Love on a two way street

[workdawg61]

Ok Tony (aka Workdawg) is back-here is my second question for my peeps on the AC

People always talk about breaking up-why hasn't anyone ever sat down and truly wrote a book on staying together-through cheating, heartache, lonely nights seriously would a book of this really have any value-inquiring minds want to hear your thoughts-Seriously does anyone have the answer to Al
Green's song "LETS STAY TOGETHER"

[Diva810]

Actually, Angela Bassett and her husband Courtney B. Vance did just write a book about sticking it out and making it work. They started out as friends, got married many years later and just had twins through surrogacy. Check it out. It looks cool. It's called Friends" A Love Story.

[Chinky]

Do ppl truly bounce back from that (cheating, heartache, betrayal)?

[Sumyr]

I just read on another site a story true to the testament of the Bible love conquering all and turning the other cheek. The documentary is called "Crazy Love." It is a severly extreme case - the guy cheats on his wife with a secretary. Secretary finds out he is married and later gets engaged to another man. The guy can't live without her so he stalks her, hires someone to beat her, and lastly hires someone to throw lye on her. The lye badly disfigures her - one eye lost, the other is blind. Fiance leaves her after she was in the hospital for 3 months. He goes to jail for 14 years and writes/calls her everyday. She refuses letters/calls. He gets out, they meet, they meet again, they marry 5 months later and have been together since 1974. This story and the couple who is 80 now appeared on Larry King last night.

To answer your question, I think it would be helpful if a book like this existed but the people it would help the most probably wouldn't read it.

[matrixone05]

Originally Posted by Chinky

Do ppl truly bounce back from that (cheating, heartache, betrayal)?

You bounce back if both sides choose to. One side has to choose to forgive, the other has to choose to do right. It's not easy, but yes, it is very possible.

We all make choices and we all make mistakes. The question for any person in a relationship to determine is if the mistake, that was made by the other, was a one time or perpetual thing. A list of pros and cons of what you get or don't get out of a relationship should be made prior to walking away. If the positives outweigh the negative, then its probably worth fighting to save. If not...

[Corals]

Originally Posted by matrixone05

We all make choices and we all make mistakes. The question for any person in a relationship to determine is if the mistake, that was made by the other, was a one time or perpetual thing. A list of pros and cons of what you get or don't get out of a relationship should be made prior to walking away. If the positives outweigh the negative, then its probably worth fighting to save. If not...

I agree with you because some people are too quick to throw their hands into the air and call it a day without fully questioning or thinking deeply on what has caused the differences. Sometimes these differences can be easily resolved if worked on; but the work is what many cannot be bothered with, instead they prefer to walk away, and walk into another relationship only to be confronted with the same problems, and the sequence is continually repeated.

[matrixone05]

You definitely took that to the next step. Everyone owes it their future partner to not only take time and clean out the closet and toss the baggage but to take the time to look in the mirror and make adustments.