Great person/Bad in the sack

[Mr Gumbo]

Originally Posted by Queen Aminah

Thanks for the words about my back. AND I have to cook, like i have to cook EVERY year. Next year in going to feed the homeless and everyone else can have sandwiches.

lmao, im 37 and we are ---->here<-------. Im not talking about bad initial sex, because thats to be expected. You dont know enough about each other physically yet. Im talking about chronically not getting it right. You know, the folks who have no rythem, while you on the upswing, they are on the downswing and nothing is connecting in the middle. Folks who just have bad technique......the biters, squeezers, pinchers. Sloppy kissers, wrong hole poker, teeth clashers.


AND women LOVE sex just as much as men, sometimes more. The older yall get the less yall want it. The older we get the more we want it :)

The older I get the more I want it but you right, with women they go into heat around age 30 and for at least 15 years they got to have it all the time.

[Lediamand]

Originally Posted by Sumyr

Lediamand, Yes, woman can be naturally bad in bed - as can men. But in both genders - "some" can be taught to be good in bed, emphasis on the "some" part.

I wasn't always the "vixen" I now am. I had to learn the "ropes" myself. But the key is I "wanted" to learn. From my experience - most men think they know it all regarding sex and find it insulting if one tries to teach them. This was my problem with the 13 year marriage. He thought he was "King Kong" when hell he wasn't even "Donkey Kong".

I would teach them if thats the case.
You know they say a man can shape his woman into what she is later on in a relationship, I guess you were on the wrong end of a bad learning curve. As long as you are enjoying life right now thats all that matters.

[Mr Gumbo]

Originally Posted by Lediamand

I feel you, I am man I can't really relate to that because I have never met a woman who is boring in bed or who was bad at it. But can women be naturally be bad in bed? I am not talking about the selfish ones who refuse to fully please their men.

I've had a few that was not up to par. 2 of them would get their big O's so quickly and frequently that you couldn't get into any rhythm at all, just when it's feeling good bam she's busting 1 and has to stop. Not that I was great but they just got O's quick no matter what. 1 woman had to be on top all the time or she wasn't gonna have sex and that would piss me off. She'd get hers then would dayum near rush you to get yours.

[Lediamand]

Originally Posted by Mr Gumbo

I've had a few that was not up to par. 2 of them would get their big O's so quickly and frequently that you couldn't get into any rhythm at all, just when it's feeling good bam she's busting 1 and has to stop. Not that I was great but they just got O's quick no matter what. 1 woman had to be on top all the time or she wasn't gonna have sex and that would piss me off. She'd get hers then would dayum near rush you to get yours.

Damn bro you had it bad with some of these Sistas, Lol you had the opposite effects of what most men usually go through. I am lucky that I had some of the freakier and team play kinda Sista. But selfisness like that in a relationship can really kills it.

[MzKwietStorm]

If the person is someone that I'm really feeling, then I would take the time to teach them.

[ardamus]

I always try to keep in mind that I should please the one I'm with. I remember one time I got spoiled and started making the sex bad but I started to understand that I can't do that. Being humble about it gave me a different perspective on sexual chemistry. One thing you have to do is feel out your partner. What they expect. I think what we do is mind-read and guess what your lover wants but it can't work like that. Plus, knowing technique and etc. is important to know.

[jamesfrmphilly]

Originally Posted by Sumyr

From my experience - most men think they know it all regarding sex and find it insulting if one tries to teach them.

you needs to get out more...i always make a point to ask the lady if itz anything that she would like from me...anything i can do for her

Originally Posted by ardamus

One thing you have to do is feel out your partner. .

dis a pun, right?

[ardamus]

Originally Posted by jamesfrmphilly

dis a pun, right?

slim, you older than me. you should know this is the truth and a pun at the same time.

[jamesfrmphilly]

Originally Posted by ardamus

slim, you older than me. you should know this is the truth and a pun at the same time.

yeah, i always do feel dem out.....

[matrixone05]

This was a major problem with my first marriage as well. I wound up resenting his touch, and later he told me that I would sling his arm off of me in my sleep.

Sad thing was, it wasn't that he couldn't be different, he wouldn't. He was a manly man and really had no understanding that women are more mental than a man's visual. I tried for 10 years to make him understand that I needed something a lot different than what he was willing to give. It didn't get through to him until I said I was leaving.

There is a something very wrong when one party is too selfish to understand that sex is about 2 not one. He was willing to re-think that when I said I was leaving, but I no longer was interested in him physically. His attitude about it killed the intimacy in our relationship, which was sad, because in most other areas, not all, it was a very good relationship.

Later after I left, he would call me and say, I understand now and wish I could go back and change time. The woman he's married to now has a more intimate minded husband than I did.