Great person/Bad in the sack

[Lady_Dread]

Great pic of you Queen. You're beautiful!

[Lady_Dread]

Hope you feel better. Back problems ain't no joke! You and your family have a blessed holiday!

Originally Posted by Queen Aminah

Due to being out of work this week because I hurt my back, I am entertaining myself

soooo dump them or teach them? Its tough to teach chemistry and technique. Takes a lot of time, effort, and patience that I probably am not going to have at my age. But if the person is perfect for you in every way except for the sack, do you keep them hoping they will catch on? Do you go your own way and continue the search for someone who can match you sexually, knowing you may have to compromise on other aspects you consider important in a relationship?

[Its Ok 2 B Quiet]

It would really depend on how I was feeling about that person, but that's not to say I wouldn't be open to working on things.

[jamesfrmphilly]

Originally Posted by Queen Aminah

Due to being out of work this week because I hurt my back

um, how did you hurt your back?

[Sumyr]

Its like that

Lediamand, Sorry, but yes it is. I "use to" think sex wasn't important - that was before I went through 13 years of meaningless, horrid sex. I thought my feelings didn't matter and it was just sex. So, I suffered in silence and told no one - not even my best friend - until it almost killed me. I figured - at least he's happy. BUT I "too" deserved happiness. In the end neither of us were happy as I was "starved for passion" and he had been with a "prentender" for all these years. When I finally told my best friend she said I deserved some type of award for enduring that for 13 years. I honestly did try to work with him and "show him" what I liked but it was to no avail. So, I don't play this game any more.

I'll agree that sex isn't important to everyone or plays an important part in the relationship. I'm just "not" one of those people. Just being honest.

[Sumyr]

AND women LOVE sex just as much as men, sometimes more. The older yall get the less yall want it. The older we get the more we want it :)

Preach sistah gurl!!! Amen!

[jamesfrmphilly]

not an issue for me. i can always find sex somewhere.

[Lediamand]

Originally Posted by Sumyr

Lediamand, Sorry, but yes it is. I "use to" think sex wasn't important - that was before I went through 13 years of meaningless, horrid sex. I thought my feelings didn't matter and it was just sex. So, I suffered in silence and told no one - not even my best friend - until it almost killed me. I figured - at least he's happy. BUT I "too" deserved happiness. So, I don't play this game any more. I'll agree that sex isn't important to everyone or plays an important part in the relationship. I'm just "not" one of those people. Just being honest.

I feel you, I am man I can't really relate to that because I have never met a woman who is boring in bed or who was bad at it. But can women be naturally be bad in bed? I am not talking about the selfish ones who refuse to fully please their men.

[Chelbe]

I would want to keep what I have and work with it... especially if the good outweighs the bad. We'll just have to work something out. Practice, practice and practice some more.

[Sumyr]

But can women be naturally be bad in bed?

Lediamand, Yes, woman can be naturally bad in bed - as can men. But in both genders - "some" can be taught to be good in bed, emphasis on the "some" part.

I wasn't always the "vixen" I now am. I had to learn the "ropes" myself. But the key is I "wanted" to learn. From my experience - most men think they know it all regarding sex and find it insulting if one tries to teach them. This was my problem with the 13 year marriage. He thought he was "King Kong" when hell he wasn't even "Donkey Kong".