Why Women Give Bad Dating Advice

[UglymanCometh]

Originally Posted by SistahSpeak

lol, sis you called it Bitter Blvd. Yea, that block is shady!

*tourist mode* ain't that near Pulaski?

[SistahSpeak]

Originally Posted by UglymanCometh

*tourist mode* ain't that near Pulaski?

*tired of tourists mode* Nah, it's near Adams and Wabash!

the Send off......

lol

[Its Ok 2 B Quiet]

Originally Posted by UglymanCometh

I've been there too! In fact, I still see it in my rearview mirror.

He's gotta stop giving a sh!t. Once he does that, it's all good.

From the look of his posts, it doesn't seem that's going to happen anytime soon.

[Mattylock]

Originally Posted by SistahSpeak

*tired of tourists mode* Nah, it's near Adams and Wabash!

the Send off......

lol

lol..It's a street I try to avoid.

[DBlack]

Originally Posted by Sparkle

True dat! I am not saying that Brazil is a cure-all for relationship problems and that all Brazilians have it going on. They have their share of problems too - poverty, high crime rates, drug wars, domestic violence, etc but it is SOEMTHING in their spirits that allows them to sort of rise above it and keep it moving. It is not so much looking for a serious relationship as much as it is experiencing life, especially black life, in another country. Afro-Brazilians are basically very friendly. It is more of having that experience of friendship and dating in another place with a different language and enjoying one's life. It is primarily a fantasy but sometimes a person needs a break from reality.

The subject is not about Brazilian women. Nor is it about your twisted affinity for a culture in which you do not live. If you love Brazilian culture and it's people, start a thread about it. Don't hijack someone's thread to go on your own personal, and totally unrelated point.

[DBlack]

RealTalk3000, Get over yourself and IT! You've been holding on to this for years. YOU are your biggest problem. YOU!

Pretty soon, Imma have to start deleting these threads cause you just can't talk about anything else....others can!

GET OVER IT!

[Juice.]

Originally Posted by RealTalk3000

Have you ever noticed that the worst advice you get about winning women over usually comes from women themselves? Women are famous for not knowing what they want.

They say they want a nice guy, but follow jerk-offs like lemmings. They say they want flowers, poems and gifts, but get turned off if the wrong guy sends them a birthday card.

Clearly, they don't understand their needs or their triggers.

The female friends in your life will often tell you to lay all your feelings out on the table. "Tell her how you feel," "Be a nice guy" and "Don't sleep with her right away."

Their advice will get you more girl friends, but sadly, no bedmates.

They mean well, but truth be told, they're setting you up to look like a chump. Because when you play Mr. Nice Guy and open all her doors and sleep on the couch, you're not making a lover -- you're making a friend. And a boring one at that! Your female buddies might think they're helping you out, but they're really just sending another hapless calf off to slaughter.

"Just be yourself" sounds nice when mom says it, doesn't it? And we know she wants the best for us, but we need to a draw a distinction in this piece of advice. Don't just be yourself, please yourself. That means going after the woman you want and being open about your motives, with no apologies!

This is a great post! I agree with everything you said!

I've also noticed that following the advice of women actually weakens your power in the dating game. They give advice that focuses on men changing themselves to suit women's needs, all the while ignoring their own. Yeah, I don't think so.

Some of my favorites: "be a nice guy". Any man with relationship experience knows that playing the nice guy turns women off almost instantaneously. "Tell her how you feel" If you open up and tell her how you feel right off the bat, don't expect your woman to hang around for too long. She'll put you in the "needy" category. "Compliment her". Any experienced player knows to give compliments sparingly, if at all.

When you ask a female what she wants in a man, you'll get a list of qualities, like "nice, listens more than he talks, sensitive, etc". The only problem is that these qualities have been absent in her last five boyfriends. That's why you never take relationship advice from females. Women do not know what women want.

[darkshadow4563]

Originally Posted by RealTalk3000

Have you ever noticed that the worst advice you get about winning women over usually comes from women themselves? Women are famous for not knowing what they want.

They say they want a nice guy, but follow jerk-offs like lemmings. They say they want flowers, poems and gifts, but get turned off if the wrong guy sends them a birthday card.

Clearly, they don't understand their needs or their triggers.

Follow these hints and you'll soon learn to wade through the deluge of useless feminine advice to find the real nuggets of wisdom.
advice to make more friends
The female friends in your life will often tell you to lay all your feelings out on the table. "Tell her how you feel," "Be a nice guy" and "Don't sleep with her right away."

Their advice will get you more girl friends, but sadly, no bedmates.

They mean well, but truth be told, they're setting you up to look like a chump. Because when you play Mr. Nice Guy and open all her doors and sleep on the couch, you're not making a lover -- you're making a friend. And a boring one at that! Your female buddies might think they're helping you out, but they're really just sending another hapless calf off to slaughter.
even mom doesn't get it
"Just be yourself" sounds nice when mom says it, doesn't it? And we know she wants the best for us, but we need to a draw a distinction in this piece of advice. Don't just be yourself, please yourself. That means going after the woman you want and being open about your motives, with no apologies!

Simply "being" is not enough; you need to be a man of action. Mom can't give good advice until she lets go of her image of you as a "nice little boy."
ex-girlfriends suck
We have to be wary of the exes' "tips," as these characters will either tell you what you want to hear to get you to move on, or they'll wreck your chances of replacing them. Ex-girlfriends will tell you things like, "The harder you look, the less you find," and "Maybe you shouldn't date anyone for a while."

This is hardly any consolation to a depressed, horny guy. And I defy you to find me an ex-girlfriend who wants you to start dating a girl who is much hotter than she is. Your exes can't give good advice because their egos are involved.

You have to understand Real that the women you are getting this advice from are telling how "they" would want a man to treat them. We are all so very different in what we expect from the opposite sex. What works for one probably will not work for the other. You have to get a good feel for what is working for the woman you are with. PAY ATTENTION TO HER. I would think the one thing most women would probably want is to be respected. And looking at what some tolerate these day's that even debateable. Know YOUR woman!

[Optical Drive]

Some of my favorites: "be a nice guy". Any man with relationship experience knows that playing the nice guy turns women off almost instantaneously. "Tell her how you feel" If you open up and tell her how you feel right off the bat, don't expect your woman to hang around for too long. She'll put you in the "needy" category.

Ummm....This is true. I also have noticed this for some now. I've even talked about this very subject to a number of women and none of them denied it. There ya have it......

[Juice.]

There’s a HUGE difference between what women say they want and what women are attracted to. Women have many conflicting drives going on inside. And in many cases women RESPOND to completely illogical things – which are often very different than what they say that they “want”. That's why you see beautiful dimes with thugs and not nice guys. Of course the nice guy would treat her better, he would respect her more, and he would pay more attention to her; but she still goes for the thug. It sound illogical to men, because they don't understand those drives.

Attraction isn't a choice, but a lot of men act like it is. So they try to buy her love with all kinds of gifts and dinners, they bow down to her and put her on a pedestal in some vain hope that they'll be seen as attractive in her eyes. The unwritten rules of society say what she is SUPPOSED to be attracted to, but thousands of years of evolution say different.