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August 30th, 2007, 08:46 PM
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The Truth shall set you free Sista, just be polite about it. Let the person know its your fault for not being able to reciprocate the same feelings. just say Hey listen , ain't got it, its not in me awright  Not like that, but in a more polite way.
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August 30th, 2007, 09:40 PM
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Me and this guy kind of flirt around with each other. I can tell he is interested. He has a wonderfull personality and a great sense of humor. He keeps me laughing but.....
I cannot find any intellectual ground with him.
I want to be able to talk with him, get to know him better, but when we do talk it seems as if we go in circles and this makes me feel very uncomfortable.
Now I realize that the sexual attraction between us two is quite strong but I am not about to be a booty call or a one night stand!!
I can tell he has noticed that I have backed off some what. I also notice that he says certain things just to see what I will say. I don't want him to think I was playing with his feelings, this is not the case but I need more mental stimulation from men at this time in my life.
I'm thinking about just telling him that I cannot seem to connect with him on a intellectual level but I don't want him to think I am trying to say he is not intelligent.
I don't know. For now on I will just be friendly with him, because I am not sure what his real intentions are. He just hasn't opened up enough for me. Imma take it real slow with him, but just in case he asks why I have changed a bit, I'm wondering if I should let him know EXACTLY how I feel?
We'll see.
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August 30th, 2007, 09:44 PM
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It depends on when the conversation goes there. If we are on the phone, and the subject is brought up, then I let em know.
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August 30th, 2007, 10:21 PM
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Come straight out with it and hope they ain't crazy. LMAO.
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I'm with you on that which is why I would prefer to do it by telephone. I'm not taking any chances.
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August 30th, 2007, 11:51 PM
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Originally Posted by The Dragon
Me and this guy kind of flirt around with each other. I can tell he is interested. He has a wonderfull personality and a great sense of humor. He keeps me laughing but.....
I cannot find any intellectual ground with him.
I want to be able to talk with him, get to know him better, but when we do talk it seems as if we go in circles and this makes me feel very uncomfortable.
Now I realize that the sexual attraction between us two is quite strong but I am not about to be a booty call or a one night stand!!
I can tell he has noticed that I have backed off some what. I also notice that he says certain things just to see what I will say. I don't want him to think I was playing with his feelings, this is not the case but I need more mental stimulation from men at this time in my life.
I'm thinking about just telling him that I cannot seem to connect with him on a intellectual level but I don't want him to think I am trying to say he is not intelligent.
I don't know. For now on I will just be friendly with him, because I am not sure what his real intentions are. He just hasn't opened up enough for me. Imma take it real slow with him, but just in case he asks why I have changed a bit, I'm wondering if I should let him know EXACTLY how I feel?
We'll see.
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Enough of the mental games because you'll drive yourself crazy doing that. Let him know whats up from the jump. I know its easuier said than done but let him know that you don't feel like the mental status is on the level of the physical attraction and you've noticed he says things to see what you would say. If anything, you two are just getting to know each other. Keep building on different things in life and I bet it'll work itself out. |
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August 30th, 2007, 11:52 PM
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Tell him you are reassessing where you are right now and have decided not to pursue a new relationship.
Which is the truth as you have assessed that he is not the one for you romantically or otherwise.
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August 31st, 2007, 07:19 AM
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"Look, you're a nice (guy/girl), but I just don't feel the same way about you; I'm sorry, I don't mean to hurt you by saying that, but you deserve the truth."
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this line somewhat works...i've used it recently
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August 31st, 2007, 10:48 AM
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i' m agreeing with schoolofsoul.
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August 31st, 2007, 12:29 PM
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Thanks yall...I telephoned him and it went well.
I was not going to be able to see him face-to-face soon, so the telephone had to be the medium or he would have kept calling and texting.
He was very nice about it and said he understood and hoped he had not offended me in any way.
He appreciated the honesty.
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Thanks yall...I telephoned him and it went well.
I was not going to be able to see him face-to-face soon, so the telephone had to be the medium or he would have kept calling and texting.
He was very nice about it and said he understood and hoped he had not offended me in any way.
He appreciated the honesty.
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