Introducing children to

[Queen Aminah]

never mind

[afrocentric]

IMO, depending on the ages and the history of the past relationships, i would suggest that the adults take it slow and allow the friendship/ relationship to grow to the highest level bfor telling the children about the other person.

[Its Ok 2 B Quiet]

I don't think that a man or woman should introduce their children to someone they're dating unless it is TOTALLY clear that the relationship is real seriously dating one person or marriage. And even at that point you should tack on several more months so that you can watch the exchange between your children and mate. There are too many situations of abuse, kids coming up hurt or killed plus your kids don't need to be in that kind of environment. You also need to know where the mate's head is at when it comes to kids, disciplining and everything in between. JMO

[matrixone05]

I agree that children should only be introduced when it is apparent that the relationship is serious. It is not healthy for a child to see various people come in and out of their parents lives. Funny, my kids (both in college) were talking about something similar to this over the holiday weekend. They were saying it was pretty sad that the children of two celebrities in the news would "grow up knowing their momma was a hoe". They were in agreement that they would not want to know about that part of their parents history.

[Its Ok 2 B Quiet]

I wouldn't want my sons seeing dating either. I know some men and women who bring their boyfriends, women friends around their kids with no problem but even if your casually dating, I just don't think its cool to expose your kids to that.

[hoopskidoodle]

I did this once. And while it didn't effect my daughter in the slightest, it left a bad taste in my mouth. Thankfully, since my kid is now in college, I'll never have to deal with this issue again.

[Chinky]

I had a disagreement with a guy I was dating regarding this. He was talking about taking our children out on some fun filled weekend adventure when he and I hadnt even went out yet. He couldnt understand why I had such a problem with it. He made it seem as though I didnt want to know his kids...that had nothing to do with it.

[Its Ok 2 B Quiet]

Chinky - he didn't understand that it was about the picture his giving his kids and that they shouldn't be exposed to all of their "dates"? I know have their own views on it and think its no biggie, but it just seems so obvious as to why you shouldn't.

Just thinking out loud.......