Question of the Day

[workdawg61]

Ok we AC peeps we have got to get to talking up on here-now I've been back a week and look everybody is reading but nobody is truly letting the creative juices flow when it comes to writing-is this what has become of the AC since I've been gone I at least hope I'm sadly mistaken-so here I will start up each day a Question of the day-today it's a simple one....

Has anyone every been so much in love that it made your heart race, you couldn't wait to be in that person's presence? And now some years later you can't stand that person-how can you love some one so strong and then later on you can't even spend 5 minutes in their presence-that's the question of the day-lets here some input

Tony

[Sumyr]

I agree Afro Chat has slowed a bit from the days of multiple posts. I must point the finger at myself as well as others as I don't post new topics as much as I use to. I haven't posted a new poem in about 5-6 months. I have written several, but just haven't posted any.

But this "lack of community posting" came about long before a week ago as you mentioned. I noticed a decline when the site went under re-construction. After this reconstruction period, I noticed some of its more frequent members have seemed to vanished (or hardly post at all anymore)......JamesfromPhilly, Robbboy, and others. Even one of the moderators have vanished as well.....Saraphen, or maybe we just don't post to the same threads anymore. I miss her insightful and wise knowledge she would share with us. I adjusted to the change and hung around as I like the atmosphere here and the way the moderators run a tight ship. Some of the newbies that post frequently have been on vacation or traveling.......read a post by Celeste that she had just gotten back into town. She was one who often posted great daily posts. But truthfully, most are probably like me - so busy this time of year with very little time for business or personal commitments, let alone Afro Chat.

To answer your question though, yes, I have loved/hated a time or two as the old adage is true: There's a thin line between love and hate.

I can think of a couple of guys I "detest" (hate is such a strong word) right now that I once loved. I recently married what I (well we) believe is my soul mate. I hope I never (we never) grow to hate (or detest) one another.

[matrixone05]

Originally Posted by workdawg61

Has anyone every been so much in love that it made your heart race, you couldn't wait to be in that person's presence? And now some years later you can't stand that person-how can you love some one so strong and then later on you can't even spend 5 minutes in their presence-that's the question of the day-lets here some input

So much so that when you took a breath, you felt that person...YES! Never want to lay eyes on him again...YES. Unfortunately, I married him and I learned that everything I believed about him since I was 13 (thirty + years) was a lie. All I can say is 10 years of marriage and 2 more trying to get out of it has completely eroded a love that I once thought was beyond description.

[Corals]

Originally Posted by workdawg61

Has anyone every been so much in love that it made your heart race, you couldn't wait to be in that person's presence? And now some years later you can't stand that person-how can you love some one so strong and then later on you can't even spend 5 minutes in their presence-that's the question of the day-lets here some input

Tony

Most of what you are feeling at present is resentment, but give it a few months and once that resentment, or some of it, has disolved, you won't feel so bad about that person.

[Dieneba]

Sometimes there is a person who seems to be unaccessible for you.You just know that person from a far distence and it seems that no metter what you do you can´t get closer to that somebody on a more personal level.You love that somebody from all your heart-most times.But in a way you are so sensetive and you expect such a greatness that you easy get disappointed and your love turns into (some kind)of hate-maybe it is more rage than that.It is like for three month or something you adore that person,venerate that person and than suddenly you disdain the person for maybe about some days,two days,three days,one or some weeks because of- considering it objective-a bagatelle until at a moment´s notice it´s like you see the full beatuy of your love again.More beauty than you´ve ever seen.Think you see the whole devinity of your love.And that happens all before you really get in touch with your adored love.

[Chinky]

Yes, my last ex and I often talked about being together forever. He was truly my life. I felt like i couldnt breathe without him...and I didnt want to. At the time, I think we both truly believed we would last. After the breakup, I realized I overlooked alot of things. In my mind, I created this image of what he was based on what I wanted him to be. What a rude awakening. Now, the very sight of him makes me cringe. But i am not sure if I am as angry at him as I am with myself for all that I allowed.

[Samoon]

Originally Posted by Sumyr

I agree Afro Chat has slowed a bit from the days of multiple posts. I must point the finger at myself as well as others as I don't post new topics as much as I use to. I haven't posted a new poem in about 5-6 months. I have written several, but just haven't posted any.

But this "lack of community posting" came about long before a week ago as you mentioned. I noticed a decline when the site went under re-construction. After this reconstruction period, I noticed some of its more frequent members have seemed to vanished (or hardly post at all anymore)......JamesfromPhilly, Robbboy, and others. Even one of the moderators have vanished as well.....Saraphen, or maybe we just don't post to the same threads anymore. I miss her insightful and wise knowledge she would share with us. I adjusted to the change and hung around as I like the atmosphere here and the way the moderators run a tight ship. Some of the newbies that post frequently have been on vacation or traveling.......read a post by Celeste that she had just gotten back into town. She was one who often posted great daily posts. But truthfully, most are probably like me - so busy this time of year with very little time for business or personal commitments, let alone Afro Chat.

To answer your question though, yes, I have loved/hated a time or two as the old adage is true: There's a thin line between love and hate.

I can think of a couple of guys I "detest" (hate is such a strong word) right now that I once loved. I recently married what I (well we) believe is my soul mate. I hope I never (we never) grow to hate (or detest) one another.

I agree, Sumyr. I miss my "regular" peeps/posters on here as well. And you are correct, for example, individuals such as PhillyJames, Saraphen, Baba, Black Voter etc. are one of the reasons that I continue on...their posts are so insightful. I hope that those "MIA" return.

[Terminal Server]

I'm new here in the forum and I just started looking around at the dates of the posts and it does appear to be a lull here. Am I wrong....? Some boards are very dynamic but this one appears to not be very active. This has not always been the case has it? Just curious.....

[Samoon]

No, this has not always been the case. As Sumyr stated, there are other members here that would post on the regular--perhaps they are on hiatus, vacations, whatever. However, I do agree with you. One of the turns on the AC that I have noted as of late are the postings...many of them are "redundant" in that we ARE aware of the psycho-social-economic-political-familial problems that we as face in the Black diaspora, yet I feel that not enough "solutions" are being followed by the stated problems. We all have constructive and pro-active solutions to offer I'm sure. I'm sure that the board will pick up again at some point.

[MadameX]

Originally Posted by Samoon

No, this has not always been the case. As Sumyr stated, there are other members here that would post on the regular--perhaps they are on hiatus, vacations, whatever. However, I do agree with you. One of the turns on the AC that I have noted as of late are the postings...many of them are "redundant" in that we ARE aware of the psycho-social-economic-political-familial problems that we as face in the Black diaspora, yet I feel that not enough "solutions" are being followed by the stated problems. We all have constructive and pro-active solutions to offer I'm sure. I'm sure that the board will pick up again at some point.

Agreed. All good things take time.