I hate my skin color so much:(

[robbboy2003]

Originally Posted by latisha313

i can't see how any black person would not think that my experience wasn't real..i assume you must be lightskin yourself/older and no longer aware of what's going on with the younger crowd of today.



so now you want to say i am ugly? let me tell you, there are plenty of attractive brownskin women who don't get nearly as much adoration as their lighter skin counterparts. many darkskin girls say they get guys when they are by themselves but when you put them amongst lightskin women they go viturally ignored..

latisha, enough of the self indulgent woe is me pity party. You have going on. People have been candid in trying to tell you details about Black folks. If a particular Black person doesn't want you, don't sweat it,because there's probably someone who does dig you.

However, Black men going places will not groove with a woman apt to complain about her Blackness all the time sheesh!
All colored Black men are into some of the darkest most stunning Black Women,or just women period in the world. They are dripping in beauty,but you know one thing they don't trip,because they've been told they are the moon and star above any other female out there. Now, you've been told. Live up to your age. You're a grown woman now act like it. Let a brotha see a woman,that's okay with who she is. Get the help,so that you can get positive reinforcement. Peace!

[Corals]

Originally Posted by latisha313

i have a good atttiude. i am nice and smile at people. often times that is not enough, it surely hasn't gotten me a boyfriend or husband. & maybe if i had the money to afford a shrink i would but my life does not afford that kind of luxury

Maybe it is something else that is the problem? How you feel on the inside is usually reflected on the outside? Maybe you should try looking into the mirror more often?

I'm going to give this thread a rest.

Originally Posted by DBlack

Is this thread not tired?~

[latisha313]

Originally Posted by Corals

Maybe it is something else that is the problem? How you feel on the inside is usually reflected on the outside? Maybe you should try looking into the mirror more often?

I'm going to give this thread a rest.

what is looking in the mirror going to do?

I have never been confident with who I am. All my life I have always had the desire to be popular and have a lot of friends, unfortunately my desire has never been filled. I am very quiet and go virtually ignored where ever i go. I don't meet any guys or do much of anything so this depresses me. So I think that if I were whiter i would have somethng that would make me stand out and people will take notice especially men.

[Corals]

Originally Posted by latisha313

what is looking in the mirror going to do?

I have never been confident with who I am. All my life I have always had the desire to be popular and have a lot of friends, unfortunately my desire has never been filled. I am very quiet and go virtually ignored where ever i go. I don't meet any guys or do much of anything so this depresses me. So I think that if I were whiter i would have somethng that would make me stand out and people will take notice especially men.

I was not referring to a literal mirror.

If you are a nice person and smile at people; people usually smile back. Furthermore, people find it very attractive when someone is smiling. Actually sometimes it can be more attractive that facial features.

As I said above, there seem to be something deeper. And obviously what everyone has said to you has not sunk in, because you are still coming with that mumbo jumbo of, and I quote "if I were whiter I would have something.........'. I think you have problems and it has nothing to do with the colour of your skin.

I'm out because obviously talking to you seems to be a waste of time. All the best.

[afrocentric]

dblack please lock this thread up...this thread is going no where. i have read just about everything that is to be said to this thread. and it seems that it's not sinking in. either this person don't get it or don't want to.. if this *person* is lookin for solace it is not here because we have given the best advice to *her * solution. shall we move on....

[SchoolofSoul]

Originally Posted by latisha313

I am very quiet and go virtually ignored where ever i go.

Make noise. Do things to get noticed. Change your look, wear a different fragrance, smile like crazy at everyone and greet them like they're your best friend. Fake it 'til you make it.

Originally Posted by latisha313

I don't meet any guys or do much of anything so this depresses me.

Get out and do things, and go meet guys. Just walk right up to guys who attract you, and introduce yourself. Be daring. Take the initiative.

Originally Posted by latisha313

So I think that if I were whiter i would have somethng that would make me stand out and people will take notice especially men.

It might make you stand out in your neighborhood or school, but if you still felt about yourself the same way, eventually it wouldn't be a big deal. You think every white woman has high self esteem? Hardly.

You're way too hung up on your skin shade. Your skin shade ultimately doesn't matter. Your personality, whatever it is, will come through, and that's what people will ultimately use to determine whether they like being around you or not.

Also, remember that it's often a numbers game. Sometimes, certain people or certain groups of people just aren't feeling you. That's okay, that's going to happen. Find people who do like you. They're out there! You just haven't met them yet, but you will, if you look for them. Don't be down on yourself all the time; nobody wants to be around a person who's always on a self-pity trip, because it makes them feel bad. If you really want things in your life to change, you have to be the one to change them, Latisha; nobody else can change your life for you.

I'm not mad at ya; I think that deep down you're a sweet young lady and all you want is to love and be loved. There's nothing wrong with that at all. But you have to take responsibility for your part in that; it's not just a one-way street where Latisha gets all the love and doesn't have to do anything to earn it.

The only person stopping your progress is you, hon. Stop getting in your own way. Stop sabotaging your happiness with negative thinking.

[Nyela]

WELL SAID SCHOOLOFSOUL...WELL SAID

I wasn't going to comment further in this thread but something came to mind when I read that you felt if you were "whiter" not lighter but "whiter", things would be different.

I thought about those words and realized one thing, you truly have a sickness. I'm sure your background has a lot to do with it, but this inferiority complex you possess is going to kill you, your hopes, your dreams and your future. Until you grasp a strong sense of self empowerment and become your own advocate you will lose in every game you play. The game of life, the game of love and the game of success.

I don't know what you're going to college to study. But whatever it is, African American History or AA studies is a great elective for all people...Especially those milk and dark chocolate individuals who don't know where they come from, who they are or where they're going.

So the choice is yours. But for me, failure is not an option.

[DBlack]

True indeed. We don't do self hate here. One thing that is always constant here is self-love.....black love.