Where are the single men? - AfroChat - African American

February 9th, 2007, 11:43 AM

Where are the single men?

By Élisabeth Alexandre

"They're taken..."
"They're afraid of commitment..."
"They're all gay..."
"Those who are available are damaged goods. That's why no woman would take them..."

Are there any single men left out there? To hear many women talk, it would seem that society is sharply divided in two. On one side, you find an abundance of single women; on the other, the few-and-far-between single men, a rare and endangered species if ever there was one.

To solve this demographic mystery, we tried to figure out scientifically the profile of a typical single man. Using stats published by a reputable survey company, we compile our findings here for you.

First finding: single men are young
Numbers are indisputable: between the age of 20 and 24, 83.3% of men are not in a relationship, compared to 67.4% of women. Physiologically more mature than men their age, women often throw themselves in the arms of older men. When they reach the age of 35, men tend to choose younger women. The imbalance between women's and men's singlehood grows to the disadvantage of women until it reaches dramatic proportions: after 60, 50% of women are alone, compared to only 21% of men. Yes, we outlive them—but on our own!

Second finding: single men are poor
Here again, numbers are indisputable: there are more single men than women among minimum- and low-wage earners. According to sociologist Jean-Paul Kaufmann, "the association of poverty with loneliness is stronger among men, while the correlation between social achievements and autonomy is usually found among women. Therefore, single men are in higher numbers at the bottom of the economic scale, while single women are more frequent at the top of the scale."

Third finding: single men are short
Every sociological study shows that women want to be with men who are taller than them, with an ideal average difference of 4 inches. It can be deduced, therefore, that the smaller a man is, the higher are his chances of being single.

LadyDivine · February 9th, 2007, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by seminoleBACP

Where are the single men?

By Élisabeth Alexandre

"They're taken..."
"They're afraid of commitment..."
"They're all gay..."
"Those who are available are damaged goods. That's why no woman would take them..."

Are there any single men left out there? To hear many women talk, it would seem that society is sharply divided in two. On one side, you find an abundance of single women; on the other, the few-and-far-between single men, a rare and endangered species if ever there was one.

To solve this demographic mystery, we tried to figure out scientifically the profile of a typical single man. Using stats published by a reputable survey company, we compile our findings here for you.

First finding: single men are young
Numbers are indisputable: between the age of 20 and 24, 83.3% of men are not in a relationship, compared to 67.4% of women. Physiologically more mature than men their age, women often throw themselves in the arms of older men. When they reach the age of 35, men tend to choose younger women. The imbalance between women's and men's singlehood grows to the disadvantage of women until it reaches dramatic proportions: after 60, 50% of women are alone, compared to only 21% of men. Yes, we outlive them—but on our own!

Second finding: single men are poor
Here again, numbers are indisputable: there are more single men than women among minimum- and low-wage earners. According to sociologist Jean-Paul Kaufmann, "the association of poverty with loneliness is stronger among men, while the correlation between social achievements and autonomy is usually found among women. Therefore, single men are in higher numbers at the bottom of the economic scale, while single women are more frequent at the top of the scale."

Third finding: single men are short
Every sociological study shows that women want to be with men who are taller than them, with an ideal average difference of 4 inches. It can be deduced, therefore, that the smaller a man is, the higher are his chances of being single.

If you are looking for an older, taller brother with a high paying job I guess you are out of luck.......but If you are looking for a Good Loving, Christian, shorter, younger brother with a good blue collar job you may find what you are looking for in a man.

jamesfrmphilly · February 9th, 2007, 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by seminoleBACP

Physiologically more mature than men their age, women often throw themselves in the arms of older men.

say, what?

poeticasylum1 · February 20th, 2007, 01:33 AM

The truth is... everyone can find somebody. Statistics are misleading. Every man has to obtain some level of status if they want to be considered as a "catch". Income has some but not the end all be all. Its about a man being sure of himself. A man has to have a gameplan. Those include goals, interests, a healthy sense of humor and backup plans. Its chess not checkers. You have make adustments, set standards and follow principles. If a woman is not digging you, then you just move on. A man who walks in dominion power spiritually speaking, will never lack the confidence or interest of women. They are drawn to it. Also dont be afraid to put yourself out there. Women like men who are not afraid of rejection and walk about with an air of security about them. Most men who are alone...choose to be.

MissDD138 · February 20th, 2007, 11:21 AM

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Originally Posted by LadyDivine

If you are looking for an older, taller brother with a high paying job I guess you are out of luck.......but If you are looking for a Good Loving, Christian, shorter, younger brother with a good blue collar job you may find what you are looking for in a man.

FOUND ONE (HE FOUND ME ACTUALLY) & I'M HOLDING ON TO HIM TIGHT & FOREVER :)

trinigirl · February 20th, 2007, 12:09 PM

In the Qu'ran the man is told to please God first and God will in turn make the woman pleased with him.
I am married and know A LOT of eligible SINGLE, XTREMELY SUCCESSFUL, INTELLIGENT, black men.!!!!
One thing i have noticed is that they will PLAY with women as long as they get the opportunity to, But they too are looking. Sometimes, the unfortunate thing is that, they also see their ideal as a married/ committed woman.
Have we become so paranoid into thinking that we are the ultimate catch as Independent Black Women not needing any man to do anything for us that we fail to see and meet our man's needs. I KNOW that we can't meet all of his needs all of the time, and he ours. But if we are willing to go back to basics and find our real roles we (IBW-intelligent sisters) will see the many single brothers who may still be the gold/ diamond in the rough.
I have continually reiterated to audiences that women are "gold-diggers"!
WE DIG for the GOLD that is buried deep within that brother that one would not see initially. But sisters if we are patient we WILL be able to make/ support a man into his greatest and truest potential.
If we believe that the black man is the original man and thereby believe they are God's and we Godesses then even if they are not manifesting that right now...be patient it will soon come. Soon Come.

Just my 2cents
Peace

UglymanCometh · February 22nd, 2007, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by poeticasylum1

The truth is... everyone can find somebody.

Wrong.

But nice try.

DBlack · February 22nd, 2007, 02:15 PM

With over 300million people in Amerikkka, I just don't understand how anyone can say that they can't find anyone. That's just not possible. There are reasons why people 'can't find someone'.

UglymanCometh · February 22nd, 2007, 02:18 PM

300 million people, 300 million different personalities, 300 million different desires and qualifications.

Yeah, it's VERY possible.

LadyDivine · February 22nd, 2007, 04:02 PM

Ya know I been tryna answer this thread for weeks...
I have typed all sorts of elaborate answers only to erase them and say...NAWH!!! I ain't gon' touch dis.

I almost find it embarassing to say.
I have never had a problem meeting BLACK men..neva.
I meet them, befriend them, love them and leave them, but I have neva had a problem attracting male attention. I hear sisters say this all the time and it has always baffled me. I ain't Halle Berry or anything so I know it ain't my looks. I am a minister of the gospel so I dress sorta conservative.

I ain't a bible thumper either.....I keep it real.

I 'ont know what it is. I am tryna figure it out myself.