How do I meet someone? - Page 2 - AfroChat - African American

The Dragon · September 3rd, 2007, 11:34 PM

Bad might be to light of a word to describe the dating scene today. I have been single for awhile and I was thinking about this the other. I am almost at the point of accepting being alone, without a man for now on.... and I am serious!!

I am really at that point.

I don't want to make it seem all hopeless because their are potentially good mates out there but there is also a lot of drama and all kinds of other stuff. I'm just at the stage in my life that I desire peace more than anything else. And if a man cannot compliment this peace, I don't want to be bothered.

latisha313 · September 5th, 2007, 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Terminal Server

Ya got that right. You'll just have to play the waiting game least you become an unwitting victim. I know this is not very encouraging but it is true. The current dating game is not for fragile egos, sensitive feelings, the unsuspecting or the naive. It's really bad out here. I can understand your frustration and disappointment. Good luck......

How do I get into the dating game? I work and go to school, and the time I do have to myself doens't involve any men. It seems like everybody else finds a man so easily. I don't want to be 30 years old and unmarried.

Sumyr · September 5th, 2007, 02:28 PM

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How do I get into the dating game? I work and go to school, and the
time I do have to myself doens't involve any men. It seems like everybody
else finds a man so easily. I don't want to be 30 years old and
unmarried.

Latisha, There are women who are 30, 40, 50 even and aren't married. What I've found from experience is that being in a rush just makes you get there even more slowly. I know it's easy for me to say as I've been married - twice. But I would advice all (men & women) "NOT" to marry until they were at least 30-33. With age comes wisdom.

Corals · September 5th, 2007, 02:36 PM

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Originally Posted by latisha313

How do I get into the dating game? I work and go to school, and the time I do have to myself doens't involve any men. It seems like everybody else finds a man so easily. I don't want to be 30 years old and unmarried.

You got me confused. I thought you had big issues with men paying you any attention. Should you not try and fix yourself up (not literally and not referring to outer appearance I may add.

I hate to hear such foolish talk as 'I don't want to be single when I am such and such an age'. I remember someone I knew, who were in her early 20's talking like that, and further saying she would rather be dead than single. I haven't heard anything about her for over 7 years.

Nyela · September 5th, 2007, 03:56 PM

A defeatist attitude is cancerous!

The Dragon · September 5th, 2007, 11:14 PM

Will somebody please send their nephew or little brother over there to this girl..

DBlack · September 5th, 2007, 11:19 PM

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Originally Posted by latisha313

just ignore the last thread. i am a loner and don't meet any guys. i have been going to school for 3 years and have yet to find myself in a serious relationship. i am a still a novice when it comes to dating. any tips? this is a serious thread..

Uh, go somewhere doing something you like to do for starters. Meeting someone on common ground is a good start. And relax, kill the self-pity.

Nyela · September 5th, 2007, 11:27 PM

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Originally Posted by The Dragon

Will somebody please send their nephew or little brother over there to this girl..

I'm laffin soooooooooo hard I can hardly type...after the day i had at school...i really needed this laff....I can't stop laffin..

I just took my nephew to MO to college. He wouldn't even think of having someone in his life who doesn't contribute to him in a postive way...He always talks about how he loves being around people who support him...So no prospects here Dragon...lol...this is tooooooooo funny...

DBlack · September 5th, 2007, 11:44 PM

Latisha, please read post 18. Post 18 is calling your name!

Don't take this the wrong way, but it's women like you that are a shining example to why I don't allow my daughter (4yrs old) to say "I can't".

Mattylock · September 6th, 2007, 02:32 AM

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Originally Posted by latisha313

How do I get into the dating game? I work and go to school, and the time I do have to myself doens't involve any men. It seems like everybody else finds a man so easily. I don't want to be 30 years old and unmarried.

If this is how you talk all the time, no wonder you're single. Every post from you that I'VE read is extremely self-pitying and slightly offensive. If I summarize what I understand of your perspective, a dark sister over 30 and single may as well be dead. WTF!!! BIG turn off. Sorry if that's harsh, but I guess I got enough on the "I hate my skin" thread.