clearly, they don't understand their needs or their triggers.

Follow these hints and you'll soon learn to wade through the deluge of useless feminine advice to find the real nuggets of wisdom.
advice to make more friends
The female friends in your life will often tell you to lay all your feelings out on the table. "Tell her how you feel," "Be a nice guy" and "Don't sleep with her right away."

Their advice will get you more girl friends, but sadly, no bedmates.

They mean well, but truth be told, they're setting you up to look like a chump. Because when you play Mr. Nice Guy and open all her doors and sleep on the couch, you're not making a lover -- you're making a friend. And a boring one at that! Your female buddies might think they're helping you out, but they're really just sending another hapless calf off to slaughter.
even mom doesn't get it
"Just be yourself" sounds nice when mom says it, doesn't it? And we know she wants the best for us, but we need to a draw a distinction in this piece of advice. Don't just be yourself, please yourself. That means going after the woman you want and being open about your motives, with no apologies!

Simply "being" is not enough; you need to be a man of action. Mom can't give good advice until she lets go of her image of you as a "nice little boy."
ex-girlfriends suck
We have to be wary of the exes' "tips," as these characters will either tell you what you want to hear to get you to move on, or they'll wreck your chances of replacing them. Ex-girlfriends will tell you things like, "The harder you look, the less you find," and "Maybe you shouldn't date anyone for a while."

This is hardly any consolation to a depressed, horny guy. And I defy you to find me an ex-girlfriend who wants you to start dating a girl who is much hotter than she is. Your exes can't give good advice because their egos are involved.

UglymanCometh · February 5th, 2008, 10:21 AM

As VERY true as your post is... it's clear that you've been done wrong by more women than I have. 98% of your posts reflect your bitterness towards women.

Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you... the new king of rejection. THEE UglymanCometh has clearly fallen to 2nd place.

SistahSpeak · February 5th, 2008, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by UglymanCometh

As VERY true as your post is... it's clear that you've been done wrong by more women than I have. 98% of your posts reflect your bitterness towards women.

Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you... the new king of rejection. THEE UglymanCometh has clearly fallen to 2nd place.

Ug, you a mess. I love you tho' big Bro!

Mattylock · February 5th, 2008, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by UglymanCometh

As VERY true as your post is... it's clear that you've been done wrong by more women than I have. 98% of your posts reflect your bitterness towards women.

Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you... the new king of rejection. THEE UglymanCometh has clearly fallen to 2nd place.

..lol...I never congratulated you on finding a good woman. I don't post a lot, but I read.

The Dragon · February 5th, 2008, 04:29 PM

Man get over it already.

Samoon · February 5th, 2008, 05:25 PM

This commentary is a "flame-thrower" no more, no less.

thicksista · February 5th, 2008, 05:34 PM

i understand your pain...but you can't put every woman in that same catagory.....i talked with many of my friends when it comes to their men...and i try not to give them the wrong advice....with me...i keep it real with the guy i choose to be with....as i told females many times before...men can't read your mind.and like i tell men...don't!,say to me ,what you think i need to hear...keep it real with me,because i will do the same.but it seems to me...because i'm completely honest(believe it or not)when it comes to relationships).a few of the guys in my life don't really want an honest or straight-forward woman. exam., when i was dating one guy...he called me,the first thing he asked ..."was you thinking of me?"..i said,sorry but no!,i said it in the nicest way.and i was keeping it real,i have kids,bills,and other things that sometimes creeps into my head. he didn't get mad but he was like..."well damn!...you could have said yeah!"...i then said...see!,some of you guys say you want honestly,but if it's not what you want to hear...then it's another story. i never told any guy,send me flowers ,that kind of stuff isn't me.i always told the guy what i like,don't like,be it men, or me. in and out of bed,simply because if anything goes wrong...he can't say to me...i didn't know that!,you didn't tell me that!...i'm sorry if those you've interacted with confused you.but not all of us are that way. wish you the best in your next relationship boo!

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Evil_eyez · February 5th, 2008, 06:57 PM

I applaud you thicksista....I am somewhat the same way. Ur example reminded me of some situations I've been in with a partner and he couldnt handle my blunt honesty.

Also as it pertains to the initial post at hand I have to agree with Uglymancometh....many of your post seem to be directed at women. There is a bitterness that resides there. Like Thicksista said, you are generalizing women. Just like your not the same as other brothers women arent the same as other women.

DBlack · February 7th, 2008, 06:55 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by UglymanCometh

As VERY true as your post is... it's clear that you've been done wrong by more women than I have. 98% of your posts reflect your bitterness towards women.

Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you... the new king of rejection. THEE UglymanCometh has clearly fallen to 2nd place.

...and a very distant second for sure!

Sparkle · February 11th, 2008, 06:29 PM

Brotha my solution to your problems is to travel more outside of the US. I strongly suggest Brazil - either Rio or Salvador. You need to experience the "magic" of another place. I am female but a friend of mine owns property in Brazil and I visit there quite often because I feel that a lot of Americans are into a lot of game playing and bullsh-tting. I am not suggesting that Brazilians do not do the same on some level but there are times when you need to just experience life (and women) from a foreign perspective. The Afro-Brazilians are a laidback, funloving people. There is nothing like sitting on the beach or in the town square, taking in all of the black culture and history and just people watching. The Afro-Brazilians have no rival in terms of beauty and sensuality.

You will not be disappointed once you get there. The women are gorgeous and will treat you like visiting royalty. I love the tropical atmosphere, the carefree way of life (even though most of them are poor) and just kicking it with some down to earth people w/o the phony games of bs. You will see what I mean once you and that special Brasilian lady are just cuddled up on a beach together sipping a capirinha and watching the sunset. You do not have to speak the language. Just go with the flow and enjoy your self!