The Ultimate Relationship

[Corals]

Originally Posted by matrixone05

My daughter's godparents are both in their early 50's. They have been together since they were 15 and have been married 26 years. I look at them in awe. They have grown to a point where they wake up every morning and start their day in prayer. They pray together as a couple and as a family. They have matured and grown together in every aspect of their lives.

My son's godparents met when both were out of college and begining their professional careers. Sadly, he had a major heart attack and died suddenly 2 years ago. They were married 18 years when he died. They started a successful multimillion dollar company together and ran it as a team. Their marriage was also a true partnership. She is getting better and stronger daily, but the loss she has endured is apparent.

I have other friends that have similar stories of marriages like this. They are all black, so ultimate relationships are alive and well in our world too. We'll be using you as an example as well soon, I'm sure.

That is very heartwarming.

What was also very heartwarming was see a couple who most likely was in their 80's in the sea bathing together whilst I was on holiday.

If you had seen this Black couple you would have thought they were young teenagers who had just fallen in love. They were kissing and what not, and couldn't keep they hands off each other.

That is the kind of love that is the ultimate relationship; even though you are old and grey, the love you had when you were young and strong still remains strong. Bless them.

[Capn Birdseye]

I find the idea of an "ultimate relationship" an almost impossible concept to comprehend? And what is the point of trying to define it?

[matrixone05]

Originally Posted by Capn Birdseye

I find the idea of an "ultimate relationship" an almost impossible concept to comprehend? And what is the point of trying to define it?

Ahhh, but life allows one the luxury of dreams, of setting goals and believing in things that can be. Things that can grow and evolve with time.

The point is not to define it, but to strive for it. To understand that relationships like anything else should be a growth process. The point is to be self reflective to understand yourself enough to know what you seek in a relationship so that you don't settle for the one that is not right for you or to settle for mediocrisy in the relationship you have now.

[Corals]

Originally Posted by matrixone05

Ahhh, but life allows one the luxury of dreams, of setting goals and believing in things that can be. Things that can grow and evolve with time.

The point is not to define it, but to strive for it. To understand that relationships like anything else should be a growth process. The point is to be self reflective to understand yourself enough to know what you seek in a relationship so that you don't settle for the one that is not right for you or to settle for mediocrisy in the relationship you have now.

Excellent, and may I add, that those qualities you are seeking in another, make sure you yourself possess them.

[matrixone05]

Originally Posted by Corals

Excellent, and may I add, that those qualities you are seeking in another, make sure you yourself possess them.

I'm working on it.

[matrixone05]

Addendum:

My ultimate relationship would be with someone that is willing to share all that they are, not just all that they have. My love is not for sale nor will it be bartered for material things.

[Samoon]

Originally Posted by Sumyr

The ultimate relationship for me would be where not even the restraints of death could part you, where you believe even after death your souls will remain connected and you will meet on the otherside to live out eternity.

I know of only one couple that believed this way, and they are/were white, not that this matters. His wife had passed on, but she use to tell him before she died they would meet on the other side and he always believed this......some 20 years after her death. He said he has met many a ladies and most are befitting, but none could ever take her place so he's never indulged in another woman since her death - no romantic flings or even close friendships. I would often ask him why he didn't like this one or why he didn't like that one as she seemed really nice and his wife had been gone for a while. He state, "I like them just fine, but I love my wife and we will meet on the other side." I never questioned him again about this. And this has stuck with me through out the years.

The way he always spoke of her......I tell you if most men would worship their women who are alive the way he did and his wife was dead.........its love at its finest, or the ultimate relationship!

Well stated! It IS enough...even beyond the physical life form. Thanks for sharing.

[JABOOM]

The Ultimate Relationship for me would be to have some one that loves herself before she comes to love me.
She has to be happy with herself before anything else because if you jump into a relationship trying to be happy you'll only be misrable later on.

I just need some one that is happy before they come to me because I'm happy with myself. I we are both happy then come together in happiness then we be together in bliss.

Oh yeah she can't be some dumb "body" A body is nice and all but I would love for her to have a beautiful mind running the whole package.

[Baba Ahmed]

Originally Posted by matrixone05

I've been conversing with someone about the different things we want that would define our ultimate relationship. I posed this question and summation to them.

Now that is a high that words can't describe. Unselfishness at its best, producing pleasure beyond description.
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Often an answer is in the question(er). However I'd have to know what is an "ultimate relationship." I'll try though; a relationship, of unified goals, with my people inside my house and everywhere else Afrikans meet.

All the other stuff relates to that.