What to do with Auntie? - AfroChat - African American

Capn Birdseye · April 30th, 2007, 09:53 AM

Need some advice. What do you do if your aunt comes on to you? Let me briefly explain. My mums sister is much younger than she is, she apparently was a surprise baby!
Anyway I've noticed in recent times that she has started getting very friendly towards me especially when my mum wasn't around. As she lives near by she visits us quite often. The other week when I was sitting alone she came in, sat on the sofa real close to me and started putting her arm around me saying how much she liked me. She was wearing some real sexy clothes and whilst I found it flatering I also found it a bit disturbing.
Nothing happened but I felt that it easily could of done had I wanted it to. She's asked me over to her place next Saturday.

DBlack · April 30th, 2007, 10:09 AM

My Aunt's are really nice to me too; because they are my family.

Babydoll · April 30th, 2007, 04:14 PM

Is this a relative you are talking about?

Because if so...that's inappropriate, to put it mildly.

Samoon · April 30th, 2007, 07:09 PM

"...She's asked me over to her place next Saturday."

"Don't."

No matter how "flattering" she was, her behavior needs to be "checked" NOW. What does her behavior say about her character? Does she get out often? Perhaps she is lonely (I don't know of her situation so I'm just guessing here) and wants male companionship. Are you both in the same age group? If so, maybe you can intro her to some of your single, male friends? At any rate, "kissin' cousins" er..."auntie"/nephew may not go over too well in the eyes of your family. Good luck and let us know the outcome!

MadameX · April 30th, 2007, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Samoon

"...She's asked me over to her place next Saturday."

"Don't."

I agree. And besides, Incest is not only gross and freaky but a sin. Sista Samoon, We don't want the Brotha to be inspired to write an incest song like Prince did supposedly about his relative called Sister.

DBlack · May 1st, 2007, 07:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Capn Birdseye

Need some advice. What do you do if your aunt comes on to you? Let me briefly explain. My mums sister is much younger than she is, she apparently was a surprise baby!
Anyway I've noticed in recent times that she has started getting very friendly towards me especially when my mum wasn't around. As she lives near by she visits us quite often. The other week when I was sitting alone she came in, sat on the sofa real close to me and started putting her arm around me saying how much she liked me. She was wearing some real sexy clothes and whilst I found it flatering I also found it a bit disturbing.
Nothing happened but I felt that it easily could of done had I wanted it to. She's asked me over to her place next Saturday.

Sounds to me that you are the one sexually attracted to her....

But if you feel strongly about your err...feelings, you should go to your folks and tell them.

Muze · May 1st, 2007, 09:28 AM

wow. your aunt? that's a bit much. why didn't you just tell her she was being inappropriate and making you feel uncomfortable? you should have stopped that in its tracks.

DymondGurl · May 1st, 2007, 10:20 AM

Did you just say you were flattered. Ill you should have been disgusted. Im pretty sure she resembles your mom and to me that in it self should have turned you completly off.Tell me this cap, Why did you alllow her to behave liek this towards you? How come you did not call her out about what she was trying to insue?

Capn Birdseye · May 1st, 2007, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by DymondGurl

Did you just say you were flattered. Ill you should have been disgusted. Im pretty sure she resembles your mom and to me that in it self should have turned you completly off.Tell me this cap, Why did you alllow her to behave liek this towards you? How come you did not call her out about what she was trying to insue?

Probably flattered isn't the word but I wasn't disgusted either. I took it as a bit of light-hearted playing around, nothing serious, but I have to admit I do find her attractive. I know from my mum that shes had a lot of problems over the recent years and the last thing I want to do is cause more. She seems lonely and spends a lot of time over at our place. I feel sorry for her. To answer a question raised, she doesn't look like my mum, she's much younger, and has never had children or been married. I don't think she's even got a boy-friend.

Muze · May 1st, 2007, 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Capn Birdseye

Probably flattered isn't the word but I wasn't disgusted either. I took it as a bit of light-hearted playing around, nothing serious, but I have to admit I do find her attractive. I know from my mum that shes had a lot of problems over the recent years and the last thing I want to do is cause more. She seems lonely and spends a lot of time over at our place. I feel sorry for her. To answer a question raised, she doesn't look like my mum, she's much younger, and has never had children or been married. I don't think she's even got a boy-friend.

uck. i'm with Dblack....maybe you're the one who likes her. you can acknowledge someone is pretty....but to find her attractive, as in being attracted to her, is kinda disgusting. i think my brother is a very handsome young man...but i could never be attracted to him. wow. maybe you should talk to her about her supposed flirtation and tell her that it makes you uncomfortable.....if it does. lol.