Relationship Issues - AfroChat - African American

MissDD138 · April 24th, 2007, 05:53 PM

why is it when you catch them ( I say them cause both men & women can do this) but right now I'm talking about men, you catch them in a lie or you notice changes in their behavior and you simply ask them what is going on? You don't act like you used to, you don't call like you used to, when I call you your words for me a few and far between. why is it that I feel like I'm throwing myself at your feet and you're like what ever. Damn that!!!

So why when I ask whats going on, you say I'm naggin, or being argumentative how??!!!

you know I would like to be in a relationship, I know there are good and bad times but I think I was much happier single

DymondGurl · April 24th, 2007, 06:17 PM

When you speak on there wrong doings be it big or small your nagging. And you definaitly can't do it back to them. The more you show them you care is the more they do it. So I say you do you and they will start to get bothered because your not around to be concered(not nagging) about them. They do what you allow them to so ignore them and watch him come talkign about baby I miss you.

MissDD138 · April 24th, 2007, 07:14 PM

Yeah I agree , my problem is I always want an answer, like I need confirmation or closure or something, but I'm gonna get a grip and it will be ok.

thanks

DymondGurl · April 24th, 2007, 07:17 PM

Im the same way with my man. When I am the concered and loving girlfriend he says im nagging. When i don't call him and hang out with the gurls or just at home he calls and comes to see me because as he says he misses me. The more attention you give them the more there gonna act a fool. Go do you and see if he doesn't call more.

afrocentric · April 24th, 2007, 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by MissDD138

why is it when you catch them ( I say them cause both men & women can do this) but right now I'm talking about men, you catch them in a lie or you notice changes in their behavior and you simply ask them what is going on? You don't act like you used to, you don't call like you used to, when I call you your words for me a few and far between. why is it that I feel like I'm throwing myself at your feet and you're like what ever. Damn that!!!

So why when I ask whats going on, you say I'm naggin, or being argumentative how??!!!

you know I would like to be in a relationship, I know there are good and bad times but I think I was much happier single

Been there done that.

I agree with D . Let him come crawling to you. He knows he'll will miss a good thing once you're gone.