The Marrying Kind?

[Sumyr]

actually, it takes a man to conceive. after that it is up to her.

men are not the ones who claim to be trying to get married, women are. within that context it is foolish for women to be laying with men who will not marry them. women damage their chances for marriage by having children out of wedlock.

there is a dis connect.

I agree women shouldn't be/lay with men that won't make a commitment to them if their ultimate goal is to get married. If he has made it clear that he has no plans of marrying you or anyone, move on. But at the same time, this happens to both men and women - not just women. I know three men that are with women that have no plans to marry - even though the men have asked them several times. So, does this work both ways or is your comment meant for just women?

I totally disagree with your first statement though. Unless the man used protection and it failed, he's as much to blame as the woman for out of wedlock children. How many guys you know say: "Baby I want to make love to you, but if you get pregnant it is an accident and I'm not going to be held responsible." I can give you the number of men that actually say this. None - hence the reason out of wedlock children are both the fault of MEN and women.

[Sumyr]

We ran across at least fifty men we could identify as stringers. They can be very dangerous. I estimate each one is responsible for at least two women remaining single. They are destructive because they con women into wasting their time during the years when they are most attractive and most likely to get a proposal. They stay with women, live with women, promise them marriage, and string them on and on indefinitely.
There is one surefire way to identify these men-they are usually repeat offenders. If a man had even one long-term relationship with someone else, he's very likely to be a stringer. If he does not set a firm date, be on your guard.

This is profound and very good advice. EVERY WOMAN who wishes to marry needs to heed this!

[CatsPaw]

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Just Because You're Ready Doesn't Mean That He Is

One of the most common mistakes young women make is to assume that because they're ready for marriage in their early- or mid-twenties, the men they date are, as well. But as the above research shows, that's usually not the case. If a woman is seriously trying to find a husband, she should date men who have reached the age of commitment. She can date men slightly before they reach that age, because by the time she's gone out with a man for a year, he may have reached the point of being receptive to the idea of marriage. But this is taking a gamble that the man is typical, because the figures I've just given are educated estimates. Not all men mature at the same rate, and other factors can and do affect a man's readiness to marry. Even among men who are positively inclined toward marriage and are from identical educational and socioeconomic backgrounds, 20 percent will reach the age of commitment a year or more before our estimates, while another 20 percent will only consider marriage as a real option two to four years later. So if you're dating a man much younger than the commitment age, the chance he'll commit is relatively small.
There's one exception to this rule: Men and women who are seriously committed couples while still in school often get married shortly after they finish their formal education. This is usually an arrangement agreed to by the man but devised by the woman. Such couples, however, represent a very small percentage of today's singles.

[MadameX]

This is profound and very good advice. EVERY WOMAN who wishes to marry needs to heed this!

Unless the women has crawled out of diapers and bearly into a training bra, this is old news. Take it to the youngstesr and groupies spreading their legs at a drop of a hat and see if they give a . Gotta tell it like it is & if you're truly a women than you know the deal.

[jamesfrmphilly]

there is a negative poison being insinuated here. first the idea that men who do not marry are somehow "destructive". this is silly. how are we destructive? because we not not conform to female standards? women have every right to want to get married. you do not have the right to insult those who do not share your interests. then there is the idea that men who do not marry are "not mature". it is quite possible for a man to decide to not marry. we do have that right. why are we "not mature" if we do not care to marry? is there but one way to be?

i am unmarried and i do not feel that i should be put down for my decision. as far as "stringing" anybody along, i have never done that. i am a very honest person. females are simply not that high on my list of priorities. i do not feel that i should be called any names because of this.

i do feel that i have a right to live my own life the way i see fit.

[CatsPaw]

Originally Posted by jamesfrmphilly

there is a negative poison being insinuated here. first the idea that men who do not marry are some how "destructive". this is silly. then there is the idea that men who do not marry are "not mature". it is quite possible for a man to decide to not marry. we do have that right.

i am unmarried and i do not feel that i should be put down for my decision. as far as "stringing" anybody along, i have never done that. i am a very honest person. females are simply not that high on my list of priorities. i do not feel that i should be called any names because of this.

i do feel that i have a right to live my own life the way i see fit.

There is nothing negative or poisonous here at all, it's just your perception. A man that strings a woman along by deciet is dangerous just like a woman that strings a man along by deceit. Since your an honest man and choose to be single and if you spend time with women you are very up front about your position then nothing in that post speaks to you or any man like you.

The article puts all the work on the woman. If marriage is her goal then she must do the work involved to be in the same place as the man. Lots of women have made the decision that they will force the man they desire to be on the road to marriage resulting in some of the mess we have right now.

[MadameX]

it changed my thing.....

My misguided brotha take off them shackles from slavery. A phallus dosen't define a Blackman, his character dose. A real women is about getting to know the man behind the penis. Take off your shackles and abandon your slave mentality before it gets in a predicament with more than a VD shot in the @ss can cure. And if you need further proof, ask Brotha Magic Johnson. Peace.

[MadameX]

Originally Posted by Samoon

"... I have never understood why women be rolling with straight up doggs and then complain that they got some fleas."

Women with no house training or guiandance. Could it be the Superhead complex? What a pity. A hardhead will make a soft behind.

[jamesfrmphilly]

Originally Posted by MadameX

My misguided brotha take off them shackles from slavery. A phallus doesn't define a Blackman, his character dose. A real women s about getting to know the man behind the penis. Take off your shackles and abandon your slave mentality before it gets in a predicament with more than VD shot in the @ss can cure. And if you need further proof, ask Brotha Magic Johnson. Peace.

are you really that anti sexual and humorless? i hope not.

[jamesfrmphilly]

Originally Posted by CatsPaw

There is nothing negative or poisonous here at all, it's just your perception.

so i should believe what you say and not my lying eyes?