How do I meet someone? - AfroChat - African American

latisha313 · August 29th, 2007, 09:23 PM

just ignore the last thread. i am a loner and don't meet any guys. i have been going to school for 3 years and have yet to find myself in a serious relationship. i am a still a novice when it comes to dating. any tips? this is a serious thread..

ardamus · August 29th, 2007, 10:19 PM

Be yourself and the rest will follow. And never rush to find it because when you, you may not get what you want. And when you least expect it, it finds you.

robbboy2003 · August 29th, 2007, 10:32 PM

Accentuate the positives you do have. You say you've been going to school for three years? Perhaps, there's a shy person that's been in a lot of your classes there and hasn't had the nerve yet to approach you. Be patient and pray. Project confidence and not desparation. Love and improve on yourself in the mean time. Peace!

MadameX · August 30th, 2007, 01:34 AM

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Originally Posted by robbboy2003

Accentuate the positives you do have. Project confidence and not desperation. Love and improve on yourself in the mean time.

Exactly. What a person projects is what they'll recieve. So for favorable results, its best for this individual to due some soul searching.

JABOOM · August 30th, 2007, 02:04 AM

Go to events that interest you.........Poetry jams or book signings (if that's you thing) being yourslef is always a must if you act like you you'll attract who attracted to you for YOU

Most of all don't give yourself away....you should show patients with yourself and with anything that you want.

Practice this by focusing on something you want and save your money until you get it.......same with a relationship build on yourself focus on getting what you want for youself that you can do by yourself. When you have saved up enough of you (been alone long enough to realize what you really want out of life and what matters to you) your personal vibe will enter into the world and bring you want you desire.

Sumyr · August 30th, 2007, 11:07 AM

1. Stop looking.

2. Pray.

3. Pray some more.

LadyDivine · August 30th, 2007, 12:05 PM

He will find you, just live your life with purpose and enthusiasm.

My best advice...............
TWO essentials SMILE and SPEAK to everybody it makes you approachable.

I make small talk with everybody all the time.
"THANK YOU"
"nice tie'"
" that color tlooks great on you"
"the weather is great/bad, etc"

Always have a helping hand.....open doors and hold elevators.

The Dragon · August 30th, 2007, 10:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Sumyr

1. Stop looking.

2. Pray.

3. Pray some more.

LOL!! But ain't it the truth!

The Dragon · August 30th, 2007, 10:49 PM

I once read somewhere, where a counselor stated that bored people are bored because they are boring!!

Get out and find things you like to do; Learn how to knit, sew, ski-dive, whatever. Don't be afraid or ashamed to go to the movies by yourself, I use to do this religiously.

Have fun with yourself and people will enjoy being around you!!

As far as men are concerned, as long as you are deparate they will stay away from you. Men can see a desparate woman a mile away.... please believe me on this one.

Terminal Server · September 3rd, 2007, 08:38 PM

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As far as men are concerned, as long as you are deparate they will stay away from you. Men can see a desparate woman a mile away.... please believe me on this one.

Ya got that right. You'll just have to play the waiting game least you become an unwitting victim. I know this is not very encouraging but it is true. The current dating game is not for fragile egos, sensitive feelings, the unsuspecting or the naive. It's really bad out here. I can understand your frustration and disappointment. Good luck......