Physical Attributes -vs- Inner Substance What Really Matters To You

[Moe17]

I would like a guy to be physically attractive (in my own eyes)...as well as possess the same interests, style and characteristics that I can relate to him with. I have dated guys who people thought were so ugly or so fine. As long as he keeps himself up really well, has a nice style, attitude and not a 'tubby' I am good to go. Adionis are always talking to me and I dont mind dating one, its just that some of them are BORING AS HELL or dont have the same interests as me.
Both matters to me, and I am VERY stubborn...If he is not what I am looking for (adonis or not) then ADIOS!!!

[Mr Gumbo]

Of course physical attributes matter but as I got older not as much as the inner. Now don't get me wrong because it still is very high up on the list because I still got to be attracted to you phsically but after that what else you got. I've had some of the finest women IMO walking this earth but were so ugly as hezll on the inside and it showed. During younger times the uglyness never mattered lol but it does now. My wife is not a dime but she is very beautiful but she's a 15 on the inside.

[robbboy2003]

My wife is the light to my darkness. I'm just as happy to awaken next to her each day,as to make love and sleep with her: and how i like to do that!

Putting the superficial looks aside, my journey partner is the strongest,smartest,and most vibrant person i know,besides being the sexiest.

She's spiritually and emotionally up on it. I am what you are supposed to be after about twenty-five years of togetherness. I'm all caught up; twisted and head and body sprung,if you will. I can do a love list,but ya'll feeling my point.

Peace!

[Moe17]

Originally Posted by Mr Gumbo

Of course physical attributes matter but as I got older not as much as the inner. Now don't get me wrong because it still is very high up on the list because I still got to be attracted to you phsically but after that what else you got. I've had some of the finest women IMO walking this earth but were so ugly as hezll on the inside and it showed. During younger times the uglyness never mattered lol but it does now. My wife is not a dime but she is very beautiful but she's a 15 on the inside.

Originally Posted by robbboy2003

My wife is the light to my darkness. I'm just as happy to awaken next to her each day,as to make love and sleep with her: and how i like to do that!

Putting the superficial looks aside, my journey partner is the strongest,smartest,and most vibrant person i know,besides being the sexiest.

She's spiritually and emotionally up on it. I am what you are supposed to be after about twenty-five years of togetherness. I'm all caught up; twisted and head and body sprung,if you will. I can do a love list,but ya'll feeling my point.

Peace!

Now, that is love. *tears of joy*

[rekh]

htp (peace)

Physical Attributes to GET my attention

Inner Substance to KEEP my attention

[Its Ok 2 B Quiet]

Originally Posted by Samoon

I am committed to someone, but initially there should some physical attraction followed by assessing one's character, etc. But on the whole, substance does work for me. For there are many that lack character.

I agree with you Samoon. Initially there is physical attraction that makes you want to take it one step further and get to know that person. That's the deal breaker.

[UglymanCometh]

physical attributes do little for me at the end of the day.

if you have no inner substance, then you're an empty shell of a person.

[StJohn1726]

Just being real about it...

The outer person has always attracted me, while the inner person helped me determine whether to stick around or not.

In the end, inner substance is most important for the success of the relationship, but they've always been from a pool of women I found physically attractive to begin with.

My wife has become my best friend because we connect on so many levels, but the fact that she's never been hard to look at ain't a bad thing either, especially since I've never been the overly jealous type.

[mlc0908]

I go for those with inner beauty and substance. I see a physically attractive person and while they're nice to look at, my eyes cant take me past that point. An intellectual, kind hearted, mature, loving caring person is the one I'll choose over the handsome model with the rock hard abs every time. Finding the two combined is like striking oil....BLACK GOLD- pun intended!

[MadameX]

Originally Posted by rekh

htp (peace)

Physical Attributes to GET my attention

Inner Substance to KEEP my attention

Preach! And Vica Versa! Nothing is more important than someone who can not only make love to your body but to your mind as well. Talk about a perfect combination, it don't get no better. I can dig that.